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  • Ep007 Anna: The Crossdressers Wife

    Ep007 Anna: The Crossdressers Wife
    2025/09/22
    From Shock to Acceptance: A Partner's Journey with CrossdressingWhen I sat down with Anna for this episode, I knew we were about to share a story that so many people need to hear. As a crossdresser myself - and an erotic author who writes about the delicate dance of gender expression - I’ve had countless conversations about identity, desire, and relationships. But Anna’s journey with her husband Harry truly moved me.Anna told me about a Friday night that completely flipped her world upside down. Eight years into their marriage, Harry dropped what felt like a bombshell: he wanted to share his desire to cross-dress. In that moment, Anna’s mind raced. She admitted her first thought was that something far worse was coming, an affair, a terminal illness. But instead, Harry’s revelation opened the door to an unexpected journey of love, acceptance, and growth that changed their relationship forever.What I love about Anna’s story is her honesty. She shared how, after the initial shock, she had to quiet all those “what will people think?” voices in her head and focus on her own feelings. “If I ignore society, if I ignore what other people might think about this, how do I feel about it?” she asked herself. Hearing her say that gave me chills. That kind of raw self-reflection is exactly what creates space for true connection.And here’s the beautiful twist: their intimate life actually blossomed. Anna lit up when she described how, when Harry becomes Harriet, it feels like they’re back at the very start of their relationship, those early butterflies and nervous excitement returning after years of marriage. How many couples can say they’ve rediscovered that spark in such an unexpected way?But Anna and Harry didn’t stop at their own relationship. They recognized how few resources there were for couples navigating cross-dressing together, so they created CrossDressed.uk, a safe, welcoming space for crossdressers and their partners to find real support and information. No judgment. Just honesty, understanding, and care.Of course, our conversation also wandered into my world—my erotic writing. I explained how I approach cross-dressing in my stories, not with graphic explicitness, but by capturing the subtle moments: the glances, the anticipation, the emotional charge when two people truly see each other. For me, those quiet, tender details are far more erotic than anything overt.Before we wrapped, Anna shared some heartfelt advice for anyone thinking of coming out to their partner. Timing is everything. Honesty is crucial. And most of all, you have to listen, really listen, to your partner’s reaction without defensiveness. Sharing your truth is only half the journey; creating a safe space for them to process it is just as important.This conversation reminded me why I started this podcast in the first place. Love isn’t about fitting into society’s boxes. It’s about creating a space where both partners can be their truest selves. Anna and Harry’s story proves that with patience, understanding, and open communication, relationships can not only survive unexpected revelations, they can thrive because of them.The Revelation (00:00:00) Anna describes the night Harry revealed his crossdressing to her, her initial shock, and immediate emotional response.Introducing the Podcast & Anna (00:00:17) Jenny welcomes Anna, introduces the episode, and sets the stage for discussing partners of crossdressers.Life Before the Revelation (00:01:10) Anna shares her and Harry’s life before the revelation, their background, and her openness to diversity.Kink or Identity? (00:03:19) Discussion about whether Harry’s crossdressing is a kink, an identity, or somewhere in between.The Night of the Revelation (00:04:20) Anna recounts the details and emotions of the night Harry came out to her.Initial Reactions and Aftermath (00:06:24) Anna describes her questions, confusion, and the difficult weeks and months following the revelation.Societal Roles and Shock (00:08:08) Jenny discusses societal expectations, the shock of revelations, and the journey of couples facing hidden truths.Harry’s Transformation and Boundaries (00:10:12) Anna talks about Harry’s excitement, spending spree, and the process of setting boundaries as they adjusted.Harry’s Unchanged Core (00:12:41) Reflection on how Harry remained the same person, just with a new dimension, and Anna’s feelings about it.Jenny’s Personal Journey (00:14:39) Jenny shares her own experience with crossdressing, coming out to partners, and how honesty shaped her relationship.Intimacy and Bedroom Dynamics (00:18:36) Anna discusses how crossdressing was introduced into their intimate life and her evolving feelings about labels and attraction.Labels and Acceptance (00:21:16) Jenny and Anna reflect on the usefulness of labels, societal expectations, and embracing partners as they are.Going Out as Harriet (00:23:11) Anna explains whether Harriet goes out in ...
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  • Ep006 Trish: Live once, try twice and don't die wondering

    Ep006 Trish: Live once, try twice and don't die wondering
    2025/09/04
    Live once, try twice and don't die wonderingMy Enlightening Chat with Trish from Be A LadyI recently had the absolute pleasure of sitting down with Trish, the amazing woman behind Be A Lady, and let me tell you - it was one eye-opening conversation! As someone who's personally explored cross-dressing, I was thrilled to chat with someone who's dedicated her life to supporting people like me on their journey of self-discovery.Right from the start, Trish's energy was infectious. We kicked things off with some fun rapid-fire questions about clothing preferences, and her motto "live once, try twice and don't die wondering" really set the tone for our entire chat. I love how she approaches everything with such openness and enthusiasm - it's exactly what this community needs.What really struck me was hearing about how Trish started Be A Lady. She shared this fascinating story about her early days working in adult shops and her first encounter with cross-dressing clients. You could really hear the passion in her voice when she explained how she went from being somewhat naive about the whole thing to creating this amazing safe space for people to explore their identity.One of the most powerful parts of our conversation was when we dove into the challenges many cross-dressers face. Trish revealed that most of her clients are secret cross-dressers who haven't come out to their partners, which really hit home for me. We talked about how society's attitudes are slowly changing, but there's still so much fear and stigma to overcome. It's why spaces like Be A Lady are so incredibly important.The way Trish described the transformation process at her service was absolutely beautiful. It's not just about putting on makeup and a dress - it's about that moment when someone looks in the mirror and sees their true self for the first time. She told me about clients having these incredible moments of realization, saying things like "Oh my God, that's me. The real true me that needs to shine every now and again." Those stories gave me goosebumps.We also got into some really interesting discussions about the emotional and erotic aspects of cross-dressing, which I know can be a sensitive topic for some. But Trish approached it with such professionalism and understanding, explaining how it's all part of exploring one's identity and feeling sexually empowered. It was refreshing to have such an honest, judgment-free conversation about these aspects that often get swept under the rug.Throughout our chat, we kept coming back to this idea of self-discovery and personal liberation. Trish's approach really resonated with me - she believes in creating a space where people can safely explore who they are, try new things, and never have to live with the regret of wondering "what if?" Her service isn't just about transformation; it's about empowerment and acceptance, something that I think we could all use a little more of in our lives.Introductions and Icebreakers (00:00:04) Jenny welcomes Trish, light banter, and a series of fun rapid-fire questions to loosen up.Origins of "Be a Lady" and Cross-Dressing Community (00:02:01) Trish explains the beginnings of "Be a Lady," her adult shops, and her first experiences with cross-dressing clients.Generational Change and Evolving Terminology (00:04:30) Discussion on changing attitudes, language, and acceptance of cross-dressing and trans identities over the years.Secrecy, Stigma, and Relationship Challenges (00:06:56) Exploring the stigma around cross-dressing, secrecy, and the impact on relationships and family life.Personal Disclosure and Acceptance (00:09:16) Jenny shares her own journey of coming out to her partner and the emotional aftermath.Fear of Disclosure and the Role of "Be a Lady" (00:11:27) Trish discusses clients' fears of being discovered and how "Be a Lady" provides a safe, supportive space.Booking and First-Time Experiences (00:14:06) Trish describes the process of booking, the initial phone call, and what clients experience when they arrive.Studio Environment and Makeover Process (00:15:37) Details about the studio setup, clothing, wigs, and the transformation process for clients.Emotional Release and Safe Expression (00:17:47) The emotional impact of cross-dressing, including fear, excitement, and the importance of non-judgmental support.Therapeutic Value and Overcoming Shame (00:20:34) Jenny and Trish discuss the therapeutic benefits of open conversation and confronting internalized shame.Progression and Returning Clients (00:23:01) Clients' journeys from first visits to more public outings, and the importance of ongoing support.Generational Differences and Early Experiences (00:24:43) Reflections on how younger generations experience more freedom, and Jenny’s early cross-dressing memories.Eroticism, Play, and the "Itch" (00:27:07) Exploring the erotic, playful aspects of cross-dressing and the persistent "itch" or urge to dress.Integration and Public Outings (00:34:07) Jenny...
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    54 分
  • Ep 002: Meet Miss Naughty, the Feminist Pornographer

    Ep 002: Meet Miss Naughty, the Feminist Pornographer
    2025/06/18
    Behind the Camera: Meet Miss Naughty, the Feminist PornographerLet's dive into a fascinating conversation between podcast host Jenny Raven and Miss Naughty, an Australian filmmaker who's been shaking up the adult industry for over two decades. Miss Naughty isn't your typical adult content creator - she's a self-described feminist pornographer who prefers to stay behind the camera, bringing a fresh perspective to an industry that's traditionally been dominated by the male gaze.It's pretty cool how Miss Naughty got her start. She began writing for a women's magazine in Australia, which led her to discover a whole community of women making their own kind of porn - the female-friendly kind. This opened her eyes to new possibilities in adult filmmaking, and she decided to jump in and give it a shot herself. Talk about a career change!What makes Miss Naughty's work stand out is her focus on authenticity and real connections between performers. She's not interested in that over-the-top, performative stuff you see in mainstream porn. Instead, she lets her performers be themselves and explore their sexuality naturally. There's this great moment she talks about where a performer had an emotional response during filming, and instead of yelling "cut," they decided to keep rolling and capture that raw, genuine moment.The technical side of things wasn't always smooth sailing, though. Miss Naughty shares this hilarious story about her first time directing, where she was so nervous she ended up taking over camera duties herself. But that's what makes her journey so relatable - she learned as she went along, improving her skills and developing her unique style over time.One of the most interesting parts of the conversation is when she digs into what makes feminist porn different from mainstream stuff. It's not just about who's behind the camera; it's about the whole approach. Miss Naughty focuses on storytelling, consent, and making sure everyone's comfortable on set. She's moved away from that classic "pouting at the camera" style, preferring to capture something that looks more like how people actually have sex in real life.The interview wraps up with some great insights about how the industry is changing, especially with platforms like OnlyFans giving performers more control over their content. Miss Naughty's pretty excited about this shift, saying it's fantastic that performers now have the power to create what they want and get paid properly for it. But she also believes there's still room for the kind of thoughtful, professionally produced content she's been making for the past 24 years.Looking back at her career, Miss Naughty has some regrets - like not having the chance to work with trans actresses - but overall, she's been a pioneering force in creating adult content that puts female pleasure and authentic experiences front and center. Her work shows that porn doesn't have to follow the old-school rules - it can be ethical, feminist, and still totally hot.Playful Icebreaker Questions (00:00:24) Jenny asks Miss Naughty fun, rapid-fire questions to set a playful tone and introduce her personality.Miss Naughty’s Background & Feminist Porn Origins (00:01:36) Miss Naughty describes her identity, career beginnings, and motivation for creating porn for women and alternatives to mainstream.First Films & DIY Filmmaking Challenges (00:04:22) Miss Naughty recounts her first experiences directing, the nerves, and the hands-on, low-budget nature of her early shoots.Evolution as an Erotic Filmmaker (00:05:27) She discusses how her filmmaking skills, storytelling, and editing improved over time, and the challenges of visual storytelling in porn.Defining Ethical & Feminist Porn (00:07:20) Miss Naughty explains the differences between ethical/feminist porn and mainstream, focusing on consent, performer experience, and authenticity.Performer Experience & The Camera’s Role (00:11:43) Discussion about performers’ exhibitionism, the impact of being filmed, and the importance of unobtrusive filming.Feminine vs. Masculine Gaze in Porn (00:13:31) Exploring the concepts of feminine and masculine perspectives in porn, and how Miss Naughty centers female pleasure and authenticity.Documentary Style & Authenticity (00:15:50) Miss Naughty’s preference for documentary-style filming, avoiding performative tropes, and aiming for authentic sexual experiences.Mainstream Limitations & Queer/Trans Inclusion (00:18:17) Discussion of mainstream porn’s limitations, Miss Naughty’s work with queer performers, and the importance of performer-driven content.Advice for Newcomers & Technology (00:21:06) Miss Naughty offers practical advice for aspiring filmmakers, emphasizing accessible technology, lighting, sound, and the importance of editing.Erotic Writing & Imagination (00:22:56) She shares her experience with erotic writing, its power to spark imagination, and its unique role in sexual expression.Career Highlights & Industry Contribution ...
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    27 分