Why do terrible things happen? Why did this relationship end? Why did I lose the job I worked so hard for? Why did someone I love have to die?

This week, my 28-year-old nephew, Joshua, died.

In this extraordinarily personal episode of The Learning Love Podcast, I talk honestly about the question that so often rises to the surface when life breaks our hearts: Why?

It is a completely reasonable question. We ask it after death, divorce, breakups, betrayal, job loss, illness, and every other kind of devastating change. We search for an explanation because we hope understanding will somehow make the pain easier to carry.

But sometimes no satisfying answer comes.

Sometimes the answers we receive feel shallow, unfair, or painfully inadequate. And sometimes, the question of why keeps us standing at the entrance of grief, waiting for an explanation before we allow ourselves to begin mourning.

Grief often begins when we loosen our grip on the question of why.

That does not mean the question was wrong. It does not mean the loss makes sense. It means we slowly stop demanding an answer that may never come and begin facing what has happened—with honesty, love, sorrow, and grace.

This episode is for anyone grieving a death, divorce, breakup, lost dream, lost opportunity, or a life that did not unfold the way you believed it would.

There may be no good answer to why.

But healing can still begin.

In memory of Joshua.