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Liz breaks down the cognitive trap of all-or-nothing (either/or) thinking—seeing life as black-or-white—and explains how it increases suffering by driving rigid self-judgment and critical self-talk. Drawing on psychometrics work and her root-analysis approach, she frames thinking traps as symptoms that reveal deeper “weeds,” most often perfectionism, pride/need to be right, fear of failure, and difficulty giving grace, which ultimately trace back to toxic shame. Liz illustrates the trap with everyday examples and shows how it manifests as extreme self-evaluations with no room for mistakes. As an antidote, she recommends catching absolutizing language, repeating “there are no absolutes,” and shifting to spectrum-based thinking using percentages to stay in the gray. She also connects all-or-nothing thinking to grandiosity through both inflation and deflation patterns and urges listeners to track the linguistic cues that signal toxic shame at work.

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00:00 All or Nothing Trap

00:38 Thinking Traps and Shame

01:53 Defining Black and White

02:34 Root Weeds Behind It

05:02 How It Shows Up

06:18 Antidote Stay in Gray

07:51 Think in Percentages

08:24 Grandiosity Two Modes

09:36 Spot the Root Signals

10:14 Closing Follow the Thread

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