エピソード

  • Confused? Learn The Power Of Digital Thinking

    Confused? Learn The Power Of Digital Thinking
    2026/07/07
    Without clarity of good and bad, anything goes. Satan wants us confused, thinking that things are not really good or bad. In fact, he wants you to think that things are complex, even those things that are plain and obvious. The primary strategy that he uses to add complexity to our life is was used with Eve in the Garden of Eden.
    続きを読む 一部表示
    30 分
  • The Critical Element For Change

    The Critical Element For Change
    2026/06/30
    The common pattern everyone experiences has three simple steps and it sounds like this: “I was living this way. Then one day THIS happened. Now I live my life differently.”
    続きを読む 一部表示
    30 分
  • Fake It Till You Make It?

    Fake It Till You Make It?
    2026/06/23
    Actions can help your feelings change. But if you are acting differently than you feel, does that mean you "Fake it till you make it?" Since your feelings are indicators, they reveal what your thoughts are and what your actions may be. Feelings and BehaviorNo doubt, thinking belongs at the beginning, so should acting come second or third? You can realize significant benefits when you act, even when your emotions oppose the action, and strengthen your action when emotions are engaged.Which is it – acting then feeling, or feeling then acting? You have entered the "fake it till you make it" domain.What is the connection between feelings and behavior? Do your feelings impact your behavior? Does your behavior impact your feelings?The answer is yes; both happen. It is easy to see that feelings drive behaviors, but the opposite is also true. For example, researchers have consistently found that people behaving in ways that conflict with their feelings or attitudes will change their feelings to be consistent with their behavior. That is why people who suffer the trauma of having an amputation are asked to help other patients as soon as possible.Act the Way You Want to FeelOrder or consistency is essential for life and your body. Research shows that if you feel depressed, you can act differently than your feelings to impact the depressed feelings. Consider the following:Isaiah 58:10 (NKJV) – If you extend your soul to the hungry and satisfy the afflicted soul, then your light shall dawn in the darkness, and your darkness shall be as the noonday.When you serve others, your darkness turns to light because you stop focusing on yourself. God wants you to help others which models His behavior instead of “flashing our ME.”Face, Body, BreatheYou can experiment with yourself to prove whether actions can alter feelings with a simple technique. Try it the next time you are feeling sad. Three steps – Face, Body, Breathe/Speak. Start with your face. Ask yourself, “How would I like to feel right now?” If you answer “sad,” then this three-step technique may not help, but if you answer “happy,” “joyful,” “peaceful,” or other similar words, then put a smile or at least a pleasant expression on your face. Even if you answered “sad,” you can still try this.Next, look at your body. Most likely, your body reflects sadness – slumped shoulders, head down, moving slowly. Change your body to be in a position that demonstrates your chosen emotion. At least sit or stand up straight, with your shoulders back and chin up, and have a good posture. Start moving with a little more energy.Finally, think about your breathing and speech. Take some deep breaths and speak with energy and articulation if you need to talk. You will soon see the critical element that makes this technique work.We are now clearly in the "fake it till you make it" arena.Not Being FakeIf you do those three steps, you put your body out of sync with your emotions. So, your feelings are sad, but your body is “happy,” which leaves you in what researchers call dissonance – emotions and actions are not equal. You have two options – change your feelings to be like your body or your body to be like your emotions. If you let your body remain “happy,” you will experience the reality of emotions being responders. They are responding to your actions and, more importantly, to your thinking, which drives your actions.“But that is fake it till you make it!” That could be the case, but if you decide joy is more critical than being sad or depressed, it is not fake – it is being true to your values or priorities. Being depressed is not what you value, it is the actual “fake” item. This technique can help you to be authentic.A Common Pattern for Life ChangeGood thinking helps us eliminate the lousy part of a common pattern everyone experiences. This pattern occurs over and over, with the outcome of each occurrence leading either to a life that glorifies God or further self-absorption.The common pattern has three simple statements:“I was living this way. Then one day, THIS happened. Now I live my life differently.”On closer inspection of many life changes, you will see more detail which sounds like this:“I was living this way. Then THIS happened … it happened again and again and again … Then it struck me! I got it! Now, I live my life differently.”That is the standard form of every testimony you hear at church or any program that helps people change. There are multiple examples of this pattern in the Bible. One of the more known examples would be King David in 2 Samuel 11 and 12. There you can read the story of David and Bathsheba.King DavidA shortened version of the story is David commits adultery with Bathsheba. She later told him she was pregnant. Since her husband, Uriah, was away at war, David arranged a time for Uriah to come home. That would give time for husband and wife to be together, covering up David’s ...
    続きを読む 一部表示
    30 分
  • Just Let Me Be Mad

    Just Let Me Be Mad
    2026/06/16
    Some people aren't interested in getting to a solution or finding a way to get along - they say, "Just let me be mad!" Is that okay? Not if they are not willing to slow down and talk to help resolve whatever is the issue. But, you also want them to express those feelings whether valid or not. Feelings are bad or good; they are just indicators. Therefore, they respond to the stimuli they receive and are untrustworthy and fickle. You can reinforce the idea that feelings are primarily responders and often untrustworthy by considering two simple statements: Bad can feel good Good can feel bad “Bad can feel good” is easy to prove. You have no doubt experienced feeling good, even excited, as you encounter temptation and sin. But it is followed by an inner conviction that you have done something wrong. That good feeling about doing something bad will always be temporary unless your heart is hardened. Vengeance is one “bad” that may feel good longer than other sins because your mind is focused on justice and “getting even.” Most other sins register quickly with regret or guilt replacing whatever positive emotion was there. The story of any sin fits the “bad can feel good” statement and is clearly illustrated in the original sin in the Garden of Eden. So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree desirable to make one wise, she took of its fruit and ate. She also gave to her husband with her, and he ate. Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves coverings. And they heard the sound of the LORD God walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and Adam and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the LORD God among the trees of the garden. – Genesis 3:6–8 (NKJV) Put yourself in Eve’s place and let your emotions follow the story. Eve was swept away by the appeal of the fruit – good for food, pleasant to the eyes, could make her wise – so she ate. It sounds like she felt good about eating the fruit, BUT it was bad. And to prove it was bad, notice where their feelings go next. “Their eyes were opened…knew they were naked…hid themselves…” Feelings were responding to the reality of what God said would happen. Most often, the good feelings happen before and during the sin because we do not listen to the conviction of our conscience or the Holy Spirit saying – “Think about this! Don’t do it!” “Good can feel bad” is also real. Consider the emotional conflict you experience when you know a close friend or relative is sinning. You know it is time to speak with them, so you gather your courage to do it, but your emotions work against you. And, in those cases where the conversation goes poorly, you may experience feelings of regret instead of peace or joy for doing what was right. A good parent disciplining their child understands that “good can feel bad.” Similarly, when a good leader shares the truth with a person because they are not doing a good job, it often does not feel good. Consider the following: Just because I do right, does not mean I will feel right (at that time) Corollary: Just because I feel right does not mean I am doing right
    続きを読む 一部表示
    30 分
  • Excellent Tools for Change

    Excellent Tools for Change
    2026/06/09
    To use the Magic Question tool properly you need good listening and question skills. It is designed to help people discover solutions rather than being told what to do. Try these steps on yourself and see what happens.
    続きを読む 一部表示
    30 分
  • Not Emotion Led or Emotionless

    Not Emotion Led or Emotionless
    2026/06/02
    Do you have a favorite scary movie? Maybe the classic movie "Pyscho". Mine is the original "Alien" and even though it is my favorite, it's difficult to watch, because it does such a good job of scaring me with its special effects and story!
    続きを読む 一部表示
    30 分
  • Freedom V Principle

    Freedom V Principle
    2026/05/26
    The Freedom V is an excellent tool and principle because it helps you grasp the relationship between freedom and self-governance. The Freedom V graphic is largely self-explanatory. The two most essential elements are the V shape and the arrow in the middle.The V ElementsFirst, the V shape. The lines on the right and left are boundaries that define the limits of acceptable behavior. These boundaries are best when they are clear and bright. Nothing is left to speculation or conjecture. And they need to be easily known and advertised, if possible.Second, the space inside the V represents the area of Responsible Freedom. That is where you use your freedom responsibly, within the structure’s accepted norms. The amount of freedom increases as you move up the V shape. The structure can be malevolent or benign, but there will still be a V shape. Even in the most disgusting dictatorships or gangs, some gain more freedom by not crossing the boundaries set by the structure.Third, outside the V are consequences for crossing the boundaries. Once you cross the boundary, you move into the area of Irresponsible Freedom. Again, this applies to both good- and bad-value organizations or structures. Even evil organizations have their boundaries. Hopefully, the consequences are clearly stated when the boundaries are set.The ArrowFinally, the arrow in the middle represents self-governance. The color on the arrow represents the degree of self-governance being demonstrated. At the bottom, it needs improvement. The yellow and green represent the increase in self-governance as you move from bottom to top. And the colors directly correlate with the narrow or expansive freedom allowed.So, you can see that for any of us, in the structures in which we live, the more we abide by the rules of the structure and stay within the boundaries, the greater freedom is provided. In other words, the more self-governance is demonstrated, the more freedom is provided.The TableIn the graph above, the table to the right provides some additional ways to look at the Freedom V. For example, you can divide self-governance into three distinct levels that overlap.Self-absorbed - From the bottom in the red into the yellow area. That would be someone who is either inexperienced, lacks knowledge of a topic, or ignores what is right. That is the Learning Stage, which is the same as the first stage of the GR8 Leaders coaching model. At that stage, people need specific rules due to tighter controls. That does not mean you ignore the “why” of the rules.Self-controlled - From the middle yellow area into the green. That would be someone who demonstrates adequate self-governance. This can be measured generally or specifically for individual work or life situations. They are in the Apply Stage, where they mostly need guidelines since they understand the rules.Selfless or Self-denial - The top area of self-governance that tends to work to benefit others. That is the Serve Stage, where people operate on principles and know how to apply them to various life situations.The Freedom V will work with any relationship or organization and is especially well-suited to families and businesses with strong values.A person with self-governance considers others and the impact of their actions on others. They will stay within the V if the freedom inside the V is about excellent and Godly values.
    続きを読む 一部表示
    30 分
  • What Is The Highest Principle?

    What Is The Highest Principle?
    2026/05/19
    The Antonov 225 is a very large airplane—350 tons and can carry 300 tons of cargo—but it flies! That must mean that gravity is not real OR there is a principle higher than gravity. Of course, gravity is real, but Bernoulli's Principle shows us that speed combined with the shape of a wing creates lift "defying" gravity.
    続きを読む 一部表示
    30 分