Welcome to something new from Healing My Parts.

Our regular interview episodes aren’t going anywhere. This is something we’ll be sprinkling in between them: Two Systems Walk Into a Podcast… — casual conversations between two DID systems on opposite sides of the Atlantic who discovered an uncanny number of similarities, plenty of differences, and an endless supply of things to talk about.

Every couple of weeks, we’re going to take one of the very real topics that comes up in system life, toss a whole bunch of them into a hat, pull one out, and talk about wherever it takes us. No formal interview. No pretending we have the definitive answer. Just two systems chatting about figuring out system life.

For our first episode of the series, we’re talking about comparing and despairing.

Because when you’re trying to understand your own system, it’s incredibly easy to look at someone else’s experience and start asking:

Should we switch like that? Should we have an inner world? Why can’t we make a system map? Does this mean we’re not really plural?

In this conversation, we talk about:

* comparison, denial, and feeling like a fraud

* the pressure to “look like” other systems

* what changes when comparison becomes recognition

* inner worlds and system mapping

* why pushing yourself to fit someone else’s version of DID can backfire

* learning to trust what is actually happening inside your own system

No formal interview. No pretending we have the definitive answer.

Just two systems comparing notes about figuring out system life — with the occasional side-eye, bucket hat, and “oh my God, you too?” moment along the way. 😂

And sometimes the most helpful thing may be putting down the checklist and getting curious about the system you actually have.

⏱️ Timestamps

00:47 — Introducing Two Systems Walk Into a Podcast…04:53 — Compare & despair begins08:00 — Fraud fears and professional skepticism10:53 — When denial argues with itself 😂11:48 — The system trust fall15:00 — Comparison vs. recognition17:04 — Why talking with another system can feel different26:00 — What newly discovering systems are up against34:53 — “Do I need an inner world?”37:54 — The pressure to system map43:30 — Taking the pressure off

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Many systems spend years trying to get parts to behave.Skye spent 36 years learning to love them instead.

In this conversation, we’re joined by Skylar Lyralen Kaye, award-winning writer, actor, slam poet, storyteller, and openly plural, nonbinary trans fae, whose memoir Bachelorx does something most books about plurality don’t dare: it hands the page directly to the inner people and lets them speak.

What unfolds is a funny, heartbreaking, and deeply human story of a newly separated 62-year-old getting on dating apps for the first time, navigating intimacy, rejection, and falling hard for someone when the system absolutely does not agree. But beneath the dating story is something many of us long to know: what it actually looks like when decades of inner work finally click into place.

Inside this conversation:

* What it actually costs a system to date — and what singlets fundamentally don’t understand about it

* MICAH: the protector who kept everyone alive, never got credit for the grades or the poems, and finally gets the page — and the all-caps

* 17 therapists, 4 who helped — and what those four actually did differently

* How Brainspotting took decades of healing over the finish line

* Why IFS both normalizes and sometimes minimizes plurality — and how Skye holds that tension

* What system responsibility really means when a part goes rogue

* The chapter where the whole system disagrees about falling in love — in real time, in multiple fonts

* What later-stage healing actually feels like — not symptom-free, not perfect, just known

And at the very end, what Skye wants every system to take away from this book:"The humble gratitude of what it's like to fall in love with yourselves."

⏱️ Timestamps00:01 — Meet Skye: out, plural, trans fae, just off the paddleboard02:06 — Why the book opens with being outed on a first date09:16 — MICAH sets some limits — and the little kids feel protected23:24 — Coming out as plural to a date — and choosing integrity over a perfect cover story40:19 — Kids FIGHTING: writing the chapter where the system isn't unanimous46:09 — Giving MICAH the page — and the all-caps49:40 — 17 therapists, 4 who helped — what made the difference57:59 — What healing looks like now versus what it looked like in crisis01:00:45 — A message to the inner people listening right now

Resources:

Skylar Lyralen Kaye Website: https://lyralenkaye.com/

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When Two Systems Fall in Love

Two people fall in love. That’s already complicated enough.

Now imagine loving someone who is many — and bringing your own crowded room to meet them. Two systems, dozens of parts between them, all figuring out who’s actually dating whom.

In this episode, we’re joined by Jenn and Naomi, two women living with Dissociative Identity Disorder who met in a DID support group, became close friends, and eventually fell in love. Together they offer a rare, honest, and often funny look at what it means to build a relationship when both partners are systems — down to color-coded triggers, competing playlists, and parts who have entire relationships of their own.

But this conversation goes further than romance. Jenn and Naomi walk through two completely different roads to diagnosis — one through years of self-research, one through hospitalization — and the real damage that gets done when providers miss what’s actually happening. They talk about raising kids who read switching more fluently than most clinicians do. And they talk about what it’s like to finally be loved by someone who doesn’t need switching explained to them, because they live it too.

If there’s a thread running through this entire conversation, it’s hope and trust. Trusting your own system. Trusting the process of healing. Trusting that a relationship can become a place where parts don’t have to survive alone anymore.

Whether you’re a system, love someone who is, or are a clinician trying to understand DID from the inside, this episode offers real access to the complexity, the humor, and the tenderness that live inside all of it.

In This Episode

* Two very different roads to a DID diagnosis — and why so many systems still get missed

* The specific loneliness of diagnosis, and of not being believed before it

* What it’s actually like when both partners are systems

* How kids often understand switching better than the adults around them

* Navigating triggers, attachment, and communication between two systems

* What good DID therapy looks like — and where even well-meaning therapists get it wrong

* Why hope and trust keep showing up as the answer

Timestamps00:01 — Meet Jenn & Naomi, and how two systems fell in love07:35 — Two very different roads to diagnosis — and why so many systems get missed24:05 — When your partner can clock every switch and no one else can31:00 — Parenting with DID: what kids pick up on that adults don’t40:00 — Two systems, dozens of relationships, triggers, and figuring out who’s actually walking down the street48:30 — What good DID therapy actually feels like59:00 — Hope, trust, and what they want every system to hear

Contact Jenn & Naomi at pluralitysquared@gmail.com

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Building & Using Your Inner World: Practical Tools to Make It Work for You

Registration opens July 10 on Substack and at HealingMyParts.org.

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