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You don't actually want to leave medicine. You want to leave whatever is happening to you right now. Those are two completely different problems, and only one of them has a fantasy attached to it.

When work gets bad enough, our brains tend to offer us exactly one exit: quit. Become a barista. Move to an island. And I get it, that fantasy is doing a job for us. But it is not a plan, and it does not tell us anything useful about what we actually want. So this week I'm asking you a much smaller and much more boring question instead: what do you want your Tuesday to look like?

Not your dream life. Not your five year plan. An ordinary midweek workday, from the moment you wake up to the moment you fall asleep. Who do you see before you leave the house. What are you doing at eleven in the morning. When does the day end, and what happens after. I walk you through building that day out in real detail, then through the harder part, which is holding it up next to the Tuesday you are actually living and looking honestly at the space in between.

That gap is uncomfortable. It is also the most useful information you have, because every element in your ideal Tuesday is a value in disguise, and some of what you want is closer than you think. If you're a physician in the middle of deciding whether to stay, go, cut back, or build something of your own, this is the exercise I would have you do before you decide anything, because it is very hard to choose your next thing when you have only ever defined what you're running from.

Grab a piece of paper. This one is worth actually doing, not just listening to.

If this resonates and you want support actually living it, let's talk. Schedule a free discovery call here: https://calendly.com/healthierforgood/coaching-discovery-call

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To learn more about my coaching practice and group offerings, head over to www.healthierforgood.com. I help Physicians and Allied Health Professional women to let go of toxic perfectionist and people-pleasing habits that leave them frustrated and exhausted. If you are ready to learn skills that help you set boundaries and prioritize yourself, without becoming a cynical a-hole, come work with me.

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Back to school season hits different when you're the physician, not the kid with the new backpack. But that Target aisle full of fresh pens and Trapper Keepers is tapping into something real: the pull toward a reset.

This week I'm borrowing that energy, minus the pressure to build some perfect new system from scratch. We're talking about the low hanging fruit. The dot phrases you wrote two years ago that you now have to fix every single time. The lunch routine that fell apart over the summer. The chores your kids could absolutely be doing that you're still doing yourself because some part of you feels guilty enough already.

I also walk you through how I sat down with Claude and actually fixed a documentation problem I'd been limping along with for months, and the fix wasn't even the one I expected.

This isn't about becoming more organized as a personality trait. It's about asking one question, over and over: how can I make this easier? Hit play and let's refresh something together.

If this resonates and you want support actually living it, let's talk. Schedule a free discovery call here: https://calendly.com/healthierforgood/coaching-discovery-call

Connect with Megan:

Instagram: @MeganMeloMD
Website: healthierforgood.com
Email: megan@healthierforgood.com

Support the show

To learn more about my coaching practice and group offerings, head over to www.healthierforgood.com. I help Physicians and Allied Health Professional women to let go of toxic perfectionist and people-pleasing habits that leave them frustrated and exhausted. If you are ready to learn skills that help you set boundaries and prioritize yourself, without becoming a cynical a-hole, come work with me.

Want to contact me directly?
Email: megan@healthierforgood.com

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"I'm just a family doc."
"Oh, you can call me Megan, that's fine."
"Ugh, I'm so lazy."

We say these all day long and almost none of us hear ourselves say them.

I was at a coaching retreat recently, standing with a brilliant physician friend who had just pitched herself to speak at her state medical group's women physicians' conference. She was lit up about it. Genuinely excited. And in the middle of telling me all of it, she said, "and I'm so cheap." She didn't hear it. I did.

What she meant was that she's local, so there's no flight and no hotel, and she hadn't set a speaking fee yet. What she said was that her value is low. So I offered her a different sentence, and I watched it move through her body in real time. What happened next included her going back to her hotel room that night and sending a proposal she had not planned to send, and a text the following day that started with "you are the answer to my prayers."

This is not an episode about standing in front of a mirror repeating affirmations at yourself. I don't do that, and I'm not going to ask you to. This is about the handful of sentences you say about yourself over and over without ever once examining them, what they're quietly costing you, and choosing something that is just as true and doesn't put you in the wrong.

Here's some of what we get into together:

• Why "I'm fine" said through gritted teeth eventually stops being a word that means fine, and what that leaves you with when someone who loves you asks
• What happened to the word "wellness" over the last ten years, and why so many of us can't hear it now without flinching
• The one sentence I offered my friend, and what it actually did (it did not write her talk)
• The swap I'd start with this week, and why "sorry" is more expensive than it looks

Pick one phrase. That's the whole assignment.

If this resonates and you want support actually living it, let's talk. Schedule a free discovery call here: https://calendly.com/healthierforgood/coaching-discovery-call

Connect with Megan:

Instagram: @MeganMeloMD
Website: healthierforgood.com
Email: megan@healthierforgood.com

Support the show

To learn more about my coaching practice and group offerings, head over to www.healthierforgood.com. I help Physicians and Allied Health Professional women to let go of toxic perfectionist and people-pleasing habits that leave them frustrated and exhausted. If you are ready to learn skills that help you set boundaries and prioritize yourself, without becoming a cynical a-hole, come work with me.

Want to contact me directly?
Email: megan@healthierforgood.com

Follow me on Instagram!
@MeganMeloMD