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How Not To Suck At Divorce

How Not To Suck At Divorce

著者： Morgan Stogsdill and Andrea Rappaport
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Action steps that save you money. Humor that saves your sanity. Honesty that helps you heal. How Not to Suck at Divorce is the divorce podcast for people who want clear answers, smart strategy and support through life before, during and after divorce. Hosted by family-law attorney Morgan L. Stogsdill and comedian and marketing expert Andrea Rappaport, we break down the parts of divorce that can feel impossible to navigate — divorce preparation, high-conflict spouses, narcissistic behavior and manipulation, child custody, co-parenting and parallel parenting, money and property, legal strategy, negotiation, divorce anxiety and life after divorce. You’ll hear practical advice from leading divorce attorneys, therapists, financial professionals and other experts, along with honest conversations about what divorce actually feels like. Our goal is simple: help you avoid expensive mistakes, understand your options and make decisions you’ll still feel good about years from now. You don’t have to figure out divorce by yourself. We’ve got you.Morgan L. Stogsdill and Andrea Rappaport 2021-2026 人間関係 子育て 心理学 心理学・心の健康 社会科学 衛生・健康的な生活
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  • Divorce: How to Take Your Power Back From a Controlling Ex

    Divorce: How to Take Your Power Back From a Controlling Ex
    2026/09/25
    Need help getting through divorce right now?🎧 Start with our Guided Divorce Meditations If your nervous system is completely fried, your thoughts are racing, or you feel like your ex has way too much control over your emotional state, start here. Our guided divorce meditations were created specifically for the moments when divorce anxiety feels overwhelming.💥 Get the Divorce Crash Course If you’re at the beginning of divorce — or you feel completely lost in the process — the Divorce Crash Course gives you the tools, information, checklists and guidance we wish everyone had from day one.Typically priced at $150, available now for $50, thanks to our angel underwriters Our Family Wizard and Soberlink.Our Family WizardThe co parenting app designed to help you during and after your divorce. Celebrities use it- you should too. And we are the only podcast that can get you 20% off your first year. Click the link above. Feeling Powerless During Divorce? Start Here.One of the most brutal parts of divorce is the feeling that someone else suddenly has control over your life.Your spouse may seem to control the money. The schedule. The kids. The pace of the divorce. Your emotional state. Maybe even whether you have a good day or a completely disastrous one.But feeling powerless and actually being powerless are not the same thing.In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea sits down with former family law attorney and OurFamilyWizard Legal Liaison Nikol Sotos to talk about how to take your power back during divorce — especially when you’re dealing with a controlling or high-conflict ex.Nikol explains that one of the biggest mistakes people make when they feel overwhelmed is giving away control without even realizing it — sometimes to their ex, and sometimes even to their own attorney. Your lawyer can advise you, protect you and help you make strategic decisions, but this is still your life. And taking your power back does not mean becoming more aggressive.It often means doing less.Stop Reacting to Every TextIf your ex sends an inflammatory message designed to make you explode, the most powerful response may be no response at all — at least not immediately.Andrea and Nikol talk about moving away from emotional reactions and toward strategic communication. Instead of firing back when your ex sends something infuriating, pause. Let your nervous system settle. Respond only to what actually requires a response.Sometimes that response is simply:“Thanks for the text.”Or:“Got it.”Or nothing.Because when someone is hoping to provoke you, refusing to give them the reaction they expect can change the entire dynamic. Document Everything — Even If Your Divorce Isn’t High ConflictAnother unpopular opinion from Andrea: documenting is not just for ugly divorces.Even an amicable divorce can change quickly.A new partner enters the picture. Someone changes their position. A parenting disagreement escalates. Suddenly a conversation you thought everyone remembered very differently becomes important.Nikol recommends creating a paper trail regardless of the current conflict level. Create a separate email account for your divorce. Keep documents organized. Change passwords your spouse may know. Protect your privacy and your digital information.And please — do not announce to your ex that you are documenting them.Just document.Inside the Divorce Crash Course, we also give you a timeline tool to help organize important events and information during your case. Boundaries Are Not the Same Thing as ControlCreating boundaries during divorce can feel strange, particularly if your lives were completely intertwined for years.Changing passwords.Opening your own account.Creating a separate email.Deciding when you are available to respond.Those actions can feel dramatic when you have never needed those boundaries before.But boundaries are about controlling your own environment, not controlling your ex.That distinction matters.Taking your power back does not mean dominating the other person. It means managing what happens inside your own life, your home, your mind and your emotional world. Make Tiny Changes When Everything Feels Out of ControlTaking back control does not always start with a huge legal decision.Sometimes it starts absurdly small.Walk a different route.Order something different at Starbucks.Change one part of your morning routine.Do something that reminds your brain:I still make choices.Nikol explains that these small changes can interrupt the feeling that every part of your life is happening to you. No, switching from half-and-half to almond milk will not change the outcome of your divorce.But rebuilding your sense of agency in small areas can help you regulate your emotions — which can make it easier to make smarter decisions in the areas that really do matter.Your Ex’s Emergency Is Not Always Your EmergencyYou do not need to immediately answer every message.You do not need to abandon ...
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  • Divorce Advice Nobody Wants to Hear: 10 Unpopular Opinions

    Divorce Advice Nobody Wants to Hear: 10 Unpopular Opinions
    2026/09/23
    Divorce comes with a lot of advice. Andrea has some opinions about that advice.Get the Divorce Crash CourseGet the Guided Divorce MeditationsIn this mini episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea shares 10 of her most unpopular divorce opinions—the ones that might make your lawyer raise an eyebrow, your mother clutch her pearls, or your group chat light up.Some of them are practical: you and your spouse should have separate attorneys, even if the divorce is amicable. Some are emotional: losing friends during divorce can be completely normal, and therapy should be treated as an essential part of the process, not an afterthought. And some might be a little more controversial—like the idea that dating during divorce is not automatically a terrible decision, as long as you talk to your attorney first and understand how complicated it can become.Andrea also tackles one of the hardest parts of co-parenting during divorce: what to do when your ex is behaving badly in front of the kids. Pretending unhealthy behavior is normal can be confusing for children, but criticizing the other parent can pull them directly into the conflict. The goal is to address the behavior without making your child responsible for the adult problem.And then there’s the survival stuff nobody talks about enough.Maybe you need to talk to your doctor about medication if your anxiety, sleep, appetite, or ability to function are falling apart. Maybe you desperately need a hobby that has absolutely nothing to do with your divorce. Maybe buying the sweater, getting your nails done, ordering takeout, or replacing your sheets is exactly the small reminder you need that your entire life has not been put on hold.And yes, Andrea is also making the case for watching more television—especially at night, when divorce anxiety has a way of turning you into a private investigator rereading texts, emails, locations, and Venmo transactions. Sometimes the healthiest thing you can do is turn off your divorce brain and binge something deeply unserious instead.Finally, Andrea takes on the marital home. Keeping the house after divorce can feel deeply important, especially when children are involved. But if keeping it leaves you financially stretched, unable to rebuild savings, or constantly afraid of the next major expense, it may not actually be protecting you or your kids. A house is not the only place where you can create safety, stability, and family.This episode is not a list of rules. It’s permission to question some of the divorce advice we hear over and over again—and to remember that your life does not have to stop while your divorce is happening.Because divorce is part of your life. It does not get to become your whole life.In this episode:Why Andrea believes divorcing spouses should have separate attorneysWhy losing—and making—friends during divorce can be completely normalWhy therapy may be one of the most important forms of divorce supportHow to address unhealthy behavior from an ex without putting kids in the middleThe pros, cons, and complications of dating during divorceWhy it may be worth talking to your doctor about mental-health supportWhy hobbies, television, and small treats can actually help you copeWhy keeping the marital home is not always the best financial or emotional decisionAndrea’s 10 Unpopular Divorce Opinions1.You and your spouse should not share an attorney.Even in an amicable divorce, each person should have independent legal advice and someone protecting their individual interests.2.You may lose friends during divorce — and make new ones.Divorce changes relationships. Some friendships fade, others deepen, and some may exist only for this particular season of your life.3.You need a therapist during divorce.Divorce can trigger anxiety, grief, anger, childhood trauma, and other issues that go far beyond the legal process.4.If your ex is behaving badly, you can address that behavior with your kids.The key is talking about unhealthy behavior without criticizing the other parent or pulling your child into the conflict.5.Dating during divorce is not automatically a bad idea.Talk to your attorney first, understand the potential complications, and know that dating can be either a welcome distraction or a giant additional headache.6.You may need medication during divorce.If anxiety, depression, sleep problems, or stress are interfering with your ability to function, talk to your doctor and therapist rather than ignoring your mental health.7.You need a hobby during divorce.Having something in your life that has nothing to do with your case can be incredibly helpful for your mental health.8.You should still treat yourself.Within reason, your entire life does not need to stop because you are getting divorced.9.Watching more TV during divorce may actually help.Especially at night, distraction can keep you from spiraling, rereading texts, checking accounts, or obsessing over your case.10.Keeping the marital home is ...
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  • 7 Divorce Mistakes That Make Your Case More Expensive

    7 Divorce Mistakes That Make Your Case More Expensive
    2026/09/18
    Divorce Crash Course If you want more help understanding the divorce process, avoiding expensive mistakes, and knowing what to expect before you make major decisions, check out the Divorce Crash Course.Guided Divorce Meditations For the moments when you’re about to send the email, respond to your ex, or completely lose your shit, our guided meditations are designed to help you calm your nervous system before you make the situation more expensive.Your divorce lawyer may be expensive — but sometimes the thing making your divorce even more expensive is… you.In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea and Morgan break down the habits that can make a divorce case harder, longer, and more expensive, even when you think you’re being helpful. From trying to run your own legal strategy to rewriting documents with AI, over-emailing your attorney, negotiating with your ex without being prepared, and withholding important information, this episode is basically a loving intervention from your divorce lawyer. Morgan explains why clients sometimes accidentally create more legal work by trying to save money. One major example? Redlining legal documents or using AI to rewrite agreements without understanding whether those changes would actually work in court. That often means your attorney has to undo the work, start over, and spend even more billable time fixing it. Andrea and Morgan also talk about the emotional reason people do this in the first place: divorce is terrifying. When your children, finances, home, and future are involved, it can feel impossible to hand over control to another person. But that fear can push you into micromanaging your lawyer, chasing answers that don’t exist yet, or relying too heavily on AI for legal strategy. You’ll also learn a smarter way to communicate with your attorney, including when to pick up the phone instead of sending a novel-length email, how to comment on a legal document without trying to rewrite it yourself, and the exact kind of question to ask when you’re waiting on opposing counsel and starting to panic. The episode also tackles one of the biggest traps in high-conflict divorce: negotiating directly with your ex when there is a history of control, pressure, or manipulation. Morgan explains when direct negotiation can actually save money — and when it can backfire badly if you go into the conversation without knowing your legal boundaries. And finally: do not hide things from your lawyer.Whether it’s a fight, missing money, an agreement you made directly with your ex, or something you’re embarrassed to admit, your attorney cannot protect you from information they do not have. Morgan explains why withholding key facts can seriously damage your case — and in some situations can even lead an attorney to withdraw from representing you. What You’ll LearnWhy trying to be your own divorce lawyer can cost you more moneyWhen AI can help during divorce — and when it absolutely should notWhy you should not use ChatGPT or Claude as your legal strategistHow to communicate with your divorce attorney without racking up unnecessary feesWhen to call your lawyer instead of sending a long emailHow to review legal documents without rewriting them yourselfWhat to do when opposing counsel is not respondingHow to negotiate with your ex without getting pressured into a bad dealWhy you need to tell your divorce lawyer the whole truthHow fear and anxiety can quietly make your divorce more expensiveA Better Way to Follow Up With Your Divorce LawyerIf you’re waiting for a response from opposing counsel, Andrea and Morgan suggest asking something like:“It’s been X amount of time since we heard from opposing counsel. What is a realistic timeframe for a response, and if we don’t hear back by then, what would our next step be?” That gives you information, a timeline, and a plan — without sending your lawyer four emails in one week asking whether they’ve heard anything yet. Divorce, AI, and Your Legal StrategyAI can be incredibly useful for organizing information, brainstorming questions, calming yourself down, or helping you prepare for a conversation.But AI does not know your judge.It does not know your local court.It does not understand the history of your case the way your attorney does.And it may confidently give you an answer that sounds brilliant and is completely wrong for your situation. Use the robot. Just don’t let the robot run your divorce.ResourcesDivorce Crash Course If you want more help understanding the divorce process, avoiding expensive mistakes, and knowing what to expect before you make major decisions, check out the Divorce Crash Course.Guided Divorce Meditations For the moments when you’re about to send the email, respond to your ex, or completely lose your shit, our guided meditations are designed to help you calm your nervous system before you make the situation more expensive.Our Family WizardOur Family Wizard is the most...
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