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Without overthinking it (yes, I know—that’s a tall order), I asked you to name one difficult emotion you’ve felt in the last few days. Anger. Frustration. Disgust. Resentment.

If your immediate instinct was to judge yourself for it—or to shove it down and keep functioning—this episode is for you.

As women physicians, we’ve been trained to override our internal signals. Push through. Stay professional. Don’t be “too emotional.” And yet, here we are—exhausted, overwhelmed, and wondering why everything feels so heavy.

In this episode, we slow it way down and start with the basics:

• What emotions actually are (and no, they’re not weaknesses)
• Why naming an emotion matters more than “fixing” it
• How emotions show up in the body—and why that’s information, not a flaw
• The simple (but powerful) process of connecting feelings → thoughts → actions
• How to stop judging yourself for having very normal human responses to very real circumstances

We talk about why staying stuck in unexamined emotions often leads to actions we regret—and how creating even a little space lets you choose differently. Not from suppression. Not from explosion. But from clarity.

This is about digesting emotions instead of drowning in them or pretending they don’t exist. It’s about honoring what your feelings are telling you—especially in a world (and a medical system) that benefits when you don’t.

And yes, I also share a bit about a new group experience I’m opening for women physicians who are craving connection, clarity, and a place where they don’t have to hold it all alone anymore.

You are not broken.
Your emotions are not wrong.
They might actually be pointing you back to who you are.

🎧 Listen in and let’s practice being human—on purpose.

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To learn more about my coaching practice and group offerings, head over to www.healthierforgood.com. I help Physicians and Allied Health Professional women to let go of toxic perfectionist and people-pleasing habits that leave them frustrated and exhausted. If you are ready to learn skills that help you set boundaries and prioritize yourself, without becoming a cynical a-hole, come work with me.

Want to contact me directly?
Email: megan@healthierforgood.com

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You already work hard.
The question is: why are you still making it harder than it needs to be?

In this episode, we’re talking about tools—and not just scalpels and stethoscopes. We’re talking about AI scribes, support teams, GLP-1 medications, Epic features, macros, automation… all the things that are supposed to help—but somehow end up wrapped in guilt, resistance, or overwhelm.

If you’ve ever thought:

• “I shouldn’t need this.”
• “Using that feels like cheating.”
• “I’m too overwhelmed to learn one more thing.”

This conversation is for you.

We break down three places physicians get stuck with tools and how to shift out of each one—without abandoning your values or your integrity.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why physicians are trained to “just get it done” with dull tools—and how that backfires outside of emergencies
• The difference between being the master of a tool and being controlled by it
• Learned helplessness: when you technically have support, but aren’t using it well
• Resistance and resentment toward tools (AI, Epic chat, GLP-1s)—and how it quietly drains your energy
• Overwhelm as a signal, not a failure—and how support can actually reduce it
• Real examples of using AI scribes beyond charting: coaching, expert witness work, summaries, timelines
• Why using the right tools doesn’t make you less competent—it makes you more masterful

You are not a resident.
You are not a student.
You already know how to do this work well.

The invitation here is simple but powerful:
What would change if you let your tools actually support you?

🎧 Listen in, then ask yourself: What’s one tool in my world that I could start using better—starting this week?

Support the show

To learn more about my coaching practice and group offerings, head over to www.healthierforgood.com. I help Physicians and Allied Health Professional women to let go of toxic perfectionist and people-pleasing habits that leave them frustrated and exhausted. If you are ready to learn skills that help you set boundaries and prioritize yourself, without becoming a cynical a-hole, come work with me.

Want to contact me directly?
Email: megan@healthierforgood.com

Follow me on Instagram!
@MeganMeloMD

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January has a very specific way of messing with people-pleasing perfectionists.

We start the year with big intentions—this will be the year we exercise, sleep, get our notes done, take better care of ourselves. And then… reality hits.
Clinic runs late. Staffing falls apart. The inbox explodes.

And somehow, we decide we are the problem.

In this episode, I want you to hear this clearly: you are not failing.
You’re just missing one skill—and it’s a skill you can absolutely learn.

Today, we talk about the one practice that quietly changes everything: learning to delight yourself, and tolerating the discomfort that comes with not meeting everyone else’s needs.

We break this down in a very physician-appropriate way (yes, there’s a 2×2 matrix), and we name the trap so many of us are stuck in: delighting everyone else while constantly disappointing ourselves.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why people-pleasing perfectionists feel ambushed every January
• How medical training wires us for struggle, sacrifice, and self-criticism
• The hidden cost of constantly trying to undo other people’s disappointment
• The 2×2 “delight vs. disappoint” matrix—and where physicians get stuck
• Why delighting yourself feels like disappointing others (even when it isn’t)
• How practicing delight expands your bandwidth, generosity, and effectiveness
• Simple, everyday ways to practice savoring—not scrolling
• Why leaving a job or changing circumstances isn’t enough without this skill

This is not about indulgence.
It’s not about checking out or caring less.

It’s about learning to take care of yourself without abandoning the people you care about—and without abandoning yourself.

Your invitation this week:

Choose five small sources of delight already in your life.
Notice them. Savor them. Practice letting them count.

That’s the skill.
And it changes far more than you think.

Support the show

To learn more about my coaching practice and group offerings, head over to www.healthierforgood.com. I help Physicians and Allied Health Professional women to let go of toxic perfectionist and people-pleasing habits that leave them frustrated and exhausted. If you are ready to learn skills that help you set boundaries and prioritize yourself, without becoming a cynical a-hole, come work with me.

Want to contact me directly?
Email: megan@healthierforgood.com

Follow me on Instagram!
@MeganMeloMD