I have three coffee mugs on my shelf with three women I adore. Hannah Waddingham as Rebecca Welton, Catherine O'Hara as Moira Rose, and Dolly Parton. Catherine died in January. Dolly died a week ago. Losing two of those three women in the same year hit me harder than I expected.

But when I started thinking about what I wanted to say about Dolly, I didn't want to talk about the thing that everybody else is talking about. I wanted to talk about what nobody is putting in the headline.

Dolly Parton was one of the greatest businesswomen who ever lived. And she used the fact that people underestimated her as a cover to build it.

Timestamps

[0:00] Opening: Three mugs, two losses, and what nobody's putting in the headline

[1:07] Why this episode exists: the wealth story underneath the tributes

[1:43] 1966: A 20-year-old Dolly starts her own publishing company before she's famous

[3:14] The real wealth lesson: she structured for ownership before she had any leverage

[4:52] She didn't know which song would become Jolene. She just knew she wanted to own what she created.

[5:40] 1974: Elvis wants I Will Always Love You. Colonel Tom Parker wants half the publishing rights.

[6:39] Why she said no and what that decision actually was

[7:20] The version of the Elvis offer you've probably already received

[9:05] Dollywood: how music income became equity in an operating company

[10:52] The actual wealth gap: not how much you make but what you convert it into

[11:23] After Whitney: the royalty becomes property in a historically Black Nashville neighborhood

[13:18] Philanthropy model one: capital as incentive. The buddy program and the dropout rate.

[14:03] Philanthropy model two: capital as infrastructure. The Imagination Library.

[15:23] Philanthropy model three: capital as intervention. The wildfires, the My People Fund, and the COVID vaccine.

[16:06] What it means when your wealth is big enough that some of it doesn't need a return calculation

[17:15] The full progression: earn, own, convert, compound, deploy

[19:09] The question to sit with this week: would you recognize the Elvis offer if it showed up?

[20:14] What we're building at Expand Your Empire

I would never say I was really ever irresponsible with money. Once I got out of the college debt phase and became an adult, I could balance a checkbook, I paid my bills on time, nobody would have looked at my life and said there's a woman who doesn't have it together.

But here is the other part of that conversation. There were financial things happening in my own house where I basically thought, he understands this better than I do, he will make the right decision. And that was enough for me to completely opt out on purpose. Nobody actually told me I couldn't be part of the conversation. I just told myself, what do I even have to offer here?

It wasn't about what I knew. I was plenty capable. It was about whether I believed I had any standing to be in the room at all.

And that's when I started realizing how badly we have defined being good with money for women. We taught women how to manage money. We didn't teach them they were allowed to ask what it was for.

This is the start of a new series: the financial advice that women need to unlearn. Not because budgeting or saving or paying off debt is bad advice. It's just half the advice. We've been taught the defense really well. What we haven't been taught is the offense.

In this episode:

• Why being great at managing money and actually having a wealth strategy are two completely different things
• The woman making $200K with $80K sitting in cash who by every definition we've been handed is great with money, and the one question that reveals the gap
• Why finding the $500 isn't the wealth strategy, finding it just gives you capital, and what you do with the capital is the strategy
• The difference between the money conversation and the wealth conversation, and why the language changes completely
• How leverage actually works when used correctly and why it's neither magic nor a trap
• The five questions to ask yourself right now: what am I earning, what am I keeping, where am I deploying it, what am I owning, and what does what I own actually produce
• Why cash has a job but confusing your emergency fund with your long-term capital has a cost you'll never see on a statement
• What changed for Amanda wasn't becoming a financial expert, it was stopping believing that expertise was the price of admission

Click the link to access the free five-question worksheet: Wealth Gap Diagnostic

It walks you through earn, keep, deploy, own, and produce for your own numbers.

You're being asked to win two bets nobody can control the odds on. That's not a discipline problem, and no amount of budgeting harder is going to touch it.

Here's the whole menu of what you can actually do, including the parts nobody earns a commission telling you about.

Most retirement advice hands you one option and calls it a plan. Usually the one the person across the table gets paid on. This episode lays out all six, in plain language, with a way to compare them against each other in your head.

It also puts the real numbers on the table for women our age. Not the headline number you've been quietly measuring yourself against and losing to. The honest one. There's a decent chance you're in better shape than you've been told.

Chapters

• (00:00) Why my parents' retirement worked, and why you can't copy it
• (03:52) The two things nobody can know in advance
• (07:22) The market risk that actually matters — and it isn't the one you think
• (09:00) The number you've been measuring yourself against is the wrong number
• (12:04) One piece of math that makes every option comparable
• (14:11) Menu item one: what waiting on Social Security is really worth
• (16:00) Menu item two: a reserve that doesn't sit there doing nothing
• (17:52) Menu item three: bond ladders, explained without the vocabulary
• (18:30) Menu item four: leaving in stages, and why that's not "just work longer"
• (19:26) Menu item five: the long-term care problem that lands hardest on women
• (20:11) Menu item six: guaranteed income, and the four things that actually matter
• (21:15) How your advisor gets paid, and which options never come up
• (23:11) Why freezing feels safer than choosing wrong
• (26:07) The one thing to go do this month

Do this after you listen: pull up your Social Security statement and find out what waiting is worth in dollars. It takes ten minutes and it's free. That's the whole assignment.

When you want the full picture: I run a wealth strategy call where you walk out knowing three things — what income your current assets are positioned to produce, where the gap is between that and the life you're planning on, and which levers could close it. Not a slide deck. Not a product pitch.

Book here: The Wealth Strategy Intensive | Expand Your Empire

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Nothing here is advice about your specific situation. Guarantees on insurance products come from the company that issues them, not the government.

I remember the first time I heard the idea of buying an existing business instead of starting one from scratch. It came from Codie Sanchez, who's built her whole platform around exactly that, buying boring, unsexy businesses instead of starting new ones.

What got me wasn't the idea itself. It was that I had never even considered it as an option. I understood numbers. I understood operations. I understood what made a place run or fall apart. And somehow in my head, businesses were things people started or inherited. Buying one belonged in a completely different category, one I didn't even know I had until I noticed I did.

I had this same realization all over again a couple weeks ago, talking with my friend Christine Slocumb about the twenty-plus years she spent building her marketing agency before she sold it.

In this episode:

• Why you're not missing opportunities because there aren't enough of them, you're missing entire categories of them
• How proximity trains pattern recognition, and why that goes so much deeper than motivation or inspiration
• The identity filter that quietly rules out categories before they even get to yes or no in your brain
• Why your comfort level was never measuring the opportunity, it was measuring your exposure to it
• Why the menu you think you're choosing from is only a fraction of what actually exists
• Three ways to be part of an opportunity that don't all require capital: own it, help finance it, or connect it
• The Opportunity List to start building this week

Go build the list. And when someone tells you they're retiring, when someone tells you they're selling, when someone says their landlord wants out, wait. And think.

This is episode 52. One full year of this show, and I'm marking it by getting specific about a sentence I've said probably a thousand times.

When women control capital, the world changes.

I still believe it. But I've started to think a lot of you hear that and translate it into something I never said: when I finally have enough money, then the world changes.

So you keep earning. The number goes up. And you wait for something to arrive and tell you you're cleared to start. Nothing is coming. There's no letter.

This episode is about the difference between those two sentences, and it starts with someone you've met before.

Susan, from episode 46, bought an auto mechanic shop she had no business buying. She'd never worked on a car in her life. What she had was money she could get her hands on, nobody she had to ask, and something she wanted that money to do. That's the entire list. No fund behind her. No family office. No MBA in acquisitions.

Those three things have a name. Access, authority, intention. That's what control actually is, and today I'm taking all three apart.

In this episode:

• Why control and accumulation are two different things
• Access, authority, intention, and why most of you have more access than you think
• Why the number keeps moving and the feeling never arrives
• Which of your questions have findable answers, and which one never will
• Why men are usually allowed to turn a loss into experience, and women are more likely to turn it into evidence against themselves
• Input, agreement, and permission, and why only one of them is a problem
• Why the person with veto power is sometimes someone who has been gone for years
• The one sentence that changes how you behave when an opportunity lands in front of you

Your assignment: Finish this sentence. If I could fund one thing, I'd fund ______. Send it to me on Instagram. I read every one, and year two of this show is getting built out of what comes back.

Mentioned: Episode 46, the full conversation with Susan: Your Business Is Worth More Without You – Expand Your Empire

She Built It For 22 Years. Made Herself Replaceable On Purpose. Then Sold It.

Most conversations about selling a company stop at the wire transfer. The money hits, everyone claps, roll credits. Christine Slocumb built a healthcare marketing agency over 22 years, made herself replaceable on purpose, and then sold it to private equity. And then she wrote the book on everything the sale price doesn't tell you. Her book, Mastering the Exit Gauntlet, is about the part that comes after. What happens to your identity when the inbox goes quiet on day one. What it costs to be the only woman in the room for 22 years. And the reframe that keeps coming back: everything you get after closing day is fun money.

What you do with it is the actual point. In this episode:

• Why the business that feels like a part of you is the hardest one to sell, and why not being emotionally ready to sell is the most expensive mistake you can make going in
• The five-year plan Christine's advisor gave her that changed everything, including her lifestyle, before the sale ever happened
• Why you should be able to step away from your business and take a vacation right now, whether you're selling or not
• What it's actually like to be the only woman in the room during a three-year sales process, and how Christine navigated proving herself to buyers who were buying the business, not her lifestyle
• Why the wire transfer number at close is the only number you can count on, and how to think about everything else as a variable
• What selling did and didn't change about Christine's relationship with money, and why zeros in your account don't automatically change a complicated relationship with it
• The relationship dynamics nobody talks about when your wealth changes overnight
• Why shuttering is not failure, and why the buffet of choices available to business owners is bigger than most people let themselves see

Christine is a paid contributor to Inc. Magazine writing on business exits and post-sale identity, and an exit advisor at christineslocumb.com. Everything is linked in the show notes:

Purchase Her Book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1966168802

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LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chrisslocumb/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@christine-slocumb