Making friends as an adult shouldn't be this hard... but somehow it is.

In this episode of WTF Just Happened? Life Is Messy, Let's Talk About It, Sada and Hilary dive into one of the most common struggles women face in midlife: finding meaningful friendships after 40.

Whether you've moved to a new city, gone through a divorce, lost a spouse, become an empty nester, changed careers, or simply drifted apart from old friends, building new relationships as an adult can feel surprisingly lonely.

Why does making friends seem so effortless when we're kids, but so complicated in our 40s and 50s?

💛 In this honest, funny, and heartfelt conversation, we explore:

✦ Why friendship breakups can hurt as much as romantic breakups

✦ The reality of loneliness after moving to a new city

✦ Making friends after divorce, widowhood, and major life transitions

✦ How social media, Facebook groups, and community events can help you meet new people

✦ Why adult friendships require vulnerability and effort

✦ What happens when friendships drift apart or no longer fit your season of life

✦ How to put yourself out there when you're an introvert

✦ Why friendship rejection feels so personal—and why it usually isn't

✦ The surprising ways our own friendship group came together

💛 Sada shares her experiences rebuilding community after moving from California to Idaho and navigating friendship after the loss of her husband, Kris.

💛 Hilary opens up about moving, friendship breakups, divorce, and the challenges of finding genuine connection later in life.

Together, they share the lessons they've learned about finding your tribe, cultivating meaningful relationships, and creating community in midlife.

If you've ever found yourself wondering...

✦ How do I make friends after 40?

✦ Why is it so hard to meet people as an adult?

✦ Will I ever find my people?

This episode is for you.

Because the truth is...

Some of the most important friendships of your life may still be waiting for you. 💛

🔗 Connect With Us

🎙 Podcast: @wtf.lifeismessy
💛 Hilary: @its.hilarybrophy
💛 Sada: @simplysadajames

If you’re moving through grief, a midlife shift, healing, or simply feeling stuck in the in-between, Sada offers RISE — an intimate 8-week mentorship experience designed to help women feel supported, understood, connected, and less alone. It’s a space for anyone craving real community, honest conversation, clarity, and a softer landing place through life’s harder seasons.

We love you for being here. Subscribe, share, and stay messy with us. 💛

⚠️ Disclaimer

This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views shared are based on personal experience and do not constitute medical, legal, financial, or professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional regarding your individual situation. Guest opinions are their own and do not necessarily reflect the views of the hosts or this podcast. Any products mentioned are not sponsored unless explicitly stated.