What does allyship look like when the Pride flags come down?

Inspired by a listener question, John Jacob and Jed dive into the uncomfortable gray areas of allyship—especially when family, marriage, loyalty, and silence all collide. Is someone still an ally if they ignore their spouse’s hateful rhetoric? Is “it’s just the internet” ever a valid excuse? And does a harmful post matter less when nobody likes, shares, or interacts with it—or does continuing to post without validation make the intent even clearer?

We unpack what it means to confront the people closest to us, whether family is automatically owed loyalty, and when protecting your peace might mean creating distance—or walking away entirely.

Jed also makes his feelings about Chick-fil-A extremely clear, because apparently no conversation about performative allyship is complete without waffle fries entering the chat.

Pride Month may end. The banners may come down. The corporations may quietly change their logos back. But LGBTQ+ people do not disappear for the other eleven months.

So what happens then?

…and THAT’s a pod convo.

### Frequently Asked Questions
**What should I do if my family member refuses to engage in this conversation?**
If they refuse to engage, it may be necessary to reassess the relationship and set boundaries to protect your well-being.

**How can I maintain a relationship with a family member who holds opposing views?**
Focus on finding common ground and mutual respect. Set clear boundaries about what discussions are acceptable and be willing to limit conversations around sensitive topics.

**What resources can I share with family members to help them understand LGBTQ+ issues?**
Consider sharing articles, books, or documentaries that highlight the experiences and challenges faced by the LGBTQ+ community.

**How can I support myself emotionally during this process?**
Seek support from friends, LGBTQ+ groups, or counseling services to help process your feelings and experiences.

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