What if the reason your relationships feel hard isn’t communication… but your nervous system?

In this episode of the Finding Better Podcast, John Suzuki sits down with Diane McDowell, creator of the Brain to Heart Code, to explore why love can feel unsafe even when everything else in life is working. Diane explains how our brains are wired for survival—not connection—and how a hidden “brain hijack” can turn the people we love most into perceived threats.

Together, John and Diane unpack how emotional disconnection happens, why willpower and communication tools aren’t enough, and how learning to regulate your nervous system can completely change how you show up in relationships—from romantic partnerships to work and everyday life.

Inside this conversation, you’ll learn:

1. Why most relationship struggles aren’t about communication 2. How the “brain hijack” turns closeness into perceived danger 3. Why shame and self-blame keep relationship cycles stuck 4. How emotional safety changes everything—without needing your partner to change 5. The power of calming your nervous system in moments that matter 6. Why changing your energy can change the entire relationship dynamic

💡 Key Takeaways:

1. Your brain is designed for safety, not connection—and that matters in love 2. Understanding your nervous system removes shame and blame 3. It only takes one regulated person to shift a relationship 4. Emotional safety starts from the inside out 5. You don’t need to fix yourself—you need to feel safe being you

Connect with Diane McDowell:

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/diane-mcdowell/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/diane_pqc/ Website: https://www.powerfulquestionscoaching.com/

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Want success that fuels you — not drains you? 🚀 In this conversation, Dorota Kosiorek (neuroscience coach, ex-consultant) explains how she hit the “success wall,” rewired her high-achiever brain, and designed a version of success that brings peace and productivity.

John Suzuki sits down with Dorota Kosiorek — a former consultant turned neuroscience coach for high achievers — to unpack the mental tools that let you keep winning without burning out. Over 13+ years in high-pressure corporate & startup roles Dorota discovered achievement without peace isn’t success. In this episode we cover practical brain training exercises, the power of one-word shifts, mental rehearsal used by elite athletes, and how to build boundaries and routines that protect your energy.

Inside this conversation you’ll learn:

1. Why the words “have to” vs “get to” change how your brain experiences work. 2. How the prefrontal cortex explains why mornings are prime for deep work. 3. Simple, science-backed exercises (mental rehearsal, visualization) to build confidence and skill. 4. How to use the 80/20 rule to stop perfecting low-value tasks and focus on what moves the needle. 5. Practical steps to say “no,” set boundaries, and rehearse difficult conversations. 6. Why adding the word “yet” unlocks a growth mindset for high achievers.

💡 Key Takeaways:

1. Reframe language: swap “I have to” → “I get to” (and add “yet” to limiting beliefs). 2. Prioritize deep work in the morning — your prefrontal cortex is freshest then. 3. Train your brain like an athlete: mental rehearsal builds confidence and improves performance. 4. Use the 80/20 rule to focus energy on the 20% that creates 80% of value. 5. Start small with daily micro-practices to build sustainable change (boundaries, visualization, morning rituals).

Connect with Doroa: Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dorotakosiorek Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mindbydorota/ Facebook: https://www.ook: facebook.com/dorota.kosiorek.56/

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Want a life that actually matters — not just more stuff? 🎧

In this episode, John Suzuki sits down with Alan Lazaros, founder & CEO of Next Level University, to unpack what it really means to optimize for fulfillment — not just happiness or success. After surviving a near-fatal car accident at 26, Alan rebuilt his life around purpose, personal development, and reaching one’s full potential.

Together, John and Alan explore the mathematics of consistency, the compounding effect of tiny daily improvements, and why being “healthy, wealthy, and in love” is so rare — yet worth striving for.

Inside this conversation, you’ll learn:

1. Why “fulfillment” (not quick happiness) is the real north star 2. How 0.1% daily improvement compounds into massive life outcomes 3. How to reframe setbacks as turning points toward purpose 4. Why health, wealth, and love are “three full-time jobs” 5. How to play the long game using math, mindset, and meaning 6. Why community and belonging will be the next true competitive edge

💡 Key Takeaways:

1. Small, consistent improvement beats intensity — every time 2. Fulfillment is a by-product of pursuing your full potential 3. True balance in health, wealth, and love requires intention 4. The rate of change is exponential — human connection is the anchor

Connect with Alan: Facebook: www.facebook.com/alan.lazaros Instagram: www.instagram.com/alazaros88 Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alanlazarosllc Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@NextLevelUniversity Website: https://www.nextleveluniverse.com

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