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How do you support a youth athlete without becoming their coach, manager, problem-solver, and protector all at once?

Former professional hockey coach Alex Stein joins Mariel Anderson for a powerful conversation about sports parenting, youth athlete development, mental performance, resilience, independence, and the parent-athlete relationship.

Drawing from Alex’s 26 years coaching professional hockey across eight countries, they unpack the Triple E Framework: Environment, Enable, Empower — a simple approach parents can use to help young athletes grow both in sport and in life.

They explore how parents can create a safe and supportive home environment, set healthy boundaries around sleep and phones, help athletes navigate difficult conversations with coaches, respond to playing-time frustrations, build personal responsibility, and learn to solve problems without Mom or Dad immediately stepping in.

The conversation also tackles one of the biggest issues in youth sports: parent behaviour at practices and games. Alex and Mariel discuss coaching from the stands, yelling at referees, the car ride home, athlete versus spectator mindset, and why sometimes the best thing a parent can do is simply let their kid play.

Alex even shares a memorable lesson in sports parenting from watching Wayne Gretzky and Janet Jones Gretzky quietly support their child at a hockey camp.

If you are raising a competitive or elite youth athlete and wondering how much to help, when to step in, when to step back, and how to protect your relationship with your child along the way, this episode is for you.

Show Notes

In this episode, Mariel and Alex discuss:

• The Triple E Framework: Environment, Enable, Empower
• Why parenting an athlete can feel like a sport of its own
• Creating a psychologically safe home for youth athletes
• Why boundaries can actually help children feel safer
• Sleep, phones, screen time, social media, and young athletes
• Co-creating boundaries instead of simply imposing rules
• Why mistakes are an essential part of athlete development
• How parents can teach athletes to advocate for themselves
• What to do when your child is unhappy with their playing time
• How to prepare an athlete to speak directly with their coach
• Using role play to practise difficult conversations
• When parents should step in and advocate for their child
• Helping athletes pack their own equipment, food, and game-day necessities
• Building independence and personal responsibility through sport
• Why rescuing kids from every mistake can interfere with resilience
• How parent behaviour affects athletes during games
• Why yelling instructions from the stands usually doesn’t help
• The difference between the athlete mindset and spectator mindset
• What parents should — and shouldn’t — do on the car ride home
• A simple post-game question: “What do you need from me?”
• Referee abuse and why youth sports parents need to reconsider their role
• How parent behaviour can affect recruiting opportunities
• Alex’s story about watching Wayne Gretzky and Janet Jones Gretzky parent from the sidelines
• Asking your athlete for honest feedback about how you show up at their games
• How supporting independence today can create stronger, more confident adults tomorrow

For parents of youth athletes, coaches, competitive athletes, hockey families, and anyone involved in youth sports development, this conversation offers practical tools for raising resilient, confident, self-reliant athletes without losing the parent-child relationship along the way.

To follow or work with Alex Stein, find him here:
https://www.carpecoaching.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alex-stein-coach/

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