Our cup of coffee discussion focuses on polite truths and how to teach our kids the difference between a lie that can hurt someones feelings or a lie that can spare someones feelings. We discuss in depth white (harmless) lies vs matter of fact truths and polite truths. Teaching our kids how to filter their thoughts is next level parenting. "Think about how someone will feel if you say this" and practicing different solutions will help our kids navigate their day as well as their digital life with the goal of maintaining their friendships.

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Part 3 of 3 of our making friends series dives into the importance of perspective in relationships. Understanding others, social problem solving, awareness and empathy, recognizing social expectations, and understanding intent are key topics discussed to close out our series. For our kids (and yes, for adults) it is important to learn to see a topic through another lens. What do you see? What do our friends see? What do you think? What do you think our friends think? What did you hear? What did our friends here? There is so much here and we only begin to introduce this concept in our cup of coffee session. The idea that maybe one of our friends is convinced the sky is red. Maybe that is simply all the information they have to think that. Does that change if they have your perspective? Does your belief change if you have theirs? Is a candle shaped like an apple a candle, or is it an apple? Depends on what information you have to decide? Sometimes our beliefs are emotion based. It rarely works when we tell someone how to feel. How do we rationalize our beliefs? We discuss think vs know vs believe and introduce the concept of tactical deception. Book recommendations include Good News Bad News by Jeff Mack and Freddie the Fly by Kimberly Delude. Board Game recommendation Apples to Apples Jr.

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Part 2 of 3 of our making friends series, LenEll, Trisha and Chad talk about the line of humor vs sarcasm. Humor is anything that makes people laugh. It can be light-hearted or dark, slapstick or witty. Humor includes jokes, puns, funny stories! Sarcasm is more biting and intended to mock or convey contempt. It’s often used to criticize or insult. An important part of making friends is knowing the difference. Where is the line? When does an emerging skill such as appropriate humor cross over into bullying? When our kids are online, how do they know the difference and how can parents help our kids navigate true relationships from those that are potentially harmful? How can parents help with an emerging sense of humor and how do our kids mirror their parents’ personality? When does a joke go too far and when it does how can we help our kids learn to pull it back? When is kidding truly kidding or when is it not kidding?

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