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Fake It Till You Make It?

Fake It Till You Make It?

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Actions can help your feelings change. But if you are acting differently than you feel, does that mean you "Fake it till you make it?" Since your feelings are indicators, they reveal what your thoughts are and what your actions may be. Feelings and BehaviorNo doubt, thinking belongs at the beginning, so should acting come second or third? You can realize significant benefits when you act, even when your emotions oppose the action, and strengthen your action when emotions are engaged.Which is it – acting then feeling, or feeling then acting? You have entered the "fake it till you make it" domain.What is the connection between feelings and behavior? Do your feelings impact your behavior? Does your behavior impact your feelings?The answer is yes; both happen. It is easy to see that feelings drive behaviors, but the opposite is also true. For example, researchers have consistently found that people behaving in ways that conflict with their feelings or attitudes will change their feelings to be consistent with their behavior. That is why people who suffer the trauma of having an amputation are asked to help other patients as soon as possible.Act the Way You Want to FeelOrder or consistency is essential for life and your body. Research shows that if you feel depressed, you can act differently than your feelings to impact the depressed feelings. Consider the following:Isaiah 58:10 (NKJV) – If you extend your soul to the hungry and satisfy the afflicted soul, then your light shall dawn in the darkness, and your darkness shall be as the noonday.When you serve others, your darkness turns to light because you stop focusing on yourself. God wants you to help others which models His behavior instead of “flashing our ME.”Face, Body, BreatheYou can experiment with yourself to prove whether actions can alter feelings with a simple technique. Try it the next time you are feeling sad. Three steps – Face, Body, Breathe/Speak. Start with your face. Ask yourself, “How would I like to feel right now?” If you answer “sad,” then this three-step technique may not help, but if you answer “happy,” “joyful,” “peaceful,” or other similar words, then put a smile or at least a pleasant expression on your face. Even if you answered “sad,” you can still try this.Next, look at your body. Most likely, your body reflects sadness – slumped shoulders, head down, moving slowly. Change your body to be in a position that demonstrates your chosen emotion. At least sit or stand up straight, with your shoulders back and chin up, and have a good posture. Start moving with a little more energy.Finally, think about your breathing and speech. Take some deep breaths and speak with energy and articulation if you need to talk. You will soon see the critical element that makes this technique work.We are now clearly in the "fake it till you make it" arena.Not Being FakeIf you do those three steps, you put your body out of sync with your emotions. So, your feelings are sad, but your body is “happy,” which leaves you in what researchers call dissonance – emotions and actions are not equal. You have two options – change your feelings to be like your body or your body to be like your emotions. If you let your body remain “happy,” you will experience the reality of emotions being responders. They are responding to your actions and, more importantly, to your thinking, which drives your actions.“But that is fake it till you make it!” That could be the case, but if you decide joy is more critical than being sad or depressed, it is not fake – it is being true to your values or priorities. Being depressed is not what you value, it is the actual “fake” item. This technique can help you to be authentic.A Common Pattern for Life ChangeGood thinking helps us eliminate the lousy part of a common pattern everyone experiences. This pattern occurs over and over, with the outcome of each occurrence leading either to a life that glorifies God or further self-absorption.The common pattern has three simple statements:“I was living this way. Then one day, THIS happened. Now I live my life differently.”On closer inspection of many life changes, you will see more detail which sounds like this:“I was living this way. Then THIS happened … it happened again and again and again … Then it struck me! I got it! Now, I live my life differently.”That is the standard form of every testimony you hear at church or any program that helps people change. There are multiple examples of this pattern in the Bible. One of the more known examples would be King David in 2 Samuel 11 and 12. There you can read the story of David and Bathsheba.King DavidA shortened version of the story is David commits adultery with Bathsheba. She later told him she was pregnant. Since her husband, Uriah, was away at war, David arranged a time for Uriah to come home. That would give time for husband and wife to be together, covering up David’s ...
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