Have you ever frozen when someone asked you what you want? Do you feel guilty for having desires — like wanting something for yourself makes you selfish or unspiritual?

Episode Description

In Phase Two of The Path Home series, Debra reveals why hope has to come BEFORE deep healing can happen — and why most women with religious trauma have lost touch with their own desires. If you've spent years giving to everyone else while your own soul slowly starved, this episode will show you: that's not humility. That's harm. And it's time to reconnect with the dreams God planted in you before anyone told you they were wrong.

In this episode, you'll discover:

→ Why you freeze when asked "What do you want?" — and what that reveals

→ How religious trauma taught you that desire itself was dangerous

→ The truth about Psalm 37:4 and your God-given desires

→ Why becoming who you're meant to be isn't selfish — it's faithfulness

→ How to start planting seeds of hope even when dreaming feels scary

Healing Truth

Your desires are not the enemy. They're not "your flesh." God planted them in you for a reason — and reconnecting with them might just be the most honest prayer you've prayed in years. You have permission to want.

Scripture: Psalm 37:4 — "Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart."

Ready to go deeper?

Discover your personal healing path: Take our free Religious Trauma Assessment at ReligiousTraumaQuiz.com. You'll receive a personalized report plus my complete Essentials Starter Kit—including my book He Is Enough, Truth Over Tradition mini-course, live reading circles, and access to our supportive community—all completely FREE.

Transform your story completely: Join the Coming Home Journey at TheComingHomeJourney.com—a six-month guided experience to unravel religious trauma, instill God's truth, and create your new story alongside women who truly understand. 50% Off Pricing ends January 1st—this is your last month to join at half the investment. Prices double next year.

About Debra

Debra Shafer is a spiritual healing coach for Christian women and the creator of the Coming Home Journey—a gentle, soul-level pathway to help women untangle religious trauma, rebuild trust in God, and find peace without walking away from their faith. As the founder of the Healing Religious Trauma Circle, Debra brings together decades of experience in personal ministry, Biblical psychology, and trauma-informed mentoring. She knows what it's like to love God deeply while wrestling with fear, shame, and silence. Known for her voice of gentle clarity, healing, and truth, she now walks women home to the God they always hoped was real.

Listener Love

If this episode gave you permission to want again — to dream again — would you share it with a friend who needs this? And a quick review on Apple Podcasts helps more women discover that their desires aren't wrong — they were just buried.

This isn't surface-level faith advice. It's soul-level restoration for Christian women healing from religious trauma who long for inner peace, spiritual healing, and true connection with God. Through addressing generational trauma and nurturing God's love, we help you trust God completely and become who you were always meant to be.

Do you love God deeply but still feel an invisible wall between you and Him? Have you been serving faithfully for years, but something inside you keeps holding back—and you can't figure out why?

Episode Description

In this first deep-dive episode of The Path Home series, Debra reveals why safety has to come FIRST before real healing can happen. Religious trauma doesn't just wound once—it leaves aftershocks of fear, shame, and guilt that keep running in the background. And often, the problem isn't your faith—it's that someone gave you a version of God that wasn't true. This episode will help you understand why you've been struggling to trust, and what has to be in place before transformation can take root.

In this episode, you'll discover:

→ Why your struggle to trust God isn't a faith problem—it's a safety problem

→ How religious trauma installs patterns of fear, shame, and guilt that shape everything

→ What spiritual safety actually looks and feels like (hint: your doubts don't mean you don't love God)

→ Three powerful agreements that create the conditions for transformation

→ Why preparing the soil has to come before planting any seeds

Healing Truth

You can't trust someone you don't feel safe with. And having hard questions while loving God deeply isn't contradiction—it's courage. Safety isn't weakness. It's wisdom. And it's the foundation everything else is built on.

Scripture: Psalm 91:1 — "He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty."

Ready to go deeper?

Discover your personal healing path: Take our free Religious Trauma Assessment at ReligiousTraumaQuiz.com and uncover which of the 12 hidden barriers might be shaping your relationship with God, yourself, and others. You'll receive a personalized report plus my complete Essentials Starter Kit—including my book He Is Enough, Truth Over Tradition mini-course, live reading circles, and access to our supportive community—all completely FREE.

Transform your story completely: Join the Coming Home Journey at TheComingHomeJourney.com—a six-month guided experience to unravel religious trauma, instill God's truth, and create your new story alongside women who truly understand. 50% Off Founder Pricing ends January 1st—this is your last month to join at half the investment. Prices double next year.

About Debra

Debra Shafer is a spiritual healing coach for Christian women and the creator of the Coming Home Journey—a gentle, soul-level pathway to help women untangle religious trauma, rebuild trust in God, and find peace without walking away from their faith. As the founder of the Healing Religious Trauma Circle, Debra brings together decades of experience in personal ministry, Biblical psychology, and trauma-informed mentoring. She knows what it's like to love God deeply while wrestling with fear, shame, and silence. Known for her voice of gentle clarity, healing, and truth, she now walks women home to the God they always hoped was real.

Listener Love

If this episode helped you understand why safety has to come first, would you share it with someone who needs this truth? And a quick review on Apple Podcasts helps more women discover that healing is possible—without losing their faith.

This isn't surface-level faith advice. It's soul-level restoration for Christian women healing from religious trauma who long for inner peace, spiritual healing, and the ability to trust God completely. Through addressing generational trauma and nurturing true connection, we help you experience God's love in the deepest way. Strengthen your relationship with a safe, loving God.

Have you been praying, reading, maybe even going to counseling—but still feel stuck? Like something invisible is holding you back from God, but you can't name what it is?

In this series-launching episode, Debra shares how God revealed a healing framework she didn't even know she was using—and introduces the five phases of healing from religious trauma. If you've been trying to heal through willpower or "just having more faith" and still feel distant from God and yourself, this episode will show you why: You're not the problem. You just didn't have the path.

In this episode, you'll discover:

• Why "trying harder" and "praying more" isn't working—and what to do instead
• How religious trauma installs false beliefs that become invisible barriers
• The moment God revealed a complete healing framework in just 30 minutes
• An overview of the 5 phases of healing from religious trauma
• Why you can't heal what you can't name—and how to start naming it

Healing Truth: You're not broken. You just didn't have the path. And sweet friend, the path exists—and you don't have to walk it alone.

🎧 Ready to go deeper?

→ Take the Free Quiz + Get Your Essentials Starter Kit at ReligiousTraumaQuiz.com

→ Join the Coming Home Journey at TheComingHomeJourney.com — Founder Pricing ends January 1st!

This isn't surface-level faith advice. It's soul-level restoration for Christian women healing from religious trauma.