Have you ever reacted to your spouse in a way that felt a little too big for the moment? Maybe something small set you off, or a simple disagreement left you feeling anxious, shut down, or angry—and you didn’t know why.

Chances are, your implicit memory was doing the talking.

In this episode, we’re diving into what implicit memory is, how it quietly shapes your responses, and how it can impact your marriage—especially when it goes unrecognized. But don’t worry—we’re also talking about how healing and understanding can take its place.

💡 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

• What implicit memory is and why it matters in marriage
• How your past (even the unspoken parts) shows up in your present relationship
• Why your spouse’s reactions may not be about you—and how to not take them personally
• Biblical encouragement for healing and renewing your mind
• Practical steps to move from triggered to transformed

🛠️ Helpful Tools:

• Recognize your “emotional cues” and learn how to pause before reacting
• Grow in compassion—for your spouse and yourself
• Learn how to bring your past to the Lord and invite Him into your healing

📖 Scripture Encouragement:

• Romans 12:2 – “Be transformed by the renewing of your mind…”
• Psalm 139:23–24 – “Search me, God, and know my heart…”
• 2 Corinthians 10:5 – “Take every thought captive…”

❤️ Episode CTA:

If something from your past is showing up uninvited in your marriage, it’s not too late to understand it—and heal. You’re not broken. You’re human. And there is so much hope when we bring our whole selves, past included, to Jesus.

📝 Consider journaling or praying through this week:

“Lord, show me where I’m reacting from my past instead of responding with Your truth.”

And if this episode blessed you, share it with a friend—or your spouse—and start the conversation together.

https://expeditionmarriage.org/podcast/ep-140-when-the-past-shows-up-uninvited-understanding-implicit-memory-in-marriage

If you're tired of repeating the same arguments, feeling stuck in old habits, or just wondering how to truly grow together as a couple—this episode is for you.

We're discussing what it really means to renew your marriage God's way—not just through behavior change, but through heart transformation. Straight from Ephesians 4:22–24, we’re walking you through God’s process of:

1. Taking off the old
2. Renewing your mind
3. Putting on the new

This is God's design for lasting change—and it's not just for individuals, it's for marriages too.

💡 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

• Why lasting change in marriage can’t happen by simply “trying harder”
• What it means to take off the old self—and how to recognize what needs to go
• How to replace lies and toxic patterns with truth from God's Word
• Practical ways to “put on the new” and walk in unity, grace, and love
• Why skipping the renewing your mind step will always leave you stuck

📝 Download Your Free Printable:

Want to walk through this process step-by-step? We created a companion printable worksheet just for you!

👉 [Download the Marriage Renewal God’s Way worksheet here]
https://expeditionmarriage.org/podcast/ep-139-out-with-the-old-in-with-the-new-how-to-renew-your-marriage-gods-way

Use it during your next quiet time—or better yet, sit down and do it together as a couple.

📖 Key Scripture:

• Ephesians 4:22–24
• Romans 12:2
• Colossians 3:12–14
• James 1:22

❤️ Episode CTA:

Don’t just settle for a better mood in your marriage—go for a renewed mind and a transformed relationship. Take this episode to heart, download the free worksheet, and start letting go of the old to step into the new... together.

And if this episode encouraged you, would you take a second to share it or leave a review? It helps us keep pouring into couples like you every week!

Have you ever said something in the heat of the moment that you immediately regretted? You’re not alone—and you’re not without hope.

In this episode, we’re diving into what it means to respond with wisdom instead of reaction in your marriage—especially during those emotionally charged conversations. We’ll walk through several Proverbs that offer practical, biblical guidance for communicating in ways that build connection instead of tearing it down.

Whether you struggle with anger, defensiveness, or just don’t know what to say when tensions rise, this episode will help you pause, reflect, and choose the way of wisdom.

🔑 What You’ll Learn:

• • Why tone, timing, and self-control matter in communication

• What the book of Proverbs teaches us about responding rather than reacting
• How to catch your breath and check your heart in real time
• The power of slowing down before you speak—and the damage of careless words
• How godly wisdom strengthens your marriage even in conflict

📖 Scriptures Mentioned:

• • Proverbs 15:1 – “A gentle answer turns away wrath…”

• • Proverbs 18:21 – “The tongue has the power of life and death…”

• • James 1:19 – “Be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.”

• • Proverbs 29:11 – “Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end.”

📥 Grab Your Free Resource:

Want to take this conversation further with your spouse?
Download our free 7 Proverbs for Better Communication handout + couples discussion guide to help you apply biblical wisdom to the way you speak and listen in marriage.

👉 Download it here: https://expeditionmarriage.org/podcast/ep-138-when-fools-rush-in-what-proverbs-teaches-us-about-conflict

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