Alright friend, grab your gardening gloves because today we’re talking about something really important: how to create a life that actually blooms.

The biggest takeaway from this episode?

I think we spend way too much time pulling weeds and not nearly enough time planting flowers.

You know how in spring we clean out our gardens? We pull out the dead stuff, clear the weeds, make space for something new. I really think we need to do the same thing mentally and emotionally too.

So many women are walking around completely focused on what’s wrong. What’s wrong with them. What’s wrong with their relationship. Their body. Their job. Their life. And while yes — sometimes we absolutely do need to deal with the weeds — I don’t think healing is supposed to just be endless weeding.

At some point, we also have to plant flowers.

In this episode, I talk about:

1. Why constantly “fixing yourself” can actually keep you stuck
2. The difference between pulling weeds and creating beauty
3. Nervous system regulation that actually feels supportive and doable
4. Why pleasure matters more than most women realize
5. How kindness, rest, joy, and unconditional love change your life
6. Why so many women are burned out from trying to hold too many plates
7. How to start creating a life that feels full instead of just managed

I also share why figure skating is one of the biggest nervous system regulators in my own life, and why the things that light you up emotionally are not frivolous — they’re necessary.

This episode is really an invitation to stop living in constant maintenance mode and start intentionally creating a life you actually want to be inside of.

Because the truth is:

If all we ever do is pull weeds, we end up exhausted.

But when we start planting flowers?

Everything changes. 🌸

Want to talk to me directly? Book a free discovery call here:

1. amandahess.ca/bookacall

If you’ve been repeating affirmations, journaling your thoughts, and still feeling stuck… we need to talk.

Because it’s not that you’re doing it wrong.

It’s that these tools aren’t actually designed to create the kind of change you’re looking for.

In this episode, I’m breaking down why mantras and journaling often don’t work—especially for sensitive, self-aware women—and what to do instead.

Mantras can create internal conflict when your brain doesn’t believe what you’re saying.

Journaling can turn into rumination that reinforces the exact patterns you’re trying to break.

So if you’ve ever felt like:

“I should be further along by now”

“I know better, so why am I still stuck?”

“I’ve done so much work, why hasn’t anything really changed?”

This episode will land.

I’m going to show you a different way to work with your brain—one that actually creates emotional buy-in, shifts your beliefs, and changes how you show up in your life.

1. Why mantras often feel empty (and can actually increase anxiety)
2. How journaling can quietly reinforce negative thinking patterns
3. The role your survival brain is playing behind the scenes
4. Why your beliefs—not your thoughts—are what need to change
5. The real skill that creates confidence, calm, and lasting change
6. How asking better questions can completely shift your emotional state

You don’t need to force yourself to think positively.

You need to learn how to question what you’re thinking in a way that actually opens something up.

Next time you feel stuck, don’t reach for a mantra.

Ask yourself:

1. What if this isn’t actually true?
2. What would be possible if I believed I was enough?
3. How would I show up if I felt fully accepted?

Let your brain answer. That’s where the shift happens.

This is exactly the work I do with my clients.

If you’re ready to stop spinning in your head and actually create change that feels real and sustainable, you can book a call with me:

👉 amandahess.ca/bookacall

If this episode resonated, DM me on Instagram or TikTok. I’d love to hear what landed for you.

Links referenced in this episode:

1. amandahessbookacall
2. theamandahess

Because what if the problem isn’t your emotions…

but what you’ve been taught to believe about them?

In this episode, I’m breaking down the hidden conditioning that makes sensitive women feel weak, overwhelmed, or “too much”—and why that narrative is not only false, it’s keeping you stuck.

We’ll talk about:

1. Why being emotional has been framed as a flaw
2. How society profits from you believing something is wrong with you
3. The real reason you feel overwhelmed, reactive, or “too much”
4. Why trying to fix yourself is making things worse
5. The powerful shift from problem-focused → desire-led living
6. How to start trusting your sensitivity instead of fighting it

If you’re a deeply feeling, intuitive woman who’s tired of trying to be less…

this is your permission slip to stop.

1. A completely new way to understand your emotional experience
2. Relief from the belief that you’re “too much” or broken
3. A starting point for working with your sensitivity instead of against it
4. A powerful reframe that opens the door to more peace, energy, and self-trust

If this episode hit home and you’re ready to stop overthinking, people-pleasing, and feeling stuck in your own emotions…

Book a free discovery call with me:

👉 https://amandahess.ca/book-a-call

We’ll talk about what’s going on for you and map out what real support could look like.

Know someone who feels like they’re “too emotional” or struggles with sensitivity?

Send this to her. It might be exactly what she needs to hear.