Parenting teens can feel like an emotional rollercoaster. When they’re anxious, stressed, or hurting, we feel it too. Our hearts are right there in the storm with them — which makes sense, because we love them so deeply. But sometimes that love and empathy can pull us under, leaving us exhausted, reactive, or even anxious ourselves.

In this episode, I’m sharing what I’ve learned about how to support your teen without getting pulled under and how to stay loving, present, and connected without carrying all of their emotions as your own.

I’ll walk you through six key ideas that have helped me (and so many of the parents I work with) find steadiness in those intense moments when our teens are struggling. We’ll talk about how to stop absorbing your teen’s emotions, what it really means to hold space for your teen, and how to care deeply without losing yourself in the process.

✨ 1. Don’t jump in the pool.
When your teen’s emotions feel huge, resist the urge to dive in and fix it. They don’t need you drowning with them — they need you steady on the edge, showing it’s safe to feel and move through hard things.

✨ 2. Strengthen your foundation.
If you’ve ever wondered “How do I support my teen without losing myself?” — it starts with caring for your own capacity. Even tiny moments of self-care help you stay centered when they need you most.

✨ 3. Hold space instead of fixing.
Holding space for your teen means listening before advising. A simple “That sounds really hard” helps them feel seen and capable of finding their own next step.

✨ 4. Be okay with hard emotions.
Our teens build resilience by feeling, not avoiding. Let them know it’s okay to feel sad, angry, or disappointed — emotions pass when they’re allowed.

✨ 5. Validate without absorbing.
You can care deeply without carrying their pain. Learning how to stop absorbing your teen’s emotions lets you stay empathetic without losing your own grounding.

✨ 6. Model steadiness.
They learn most by watching you. When you feel emotions, recover, and repair, you teach real resilience — not perfection, but return.

💬 In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How to support your teen without getting pulled under
• How to stop absorbing your teen’s emotions
• What holding space for your teen actually looks like
• How to support your teen without losing yourself in the process
• How to model emotional maturity through your own regulation and repair

🌿 Action Step:

Instead of trying to apply everything at once, choose one of these practices that feels the most challenging or the most needed for you right now — and try it out in one real moment with your teen this week. Maybe it’s taking a breath before you respond, listening before you fix, or letting their emotions flow without rushing to contain them. Just one small shift can create ripple effects of calm and connection.

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