If you’ve ever sat on the edge of your bed thinking, is this it, or felt that weird itch under your skin that whispers you’re ready for something else, something more, then this episode will feel like someone finally turned the big light on.
Today I’m joined by the brilliant Jillian Reilly, author of Ten Permissions, social change expert, former good girl, lifelong explorer, and the woman who has basically written the handbook on what it takes for us, especially women with experience, to shift from waiting for approval to giving ourselves the green light.
Why we wait.
Why we shrink.
Why we chase gold stars.
Why we tie ourselves in knots trying to look good rather than feel good.
And more importantly, how we unpick all of it.
Jillian talks about the stories we’re imprinted with, the ones we never wrote, the rules we never agreed to, and the unconscious bias baked into every choice we think we’re making freely.
She explains why purpose is not a single North Star, why winging it might be the most grown woman thing you can do, and why micro-permissions may be the secret ingredient we’ve all missed.
We talk about the girls who get all the A’s and still walk into the world feeling unprepared. We talk about why “finding yourself” is about changing your environment, doing the tiny experiments, and noticing what sparks.
This episode is a permission slip disguised as a conversation.
A pocket of truth for every woman in her plot twist era.
A reminder that you and only you get to decide how you live, lead, love, explore, step forward, slow down, stretch, or start again.
And then, the Six-Word Memoir. The moment I always wait for.
Jillian lands it beautifully:
"She gave herself permission to explore."
Imagine if you did the same today. Imagine what would open. Imagine how you would feel.
In this episode you'll hear:
• The baked-in stories that keep women playing safe
• From seeking permission to self-permission
• The danger of chasing approval instead of authority
• Why purpose evolves with every chapter of your life
• How small acts of exploration rewire confidence
• Why feeling good should guide your goals
• The rituals women need to interrupt the old narratives
• Why we must move from consuming to creating
• How curiosity and courage unlock the next version of you
If you’re a woman with experience, running a business or leading a team while holding up everyone else’s sky, and you’re ready to back yourself, find your fire and crack on with your next chapter, come into the world of FoundHer Fire. The details are always in the show notes. The kettle is always on.
And you can buy Jillian's book from all major booksellers - it's called Ten Permissions.
Tuck this one in your pocket.
You’re not done yet.
Huge thank you to Birkdale Insurance Group for sponsoring this episode. Birkdale is a people first business with a powerhouse of talented
Sarah is the founder of FoundHer Fire—a membership space for experienced women in business who know real success isn’t just about strategy, it’s about self; a place, a space, a community where women find their fire, for women who aren't done yet and who are ready to write their own rules of success. Sarah also co-founded The Plot Twist (un)Awards, celebrating female founders and women smashing through glass ceilings with purpose, passion and joy.
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