What does it mean to objectify yourself? Sam Jolman explains objectification, why and how we objectify ourselves, and what healing and repentance can look like.

Sam Jolman (MA, LPC) is a trauma therapist with over twenty years of experience specializing in men’s issues and sexual trauma recovery. His writing flows out of this unique opportunity to help people know and heal their stories, and find greater sexual wholeness and aliveness. He received his master’s in counseling from Reformed Theological Seminary and was further trained in Narrative Focused Trauma Care through the Allender Center at The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology. Sam lives in Colorado with his wife and three sons. Fun fact: Sam and Drew attend the same church! Learn more at samjolman.com

Buy Sam's book: The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality

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Listen to Sam's first Husband Material interview: It's Good To Be Aroused (with Sam Jolman)

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What is problematic sexual behavior (PSB)? Bill Herring, creator of the PSB Framework, explains the history behind this important concept—and how it can help men outgrowing porn.

Bill Herring (LCSW, CSAT) is a psychotherapist who has influenced the development of sex addiction theory and practice over the past 30 years. In 2019, Bill received the annual "Carnes Award" from the Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health (SASH) for his overall contributions to the field of problematic sexual behavior.

Read Bill's summary of PSB: https://www.billherring.com/problematic-sexual-behavior-framework-summary

Watch Bill's 11-minute video: https://youtu.be/1NZCr-5dyjM?si=L74h9wulfDff_Map

Learn more and connect with Bill at billherring.com

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What is enmeshment? How and why does mother enmeshment set men up to struggle with porn? In this episode, you'll learn ten sexual symptoms of enmeshment and how to outgrow it.

Resources mentioned in this episode (including paid links):

• Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners, by Ken Adams (book)
• When He's Married To Mom: How to Help Mother-Enmeshed Men Open Their Hearts to True Love and Commitment, by Ken Adams (book)
• Healing With My Parents (the podcast episode where I interviewed my parents, Yvonne and Sandy Boa, about healing as a family)

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Hear Ken Freire's story of healing from childhood sexual abuse, achieving lasting freedom from porn, and finding joy and purpose in Christ.

Ken Freire owns Scriptures.blog and hosts the Shame(less) Podcast. Ken has been helping Christian men break free from addiction and reclaim their purpose for the last 15 years. Through his own journey of overcoming abuse, shame, and embracing God’s grace, he aims to equip others with biblical wisdom and practical tools for lasting transformation. He's been married for 13 years and has 4 beautiful children. Ken has a Master’s in Divinity from Regent University, is a Full Focus Certified Pro, and a Prepare & Enrich Facilitator.

Connect with Ken:

• Podcast: beshameless.org
• Website: scriptures.blog
• Instagram: instagram.com/kenfreire
• Linkedin: linkedin.com/in/kenfreire/

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What determines marital satisfaction more than sex or money? What if "compromise" actually makes things worse? How do you create a marriage you love? Sheila Wray Gregoire unpacks the results of her latest research with thousands of married couples, calling out harmful evangelical teachings and sharing a surprising new data on what it takes to build the marriage you want.

Buy Sheila's new book: The Marriage You Want: Moving beyond Stereotypes for a Relationship Built on Scripture, New Data, and Emotional Health

Sheila Wray Gregoire is the face behind BareMarriage.com as well
as a sought-after speaker and award-winning author of nine books. With her humorous, no-nonsense approach, Sheila is passionate about changing
the evangelical conversation about sex and marriage to make it healthy,
evidence-based, and biblical. She and her husband, Keith, live in Ontario,
Canada.

Learn more at BareMarriage.com.

More books by Sheila Wray Gregoire (paid links):

• The Marriage You Want
• The Good Guy's Guide To Great Sex
• The Good Girl's Guide To Great Sex
• The Great Sex Rescue
• She Deserves Better

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What's your plan for outgrowing porn? The Five Circles tool will help you define what freedom looks like, why it matters, and how to set yourself up for success.

Download the Five Circles Of Freedom worksheet at husbandmaterial.com/freedom

Mentioned in this episode:

• Tools For Healing: The Three Circles (blog)
• Staci Sprout (creator of the Five Circles Model)
• How To Reframe A Porn Relapse (podcast episode)
• Unwanted, by Jay Stringer (book; paid link)
• The Five Circles Of Freedom (worksheet)

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How can men protect women instead of complying with sexism and abuse? Dr. Andrew Bauman shares the results of his research with over 2,800 Christian women, and what men need to hear in order to advocate for change in our churches and communities.

Dr. Andrew J. Bauman is the founder and director of the Christian Counseling Center: For Sexual Health & Trauma (CCC) and has served as a mental health counselor. Also formerly a pastor, Andrew now works with men and women to bring healing and wholeness to their sexual and spiritual lives.

Buy Andrew's books (paid links):

• Safe Church
• How Not To Be An *SS
• The Sexually Healthy Man
• The Psychology Of Porn
• Stumbling Toward Wholeness

Learn more about Andrew's 4-day men's workshops here.

Connect with Andrew at andrewjbauman.com.

Also mentioned in this episode:

• Dr. Christy Bauman
• Dr. Diane Langberg
• GRACE: Godly Response to Abuse in the Christian Environment

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Am I abusive? How can I acknowledge the truth without beating myself up? What makes a good and safe man? Dr. Andrew Bauman explains two ways to be abusive, the difference between humility and self-hatred, and how to express clean anger and fight fair.

Dr. Andrew J. Bauman is the founder and director of the Christian Counseling Center: For Sexual Health & Trauma (CCC) and has served as a mental health counselor. Also formerly a pastor, Andrew now works with men and women to bring healing and wholeness to their sexual and spiritual lives.

Buy Andrew's books (paid links):

• Safe Church
• How Not To Be An *SS
• The Sexually Healthy Man
• The Psychology Of Porn
• Stumbling Toward Wholeness

Learn more about Andrew's 4-day men's workshops here.

Connect with Andrew at andrewjbauman.com.

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