Talking about oral sex makes Jay-Jay wildly uncomfortable… which is exactly why this episode had to happen.

In this lesson of How To Have Sex, Jay-Jay Feeney and sex & relationship coach Melissa Vranjes get very practical about what makes oral sex actually feel good for everyone. This is not about porn moves, performance, or trying to “get it right.” It’s about confidence, communication, anatomy, connection, and learning how to give pleasure in a way that feels good for you too.

Melissa breaks down what “world-class head” really means, why so many people feel pressure around oral sex, and the biggest lies porn has taught us about blowjobs and going down on women. The episode covers hand techniques, oral techniques, sore jaw and lockjaw hacks, how to ask for what you want without dying inside, and why slowing down is often the fastest path to better sex.

You’ll also hear:

• why oral sex feels so vulnerable
• how to stop focusing on performance
• blowjob tips and hand techniques
• oral sex tips for pleasuring a vulva
• why anatomy creates confidence
• how to communicate during sex without killing the mood
• the importance of rhythm, teasing and anticipation
• why pleasure should be about connection, not pressure
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And of course, Melissa gives Jay-Jay, and you, a new Pleasure Practice for the week: how to give head in a way that feels good for you as well.

Next episode: How to Dirty Talk (Without Dying of Embarrassment).

This podcast is proudly sponsored by Wild Secrets.

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Pleasure Delivered.

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HOSTS:

Jay-Jay Feeney – Media Personality

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Melissa Vranjes – Certified Somatic Sex & Relationship Coach

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Instagram: @melissavranjes

Ready to feel more confident, connected, and turned on in your body? Join Sex School here: https://www.melissavranjes.com/sex-school

Want more from Mel? She writes a weekly sex column for Woman's Day magazine.

Pick up the latest issue to read it.

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