People pleasing, perfectionism and codependence, oh my! Are you exhausted from constantly managing the people around you and performing for safety? If so, this is the episode you need if you want to stop looking outward for validation and actually feel safe being yourself.

Beatriz Victoria Albina is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, Master Somatic Coach, and the author of the bestselling book End Emotional Outsourcing. She has worked with humans socialized as women looking to regulate their nervous systems and rewire their minds, and brings deep insight into untangling codependency, perfectionism and people pleasing.

In this episode, Jay and Bea discuss:
► What "emotional outsourcing" really means and how it's a shame-free replacement term for codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits.
► The sneaky mixed nervous system state of "functional freeze," where you might look like an impressive, highly productive overachiever on the outside but are totally frozen to your feelings on the inside.
► Why you need to stop viewing these behaviors as individual character flaws and start celebrating them as the brilliant childhood survival skills they once were.
► How performing for self-worth and living in a constant state of panic might literally be messing with your poop and digestion (because science!).
► The game-changing difference between being self-aware and being self-referential, plus a sweet little somatic grounding practice to help you reconnect with the earth.

Learn more about Beatriz Victoria Albina
► Website: https://beatrizalbina.com/
► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp
► YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@beavictoriaalbina
► Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/feminist-wellness/id1454980022
► End Emotional Outsourcing Book: https://bookshop.org/p/books/end-emotional-outsourcing-how-to-overcome-your-codependent-perfectionist-and-people-pleasing-habits-beatriz-victoria-albina-np-mph-sep/54b675f3d3e5154a?ean=9781538766439&next=t

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