We’re back with the second half of our conversation on attraction—this time, Sam and Gen dive deeper into what attraction really means: is it about looks, energy, or something more?

Together with guest host Karen Jewels, the trio wrestle with whether different types of attraction matter, how attraction connects to forgiveness, and what “being attractive” looks like long after the spark fades.

There are laughs, disagreements, and some uncomfortable truths—especially when the conversation turns to whether they had enough attraction in their marriage, and what it feels like now, showing up as co-hosts. And yes, we even answer the question everyone’s been asking: are we getting back together?

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*We reference the study “Making the Connection: Social Bonding in Courtship Situations,” published in the American Journal of Sociology, which found that just four minutes of conversation can be enough to spark a meaningful connection.

Timestamps:
0:51 – How important is attraction?
2:00 – Different types of attraction
5:35 – How attraction unlocks forgiveness
07:15 – Attraction vs. compatibility (Sam & Gen disagree)
13:07 – Making yourself more attractive
15:40 – Did we have enough attraction?
17:15 – How long does attraction really take to develop?
20:46 – Love Is Blind — AD & Clay
23:06 – What attraction looks like now, podcasting together
27:18 – The big one: ARE WE GETTING BACK TOGETHER?

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