In this episode of the I Am Self-ish podcast, host Will Wright explores the dynamics of compassion, validation, and the importance of setting boundaries in both relationships and personal life.

He examines how the energy we bring into our acts of service often determines whether we feel fulfilled or drained, and how easily empathy can turn into emotional exhaustion when it lacks boundaries.

Will breaks down Level Four Energy as the space where we finally feel like we are making a difference, but also where the need for validation can quietly take over. He explains that sometimes the reason we give so much isn’t just because we care, but because we want to feel seen or valued in return. When love depends on validation, service starts to cost us more than it gives.

The conversation invites listeners to notice the difference between caring and controlling, and how creating boundaries doesn’t push people away—it protects the heart behind your empathy. True compassion inspires, but compassion without boundaries leads to burnout. Love without limits eventually breaks the person who’s always giving it.

This episode is a reminder that self-care is not selfish. It’s how we sustain our ability to love, serve, and connect with others without losing ourselves in the process.

Memorable insights:“Sometimes the reason you give so much isn’t just because you care.”“When your love depends on validation, your service starts to cost you.”“Boundaries that you create aren’t rejections—they are respect.”“You are tired because you haven’t learned where caring ends and control begins.”

Produced and Edited by Will WrightHost | Certified Life Coach & Stress Management CoachCreator of the I AM SELF-ISH™ Method

📱 646-645-1509

📧 will@iamself-ish.com

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Less Stress, More Choice.

Episode 44 – Better After Baby – I Am Self-ish Podcast

Welcome back to the I AM SELF-ISH™ Podcast—your space to explore the connection between mindset, emotion, and personal growth. I’m your host, Will Wright, certified life coach and stress management expert, here to help you redefine what it means to put yourself first.

Each week, I sit down with thought leaders, change-makers, and everyday people doing extraordinary inner work. Together, we explore the real stories, lessons, and energy shifts that move us from fear and obligation to passion and choice.

In this episode, I’m joined by Tori Whitaker, founder of Better After Baby and a motherhood identity coach helping moms rediscover their strength, confidence, and sense of self at every phase postpartum. Together, we explore how motherhood transforms every aspect of life—and how rediscovery doesn’t mean losing yourself, but coming home to who you are now.

Tori shares her journey from collegiate gymnast and top-performing Equinox trainer to single mom and entrepreneur, blending her real-life experience with proven fitness, mindset, and nutrition strategies. The conversation highlights the power of community, the importance of self-care, and how redefining what “better” means after having children opens the door to true empowerment.

Will and Tori also unpack the mindset shifts that help mothers move beyond survival mode, the myth of “balance,” and how boundaries and vulnerability can deepen connection both at home and within ourselves. Together, they reframe motherhood as an evolution—not a limitation—and remind listeners that self-care is not selfish, it’s essential.

Tori shares her philosophy of AND, not OR, teaching moms they don’t have to choose between motherhood and personal fulfillment. Her approach focuses on building customized systems that fit each woman’s unique life and goals—because motherhood isn’t one-size-fits-all. With honesty and heart, she encourages every mother to embrace abundance, authenticity, and the belief that they can truly be better after baby.

Memorable insights:“Failure is not an option—the simple but profound line that got me through the rebuild, one day at a time.”
“Stick to the plan, not your mood. Habit formation is simple, not easy—but your mood will keep you stagnant.”
“You don’t have to choose between being a mom and being yourself. You can be both. Abundance over here.”

Connect with Tori WhitakerFitness, Nutrition & Mindset Coach | CEO, Better After Baby

📧 torikwhit@gmail.com

📲 203-610-7885

🌐 bebetterafterbaby.com

📸 Instagram: @torikwhit

💼 Facebook & LinkedIn: Tori Whitaker

Better After Baby, Not Instead of Being a Mom.”
Produced and Edited by Will WrightHost | Certified Life Coach & Stress Management CoachCreator of the I AM SELF-ISH™ Method

📱 646-645-1509

📧 will@iamself-ish.com

🌐 iamself-ish.com

💼 LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/selfish-will

📸 Instagram: @selfish.will

Less stress, more choice.

Episode 42 – When I Cry – I Am Self-ish Podcast

In this episode of the I Am Self-ish podcast, host Will Wright explores the significance of crying as a powerful emotional release and a profound form of healing. He reminds listeners that crying is not a sign of weakness but a reflection of strength—an honest connection to our truest selves that allows for emotional clarity and peace.

Will shares personal insights on how tears have helped him process emotions he couldn’t always put into words, revealing how each tear carries a message of relief, truth, and renewal. Crying, he explains, is both spiritual and cleansing—a natural part of being human that restores balance and reconnects us to what matters most.

This episode is an invitation to see crying as a reset button for the soul. It’s emotional hygiene that clears away clutter, teaches compassion, and deepens self-acceptance. Will closes with a powerful reminder that vulnerability is courage, not shame—and that allowing yourself to cry is one of the most authentic expressions of growth and freedom.

Memorable insights:“Crying is not weakness—it’s proof that you still care.”“Every tear carries a message of truth and release.”“Vulnerability isn’t something to hide; it’s how we heal.”

Connect with Will WrightHost | Certified Life Coach & Stress Management CoachCreator of the I AM SELF-ISH™ Method

📱 646-645-1509📧 will@iamself-ish.com

🌐 iamself-ish.com

💼 LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/selfish-will

📸 Instagram: @selfish.will