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  • S3 E16 - Families Coping with Mental Illness with Amanda LaPera
    2026/05/12

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    Season 3, Episode 16, Topic: Families Coping with Mental Illness with Amanda LaPera

    Amanda LaPera is a National Award-Winning Author and Teacher who served for 10 years on the Board of Directors for the National Alliance on Mental Illness, Orange County affiliate. She’s currently writing her tenth book. Her critically acclaimed debut memoir, “LOSING DAD, Paranoid Schizophrenia: A Family’s Search for Hope,” won an IBPA silver award in psychology, was a finalist for a Readers’ Favorite Award and a quarter finalist for the Publishers Weekly BookLife Prize. Her sequel, “FINDING DAD, Paranoid Schizophrenia: An End to the Search,” was selected as a finalist for the IAN Book of the Year awards. Learn more about Amanda and her books at: https://www.amandalapera.com/

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    54 分
  • S3 E15 - Intergenerational Trauma with Dr. Leah Hollon
    2026/04/30

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    “It Matters How We Treat One Another” is the social science show - now in its third season! Here, host Matthew David Vasko discusses all the various ways that we can improve our relationships with others - partners, children, parents, extended family, friends, coworkers, and all the different types of people with whom we share our beautiful and diverse world. Features include Inspiring News and The Quote of the Week. Find our premium content on our Patreon, including The Takeaway.

    Season 3, Episode 15, Topic: Intergenerational Trauma with Dr. Leah Hollon

    Dr. Leah Hollon is a naturopathic physician, educator, and expert in holistic medicine, epigenetics, and lineage healing. She is a multiple award-winning author whose work integrates science and compassion to help individuals address deep health challenges rooted in intergenerational and transgenerational trauma. Learn more about Dr. Hollon and her book "Unwinding the Imprints of Disease" at: https://drleahhollon.com/

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    57 分
  • S3 E14 - Self-Regulation with Dr. Ashley Anne
    2026/04/16

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    Season 3, Episode 14, Topic: Self-Regulation with Dr. Ashley Anne

    Ashley Anne, PhD. is a trauma specialist, neurocounselor, educator, TEDx speaker, and founder of the Gravity Point® Institute. Through her books and trainings, she hopes to empower folks to resolve their stress and trauma to heal themselves, so together we can heal the world. Learn more about Ashley and her work at: https://www.gravitypointinstitute.com/

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  • S3 E13 - Tools & Techniques for Keeping Hope Alive
    2026/03/31

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    “It Matters How We Treat One Another” is the social science show - now in its third season! Here, host Matthew David Vasko discusses all the various ways that we can improve our relationships with others - partners, children, parents, extended family, friends, coworkers, and all the different types of people with whom we share our beautiful and diverse world. Features include Inspiring News and The Quote of the Week. Find our premium content on our Patreon, including The Takeaway.

    Season 3, Episode 13, Topic: Tools & Techniques for Keeping Hope Alive

    This episode is dedicated to hope, and more specifically the many things we all can do to help keep hope alive for the sake of our own wellbeing.

    QUICK TIPS FROM THIS EPISODE:

    Core Definitions

    • Optimism: A temperament-based expectation that things will work out; fragile under sustained adversity

    • Hope (Snyder): The intersection of goals, perceived pathways, and personal agency; does not require certainty

    • Active Hope (Joanna Macy): Hope as a practice, not a feeling — chosen and cultivated regardless of circumstance

    • Radical Hope (Jonathan Lear): Hope directed toward a good that cannot yet be fully imagined or articulated

    • The Stockdale Paradox (Jim Collins): Holding two truths simultaneously — unflinching honesty about difficulty + unshakeable conviction that you will prevail

    The Six Practical Tools

    1. Curate your information diet — protect your hope reservoir

    1. Pursue micro-wins — restore your sense of agency

    2. The Stockdale Practice — hold both truths at once

    3. Radical presence + the Best Possible Self exercise (Laura King) — rebuild the mental architecture of hope

    4. Use the “yet” factor — refuse finality in your self-talk

    5. Choose connection — hope is contagious and is rarely a solo project

    Listener Challenge

    Carry out one act of connection or bridge-building before the next episode: a real conversation, a volunteer hour, a letter, or a moment of genuine curiosity with someone whose life looks different from yours.

    Suggested Further Reading

    Radical Hope: Ethics in the Face of Cultural Devastation — Jonathan Lear (Harvard University Press)

    Active Hope: How to Face the Mess We’re In Without Going Crazy — Joanna Macy & Chris Johnstone

    Hope in the Dark — Rebecca Solnit

    Good to Great — Jim Collins (Stockdale Paradox chapter)

    The Psychology of Hope — Charles R. Snyder

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    37 分
  • S3 E12 - Coping with Overwhelm
    2026/02/24

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    Season 3, Episode 12, Guest: Erin Wiley, Topic: Coping with Overwhelm.

    Erin Wiley MA, LPCC. Her therapy clients describe Erin as friendly, upbeat, motivational, supportive, and a strategic & creative problem solver. Erin’s therapy style is energetic, caring, solution-focused, straightforward, and research-based. Erin earned her Master’s degree in Mental Health Counseling from Bowling Green State University. Before founding The Willow Center, Erin worked as a therapist in a group private practice in Sylvania, Ohio.

    Erin’s dream to create The Willow Center started even before she began graduate school. Recognizing the ways in which therapy had been instrumental in positively changing the lives of people around her, as well as her own life, she envisioned a therapy center where clients of all ages could partner with the best clinicians in the area to create the kind of change they want in their lives.

    Erin has extensive experience counseling men and women, teenagers, married couples, and families. She has experience with the LGBTQ community, and has specific training in couples’ counseling; she is also trained in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, and EMDR (a therapy technique that helps clients resolve issues and negative beliefs from their past that may be holding them back today). Her goal as a therapist is to train, support, and empower her clients, despite difficulties and limitations, to live their best life.

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    56 分
  • S3 E11 - From Overwhelm to Action
    2026/02/13

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    “It Matters How We Treat One Another” is the social science show - now in its third season! Here, host Matthew David Vasko discusses all the various ways that we can improve our relationships with others - partners, children, parents, extended family, friends, coworkers, and all the different types of people with whom we share our beautiful and diverse world. Features include Inspiring News and The Quote of the Week. Find our premium content on our Patreon, including The Takeaway.

    Season 3, Episode 11, Topic: From Overwhelm to Action. Moving ourselves from a sense of overwhelm with all that is happening in the world to taking action to create positive change where we can.

    Cited Resources:

    The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey — Circle of Concern and Circle of Influence

    https://www.idealist.org/ — Find local volunteer opportunities near you

    Your local city council, school board, and neighborhood council websites

    https://5calls.org/ — Find your representatives, get scripts, and make your five calls this week

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    22 分
  • S3 E10 - Is the U.S. on a Path to Genocide?
    2026/01/26

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    Season 3, Episode 10, Guest: Elisa von Joeden-Forgey, Topic: Is the U.S. on the Path to Genocide?

    Elisa von Joeden-Forgey is Executive Director of the Lemkin Institute for Genocide Prevention. She was formerly the Endowed Chair in Holocaust and Genocide Studies at Keene State College, where she designed, founded, and directed the Master’s Program in Genocide Prevention and Human Security. Before that, she was the Dr. Marsha Raticoff Grossman Associate Professor of Holocaust and Genocide Studies at Stockton University in New Jersey, where she also directed the master’s program in Holocaust and Genocide Studies and founded the world’s first academic, graduate-level Genocide Prevention Certificate Program.

    Website: https://www.lemkininstitute.com/

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  • S3 E9 - Deepening Relationships
    2026/01/22
    Thank you to our sponsor, Audible. Get your free month of Audible Premium Plus at https://www.audibletrial.com/VxVNWj Use this link to get 10% off in our merch store: https://itmattersmerch.etsy.com?coupon=ITMATTERS10“It Matters How We Treat One Another” is the social science show - now in its third season! Here, host Matthew David Vasko discusses all the various ways that we can improve our relationships with others - partners, children, parents, extended family, friends, coworkers, and all the different types of people with whom we share our beautiful and diverse world. Features include Inspiring News and The Quote of the Week. Find our premium content on our Patreon, including The Takeaway. Season 3, Episode 9, Topic: Deepening RelationshipsIn this episode, Matthew does a deep dive into deepening relationships. He shares a variety of science-based strategies for increasing connection, decreasing loneliness, and performing acts of kindness, which are proven to increase happiness. Key Research LinksHere are the direct links to the studies mentioned in our Feature Segment:1. Harvard Study of Adult DevelopmentOfficial website: https://www.adultdevelopmentstudy.orgDr. Robert Waldinger's TED Talk "What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness": https://www.ted.com/talks/robert_waldinger_the_secret_to_a_happy_life_lessons_from_8_decades_of_researchHarvard Gazette article on the study: https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2017/04/over-nearly-80-years-harvard-study-has-been-showing-how-to-live-a-healthy-and-happy-life/2. Holt-Lunstad Meta-Analysis on Social Relationships and MortalityFull study (open access): https://journals.plos.org/plosmedicine/article?id=10.1371/journal.pmed.1000316PubMed link: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/20668659/3. Shelly Gable's Research on Active-Constructive RespondingKey article: Gable, S. L., Reis, H. T., Impett, E. A., & Asher, E. R. (2004). "What do you do when things go right? The intrapersonal and interpersonal benefits of sharing positive events." Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 87(2), 228-245.Dr. Gable's faculty page: https://www.psych.ucsb.edu/people/faculty/gableEducational overview: https://positivepsychology.com/active-constructive-communication/4. Sonja Lyubomirsky's Research on Kindness and HappinessDr. Lyubomirsky's research page: https://sonjalyubomirsky.com/Her faculty profile with publications: https://lyubomirsky.socialpsychology.org/Key article: Lyubomirsky, S., Sheldon, K. M., & Schkade, D. (2005). "Pursuing happiness: The architecture of sustainable change." Review of General Psychology, 9, 111-131.Resources for Additional LearningIf you'd like to dive deeper into these topics, here are some excellent resources:Books:"The Good Life: Lessons from the World's Longest Scientific Study of Happiness" by Robert Waldinger and Marc Schulz"Social: Why Our Brains Are Wired to Connect" by Matthew Lieberman"The How of Happiness" by Sonja Lyubomirsky"Happy Money: The Science of Happier Spending" by Elizabeth Dunn and Michael NortonKey Research:The Harvard Study of Adult Development website features Dr. Robert Waldinger's popular TED Talk "What Makes a Good Life"Holt-Lunstad and colleagues' meta-analysis on social relationships and mortality, published in PLOS Medicine in 2010Shelly Gable's research on active-constructive responding in the Journal of Personality and Social PsychologySonja Lyubomirsky's work on the architecture of sustainable happiness in the Review of General PsychologyOnline Resources:Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley offers free, science-based practices at greatergood.berkeley.eduThe Random Acts of Kindness Foundation provides inspiration and ideas at randomactsofkindness.orgShow links: Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/ItMattersHowWeTreatOneAnother/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ItMattersHowWeTreatOneAnother/Etsy: https://www.etsy.com/shop/ItMattersMerch Patreon: http://patreon.com/ItMattersPatronsPodcast website: https://it-matters.captivate.fm/Host Matthew David Vasko’s website: https://matthewvasko.com/Intro/Outro/Interstitial music by Z19: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvfnVgE2H20vJQN4Yl7gbtA“It Matters How We Treat One Another” is a production of Meta Key Productions, all rights reserved. If you or someone you know is considering suicide, please call 988 for the National Suicide and Crisis Lifeline (in the United States). The information shared on this show is meant for general educational purposes only. Please consult with a licensed professional before making any life-altering decisions. Listener/viewer assumes all responsibility for any actions taken as a result of consuming this content. Any application of suggestions made on this show is taken at the listener/viewer's sole risk.
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