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Why did my good stretch fall apart? Was I faking it the whole time?

No. Today I'm telling you about the weekend I lost it. Months of steady progress, a wedding I attended alone, and an unblocked phone number days later. Nothing dramatic happened. That's exactly the point.

Part 3 of a 3-part series.

We cover:

• Why finding Holy Spirit Led Self and staying in Self are two different skills
• The five P's of IFS: presence, perspective, patience, persistence, playfulness
• The step I skipped for years which turned my healing into another full time job

Which of the five is missing for you right now? What's one small step you can take in that direction this week?

Mentioned: Boundaries for Your Soul by Alison Cook and Kimberly Miller

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Why can't I be kind to myself? Is that me talking, or is that a part of me?

For most of my adult life I thought the loudest voice in my head was me. It wasn't. And I only found out because my coach kept stopping me mid-sentence to say that's a part.

Part 2 of a 3-part series.

We cover:

• What "blended" means, and the moment I realized my entire life had been run by parts I couldn't see
• Why your Holy Spirit Led Self isn't something you build. It's already there, and it was never damaged
• What Holy Spirit Led Self vs blended actually feels like in the body
• The eight qualities of Self (the list of C's in IFS partswork)

Which of the eight is hardest to bring to yourself? Email me which one!

Mentioned: Boundaries for Your Soul by Alison Cook and Kimberly Miller

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There's a part of me that still misses him. Why can't I make her stop?

Because fighting her was never going to work. Today I'm teaching you a completely different approach and walking through all six steps out loud with my own real part, so you can hear what it actually sounds like.

This is part 1 of a 3-part series.

We cover:

• IFS 101 for the woman who's never heard of this: Self, protectors, and the wounded parts underneath
• The guardrail: accepting and loving a part is not condoning what she wants
• The six F's of IFS: Find, Focus, Flesh out, Feel toward, Befriend, Fear

Ready to walk through all six steps? I'd love to help! Schedule your call with me and we'll find your part, hear what she wants to tell you, and show her some love instead of fighting.

Mentioned: Boundaries for Your Soul by Alison Cook and Kimberly Miller

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How do I trust myself again when I stopped believing my own judgment a long time ago?

Today’s guest felt the warning. More than one. And she talked herself out of every single one, until it cost her nearly everything.

Chel Cartmill is a Next Chapter Transition Specialist and a Certified Trauma-Informed Master Coach who has been walking people through divorce, grief, and broken relationships since 2007. She’s the founder of Reclaim, a Christ-centered healing program, and the author of the memoir Spider on My Neck.

We explore:

• Why your body sends warnings before your mind has words for them and what happens when you keep overriding them
• How “be the good person” and “don’t judge” got confused with discernment, and the slow loss of a voice
• Why people-pleasing and peacemaking are actually about control and what that costs over years
• How to rebuild self-trust
• A warning of using Scripture to cover grief, sadness and anger instead of moving through them

Connect with Chel: 📖 Spider on My Neck: available on Amazon and Barnes & Noble 🌐 www.chelcartmill.com

Email me and tell me what resonated! I read every one myself and I write back personally.

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I gave him my phone code. I share my location. I tell him where I'm going before he asks. So why does he still look at me like that?

Today I'm telling you the truth about what you can actually control when it comes to rebuilding trust and why the thing you're building is worth it, when it doesn't produce the result you want.

I walk through my own list of everything I did, and the honest part: he said the words "I trust you," and I never felt it.

We explore:

• Why you can do everything right and he still may not trust you, and why that isn't your failure
• Trustworthiness is yours. Trust is his. Two completely different things
• The trap of being trustworthy only toward him, and why integrity has to be with everyone
• The question that replaced "does he trust me?"
• How your body tells you when you're out of alignment
• The real reason to keep going when the outcome isn't guaranteed

Your one step: stop measuring whether he trusts you. Start measuring whether you're being trustworthy in front of God, not in front of him.

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Ever thought, "How long is this supposed to take? Why am I still not okay? Is something wrong with me?"

Nobody gives you a timeline. So today I'm giving you an honest one. It's longer than you want to hear, but I give you something at the end that actually helps.

I share the full range of women I work with right now: one who ended things last week, and one who ended it twenty years ago. Two completely different timelines but the same healing journey.

And I tell you about my own journey, including the part that isn't flattering.

We explore:

• Breaking no contact after the one-year mark, and what it looks like for me now coming up on four years
• What nobody warns you about year two
• The mindset shift as time passes: stop surviving what happened, start building a life too good to risk
• What actually makes recovery shorter and why decisiveness and forward motion are the biggest variables you control

Email me and tell me where you are on your own timeline! One week out? Six months? Twenty years? I read every one and I write back personally 💙

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I'm home, and I promised I'd tell you what happened last weekend.

A group of women walked into a beach house in Florida for the Encounter Retreat and left completely different. Today I'm telling you what God did in that room, what shifted in the women, and the thing He said to me on the beach that I can't stop thinking about.

We cover:

• Nervous systems before content, phones down, feet on the floor
• How every woman carried a stranger's story all weekend with grace
• What actually shifted: women cutting contact, a marriage recommitted to, women intentionally walking into singleness with God, and every one of them using her story to encourage someone else
• My own silent question on the beach and the answer God gave me

God is speaking to you. Are you listening? You didn't need to be in that beach house for that to be true.

Email me and tell me what stirred! I read every one.

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Why doesn't anything I try stick? I've made the decision a hundred times. I've prayed about it. So why am I still here?

I just got home from the Encounter Retreat, and I'm changing what I planned to record today because every single breakthrough in that beach house happened in the same order, and I want to tell you about it.

Safety in the body and the room IS the work.

We explore:

• Presence, regulation, and co-regulation before vulnerability
• Be, Do, Have, and why I tried to cut contact for years with a plan when what I needed was an identity
• How God does this too. Taking care of your body is part of your design

The order: body → identity → decisions → vision.

Be honest about which level you're on, and do the thing for that level. Not sure what that is? Let's talk!

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