Your nervous system holds the key to healing attachment wounds — and this episode shows you how. Licensed therapist and bestselling author Jessica Baum (Anxiously Attached, Safe) joins Erin to break down why attachment patterns live in your body, not just your mind, and what it actually takes to heal them.

In this episode, you'll learn how to:

• Stop the anxiety loop by understanding where attachment wounds are stored somatically in your body

• Break free from the "I'm just anxiously attached" label trap with the Wheel of Attachment

• Use co-regulation to build the self-regulation your nervous system never learned as a child

• Recognize intergenerational trauma patterns without blaming your parents

• Move past brain fog, chronic reactivity, and high-functioning anxiety through somatic healing

• Find (or become) an "anchoring nervous system" — even without a therapist

Timestamps:

01:30 – Meet Jessica Baum: attachment expert, LMHC, and bestselling author

02:30 – What is the book "Safe" about? Nervous system regulation meets attachment science

05:00 – The Wheel of Attachment: why you're not just one attachment style

08:00 – Why we crave labels — and why attachment is more nuanced than TikTok says

13:00 – Somatic exercises for healing: felt sense, free meditations, and slowing down

16:00 – Why reading "Safe" might activate your body — and that's the point

19:00 – The power of relational, somatic writing (and Jessica's mentor Bonnie Badenoch)

25:00 – Co-regulation explained: how sharing nervous systems builds security

31:00 – "It's a process" — healing attachment wounds isn't 3 steps, and that's okay

38:00 – You don't need a therapist to heal — but you do need a safe nervous system

About the Guest: Jessica Baum, LMHC, is the founder of the Relationship Institute of Palm Beach, creator of the Be Selfull Method, and bestselling author of Anxiously Attached and Safe. She is a leading voice in attachment healing, interpersonal neurobiology, and trauma-informed therapy. Follow her @jessicabaumlmhc on Instagram. Her newest Book SAFE at her website at https://jessicabaumlmhc.com/

About the Host:

Erin is a therapist, EMDR practitioner, mom, and creator of the Mind Circuit App (formerly known as Ease) — a simple nervous system reset tool with short, evidence-based somatic practices including Bilateral Stimulation (BLS) for anxiety, overwhelm, and stress. Download free on Apple App Store or Google Play.

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