"We have to know where the child is, and in order to do that, we have to first know where we are. We need to make sure that we're taken care of so that we can be there for our child. We need to validate ourselves, we need to give ourselves grace, we need to give ourselves slack." —Devora Segall

Grief sits in the same room as parenting, yet most conversations stay silent about how loss reshapes home life, discipline, and connection with kids. This conversation brings grief, guilt, and the daily chaos of parenting into the open and offers grounded ways to create more calm and safety at home. Practical emotional tools, not perfection, sit at the center of this discussion on healing.
Parenting coach and therapist Devora Segall shares how miscarriage, the loss of her father, and raising ten children led her to peaceful parenting and DBT-based skills. Her story shows how real families can move from constant yelling and shame to steadier, more mindful connections.
Press play to hear how our grief story can become a growth story, including:
Parenting after miscarriage and other losses
• Using DBT skills for calmer parenting moments
• Helping kids handle big feelings and triggers
• When to share emotions with kids and when to protect them
• What "peaceful parenting" looks like in real life
• The role of self-care and vulnerabilities for stressed parents
• How coaching and therapy support parents who feel stuck

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Episode Highlights:
01:56 Devorah's Journey: Miscarriage, Motherhood, and Discovering DBT
08:10 Parenting Through Loss: Validating Kids' Feelings and Vulnerabilities
09:23 Devorah's Books: Peaceful Parenting Solution and Trauma Aware Tools
14:15 Should Parents Hide Emotions From Kids
19:00 Hosting, Mentoring, and Devorah's Definition of Live Love Survive Thrive
23:01 Bridging Mind and Heart: Therapy, Coaching, and Post-Traumatic Growth
30:00 Give Yourself Grace

Resources:
Books
📖Grid: Once in a Lifetime You Get to Start Over by Dr. Kimberly Hubenette
📖Live, Love, Survive, Thrive! by Dr. Kimberly Hubenette
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