Episode 19:

Does your child ignore you when you talk? The real reason this happens and what to do about it!

In this episode of Sensory Solutions for Parents, we're exploring one of the most common concerns parents have: "Why won't my child listen?" You might be surprised to learn that what looks like ignoring or defiance is often related to how a child's developing brain and nervous system process information—not simply a choice to misbehave.

As a pediatric occupational therapist, I'll explain how sensory processing, attention, emotional regulation, and your child's environment all affect their ability to hear, process, and follow directions. You'll walk away with practical, evidence-based strategies you can start using today to reduce power struggles, improve communication, and help your child respond with greater success.

• Why listening is much more than simply hearing your voice.
• How sensory processing and nervous system regulation affect your child's ability to follow directions.
• Why children often seem to "ignore" parents when they're overwhelmed, tired, or deeply focused on play.
• The difference between defiance and a brain that needs more time to process.
• Five simple, sensory-friendly strategies to help your child listen without repeating yourself over and over.

The next time your child doesn't respond right away, pause before repeating yourself. Ask yourself:

"What might be making it hard for them to listen right now?"

That small shift in perspective can help you respond with more patience, connection, and confidence—and often leads to better cooperation.

Remember: When we understand what's happening beneath the behavior, we can respond with connection, confidence, and strategies that truly help.

Step 1: Join our free Facebook community and connect with other parents who are learning to understand behavior through a sensory and nervous system lens.

Step 2: This week, spend a few moments looking for one small sign of growth in your child…and YOU! Growth is often happening even when progress feels slow.

💛 Related Episodes:

Episode 10: Struggling with Your Child's Intense Meltdowns? What's Really Happening and What to Do in the Moment

Episode 13: Why Your Toddler Falls Apart After Daycare (And What to Do About It!)

Episode 14: Does Everything Turn into a Battle with Your Child? Why Power Struggles Happen (and What to Do Instead)

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DISCLAIMER

This podcast, Sensory Solutions for Parents, is intended for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, occupational therapy, or other professional advice.

The host is a licensed occupational therapist; however, the information shared in this podcast is general in nature and may not apply to your specific child or situation. Listening to this podcast does not establish a therapist-client relationship between you and Alison Foura, PhD, OTR/L. Any strategies, ideas, or suggestions shared are offered as general support for parents and caregivers and should be used at your own discretion, with consideration for your child’s individual needs and your family’s values.

Always seek the guidance of your child’s pediatrician, occupational therapist, or other qualified healthcare provider with any questions you may have regarding your child’s development, behavior, or health.

This podcast may also include personal experiences and, at times, faith-based perspectives. These are shared as part of Alison’s personal and professional lens and are not intended to replace individualized care or professional guidance.