In this week’s episode of A Styled Life, we go deep into the connection between imposter syndrome, identity, confidence and personal style, and why so many trailblazing women feel a disconnect between who they are and how they dress.

I’m joined by Confidence Therapist and working-mum champion Gemma Holmes, also known as The Peer Coach. Gemma specialises in helping overstretched women release anxiety, dismantle identity-level self-doubt, and build real embodied confidence, not the “fake it till you make it” kind.

Together, we explore:

• Why imposter syndrome is an identity issue, not a skills issue
• How clothes can unintentionally fuel self-doubt
• How motherhood reshapes the way we see our bodies, our confidence and our style
• Why “costume dressing” keeps women stuck and disconnected
• How comfort, confidence and authenticity work together, not against each other
• Why showing up as your whole self is a nervous-system decision, not a fashion one
• How to rebuild your style after motherhood, identity shifts or big life transitions
  

Gemma also shares her personal journey, from shrinking herself in male-dominated environments to reconnecting with her body after motherhood…and the jumpsuit epiphany that changed how she dresses forever.

This is an episode for any woman who has ever felt “too much”, “not enough”, or “almost herself” when she gets dressed.

Episode Highlights

• 00:00 — Why Imposter Syndrome Shows Up in Your Wardrobe
• 01:18 — Dressing to Shrink, Hide, or Blend In
• 02:55 — Losing Your Style in Leadership Roles
• 03:58 — Motherhood, Body Appreciation & Reclaiming Identity
• 05:23 — Why Dressing Like Someone Else Fuels Imposter Syndrome
• 09:17 — Visibility, Safety & Why Women Hold Back
• 16:52 — Too Bold, Too Feminine, Too Much?
• 24:11 — How Practical Seasons (Like Breastfeeding) Shape Identity
• 30:24 — Comfort vs. Confidence vs. Casual
• 33:31 — Personal Brand vs. Authentic Self
• 41:09 — When You Don’t Feel Like Yourself Anymore
• 46:33 — Letting Go of Old Stories to Embrace Who You Are Now
• 49:27 — Resources to Support Working Mums & Confidence
  

Book A Free Style Strategy Call:

https://www.alexandrastandley.co.uk/service-page/style-strategy-call

The free Confidence Playbook for Working Mums:

https://gemmaholmes.co.uk/the-confidence-playbook-for-working-mums/

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https://www.instagram.com/thepeercoach

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