Feeling is part of being human. Suffering is not.

In this episode, Amanda breaks down the crucial difference between feeling emotions and suffering because of them. You’ll hear a raw, honest reflection on what it’s like to try to “hold it all together,” why doing more never actually fixes emotional overwhelm, and how learning to slow down is the real way out of suffering.

This episode is a reminder that you don’t need better tools, better behavior, or more discipline — you need to take your foot off the emotional gas.

• Why 50% of life is always uncomfortable emotion (no matter how well you’re doing)
• The difference between feeling pain and creating suffering
• How “trying not to feel” actually extends suffering
• Why doing more, pushing harder, or expecting yourself to cope better doesn’t work
• The compounding factors that turn pain into long-term suffering
• What it really means to “take your foot off the emotional gas”
• Simple, practical ways to slow your nervous system in real time
• How to start asking yourself, “What do I need right now?” — and listening to the answer

• Feeling is inevitable. Suffering is optional.
• Pain happens. Hurt happens. Loss, rejection, and grief are real.
• Suffering comes from:
• Judgment
• Pressure
• Emotional acceleration
• Not slowing down
• Not regulating your nervous system
• You don’t need to fix yourself — you need to pause
• Slowing down is not quitting; it’s leadership
• Self-trust is built in small percentages — 5%, then 10%, then more

• Taking your foot off the emotional gas
• Regulating through the senses:
• Look around
• Notice what you see, hear, smell, taste, touch
• Breathing and grounding (takes seconds, not minutes)
• Asking yourself:

• Choosing support instead of speed

If this episode resonated and you find yourself thinking, “I need more of this — consistently,” that’s exactly why my membership exists.

Inside the membership, you get ongoing support to help you:

• Slow down instead of pushing harder
• Regulate your nervous system in real life
• Build self-trust one moment at a time
• Learn how to feel without suffering

This is the work — and you don’t have to do it alone.

👉 Join us at:

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Bring your questions.

Bring the overwhelm.

Bring the part of you that’s exhausted from trying to hold it all together.

You know where to find me.

What most women call overwhelm or anxiety is often something deeper: emotional burnout — the kind that happens when you’ve spent years trying to tolerate your emotions instead of learning how to expand your capacity for them.

In today’s episode, I’m sharing a private training from the podcast I create exclusively for my clients. We’re breaking down the real difference between emotional tolerance (the rigid, finite jar that eventually cracks) and emotional capacity (the flexible container you can actually grow).

You’ll learn:

• Why simply “tolerating” your emotions exhausts you
• The glass-jar metaphor that explains emotional burnout perfectly
• What true emotional capacity looks like — and why it’s a skill, not a personality trait
• How nervous system regulation expands your capacity in real time
• The 4 pillars of capacity-building (regulation, nature, pleasure, and thought quality)
• How to stop outsourcing control and reclaim it in a way that’s actually sustainable
• Simple daily practices to grow your internal bandwidth so you don’t get knocked over by life

If you’ve felt like you’re at the end of your rope — irritated, overstimulated, or one small thing away from snapping — this episode will help you understand why… and what to do next.

This episode comes from the private podcast feed I create for my 1:1 coaching clients — the kind of deep, practical emotional work we do together.

If you want to explore the ways you can work with me, head to:

👉 joinamanda.ca

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The holidays bring everything — family dynamics, overwhelm, expectations, pressure — and underneath it all is the fear of speaking up in a way that feels good. In this episode, we break down what a boundary actually is, why it feels so hard to set one, and how fear and nervous system dysregulation keep you stuck in people-pleasing or emotional shutdown.

You’ll learn how to identify fear in your body, regulate before you respond, and create clean, grounded boundaries that support the life you want. This is the episode to listen to if you want to stop abandoning yourself and start honoring what works for you.

• What a boundary really is (and what it’s not)
• Why fear makes speaking up feel impossible
• How fight/flight/freeze/fawn sabotage your voice
• How to regulate before having brave conversations
• Why self-worth must be chosen first

Sign up for my 1:1 coaching at JoinAmanda.ca without a discovery call and receive:

✨ 5 months for the price of 4

✨ 20 private sessions

✨ A $250 credit after completing the program

Join me for a live class on setting boundaries & having brave conversations.

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