In Episode 70, Donna Joy Usher shares a deeply personal trigger that surfaced during a simple moment in her current relationship—and how it cracked open old stories of needing to be the “perfect” partner to feel safe. What unfolds is a heartfelt exploration of how our childhood beliefs can shape adult dynamics and how healing these wounds requires both inner work and embodied relationship experiences.

Topics covered:

The fantasy of being the “low-maintenance” partner and how it shows up in love

Why triggers aren’t about the now—they’re about unhealed past moments

Conscious vs. unconscious relationships: key differences and how to spot them

How to navigate adult conversations with compassion and clarity

Creating structure in relationship to foster emotional safety and intimacy

Why some wounds only fully heal through loving, present relationship dynamics

✨ If you’re ready to shift out of old patterns and into empowered love, this episode will speak to your soul.

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