this week on how sebbie c’s it, i’m joined by returning guest, longtime friend, and forever creative co-conspirator bella gallegos.

we get into everything from dating burnout, male validation, and why women are suddenly obsessed with emotionally available (read: gay-coded) men — to how trauma shapes our art, friendships, and sense of self.

we talk honestly about growing up religious, unlearning survival patterns, the difference between the male gaze vs the female gaze, and why personality + empathy will always clear looks-maxing.

plus: our must-see films for 2026, movie dates as friendship love language, and why going to the cinema every week might actually save your soul.

it’s thoughtful, unfiltered, a little chaotic, and very much giving “best friends on a couch with coke zero.”

listen if you’re questioning dating culture, healing loudly, or just want to feel less alone while figuring it all out.

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hello collective 🤍

this week’s episode of how sebbie c’s it is coming to you live from sundance film festival 2026… which is honestly surreal to even type out.

i talk about what it feels like to be surrounded by filmmakers and directors i admire so deeply, and how inspiring it is to be in spaces that remind me why i create in the first place.

we get into:

• being at sundance and feeling completely out of my element (in the best way)

• meeting directors + watching films that shift something in you

• why i feel such a deep connection to writers — songwriters, filmmakers, storytellers

• how my new music is coming along and why i see songwriting visually

• storyboarding a new music video project that might be the most sebastian cail thing i’ve ever made

• imposter syndrome, feeling like the odd man out, and learning that belonging comes from repetition

• the way self worth shows up in art, relationships, confidence, and everything else

• a really sweet dm that reminded me not to give up on love (even when men are… men)

• my biggest musical inspirations right now + what’s shaping this next era

this episode is a check-in, a little stream of consciousness, and a reminder that if your heart keeps pulling you toward something… you’re probably meant to follow it.

thank you for being here. i love you guys!!!

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hello collective and welcome back to another episode of how sebbie c’s it.

today’s episode is a heavy one, but it’s also one that’s been sitting on my heart for a long time. i wanted to talk openly about what it means to grow up as a jehovah’s witness… and what it feels like to leave a world that shaped you, hurt you, and still holds so many people you love.

i’ve been thinking a lot lately about grief, the kind that comes after survival.

because when you finally make it out of something toxic… when you finally build a life that feels free and real… there’s this strange, bittersweet weight that follows you. it’s like you’re living the dream your younger self prayed for, but you can’t stop thinking about the people who are still back there. still stuck. still afraid.

and i’ve been carrying a lot of survivor’s guilt.

i talk about what it does to your nervous system to be raised in a high-control religion. how you grow up too fast, how you’re taught fear instead of unconditional love, how it seeps into your relationships, your choices, your sense of self.

but i also talk about hope.

because i truly believe that freedom is possible. healing is possible. and love (real love) exists outside of the systems that tried to shrink us.

if you’ve ever felt like you had to start over, or if you’ve ever left something that broke you, i hope this episode makes you feel less alone.

thank you for being here. thank you for listening. and thank you for letting me tell the truth.

that’s how sebbie c sees it.

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