Attraction brought us together. Or did it?

In this episode, we dig into what drew us to each other in the first place—our “types,” our first trip together, and those early moments when curiosity turned into commitment. Spoiler: the answers aren’t what you’d expect.

With recording artist Karen Jewels guest hosting, things get even messier (and more honest) as we talk about how attraction fades, how it sometimes flips into repulsion, and what happens when emotional safety disappears inside a marriage. Along the way, we tackle whether you can recover from trauma in-marriage, how attraction shapes respect, and how much weight it should really carry.

It’s part funny (watch Gen absolutely fumble the intro), part vulnerable (Sam and Gen confess how they lost their feelings of safety in the marriage), and part raw truth about what attraction really means when the honeymoon ends.

Timestamps:

1:13 Gen struggles HARD with the podcast intro (funny)

04:09 Sam's normal type

05:30 Our first time traveling together

07:05 The moment Sam realized he was into Gen

08:36 Gen's normal type

09:40 How Gen realized she was into Sam

11:43 How that person's type affects your own attraction

13:00 Ways Gen (initially) made Sam feel safe

15:08 How attraction transitioned into commitment

18:10 Attraction becomes repulsion

20:46 How Sam made Gen feel unsafe in the marriage (trigger warning)

21:53 Can you come back from trauma in-marriage?

24:58 How Gen made Sam feel unsafe in the marriage

28:53 How much importance to place on attraction

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