"The work is work, and the rattling of your cage comes with side effects, and you have to know that in advance before entering."

In this episode, Heather and Coach Keren Eldad talk about what happens after the breakthrough: pushing against the edges of an old identity, recognizing the behaviors that accompany restlessness, and learning to move through resistance without taking it as a sign to stop. They explore what it means to reach "cruising altitude," where momentum starts carrying you forward, and you finally stop negotiating with the life you actually want. We also get into the difference between coaching and therapy, and why you don't have to wait for another shit storm to decide something needs to change. Ultimately, this conversation shows that the real work begins when insight becomes integration, and you practice thinking differently and repeatedly putting your money where your mouth is.

What to listen for:

☑️ Most people need to do more work because insight is not integration

☑️ The best thing about hitting rock bottom is it forces you to face what happened

☑️ Specific behaviors always accompany restlessness, aimlessness, and loneliness

"When you lose everything and end up at rock bottom, the best thing is there's nowhere to go. You have to start understanding: there's a level of thinking I've been engaged in that isn't serving me."

☑️ Don't wait for the shit storm to make change when you can start right now

☑️ The edge of identity and the importance of getting outside your comfort zone

☑️ You're going to have to put your money where your mouth is again and again

"You don't jump out of the plane, launch the business, and all your problems are solved forever. Now you have to learn how to live this way, how to truly practice this level of thinking."

☑️ Your mindset has to dominate everything, but that doesn't mean forcing things

☑️ What it looks like to reach "cruising altitude," which is all about momentum

☑️ Reaching a state where you're simply not negotiating with life anymore

"I really need to put my money where my mouth is means I accept nothing less than ease. I accept nothing less than my preferences. I will only work in my zone of genius."

☑️ Why changing identities causes pushback from the people around us

☑️ The difference between coaching and therapy, and when to consider each

☑️ Resistance comes up when we take action, but that doesn't mean stop

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About Keren Eldad:

Keren Eldad is an executive coach, speaker, and bestselling author of GILT FREE: Ditching Your Gilded Cage for Good. A former Fortune 500 executive, she has coached thousands of high achievers—from founders and Fortune 500 leaders to celebrities and professional athletes—to break free from burnout, perfectionism, and self-sabotage so they can build lives of extraordinary success and genuine fulfillment. Her podcast, Coached, ranks in the top 5% globally, her TEDx Talks have been viewed by half a million people worldwide, and her coaching work has been featured by The Harvard Business Review, Forbes, Goop, Fast Company, and Business Insider.

Connect with Keren:

• www.kereneldad.com

• www.instagram.com/coachkeren

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"It's a fallacy that when a woman takes center stage in her life, everyone else suffers. No, everyone else expands."

In this episode, Heather and Dr. Amanda Hanson dig into the moment when a woman begins to realize just how much of her life has been shaped by expectations, conditioning, caretaking, and the insidious belief that everyone else gets a say before she does. They explore what happens when you start deconstructing the ground you were planted in and questioning the influences behind the choices you've made, the relationships you've maintained, and the ways you've learned to perform being a "good" woman. This conversation moves through midlife, mortality, desire, authenticity, and the uncomfortable freedom of realizing you're allowed to want something different, even when the people around you don't understand it.

What to listen for:

☑️ Why women struggle to believe that they actually get a say in their own lives

☑️ The fear of dying and how it shows up unconsciously for most women

☑️ Deconditioning from the influences that are driving your beliefs

"Before I can help a woman build a new life for herself, I have to help her deconstruct the soil she was already planted in because otherwise we're actually just building a straw house on faulty ground."

☑️ Stop waiting for the "I'm ready" moment, and pay attention to your actions

☑️ Why our caretaking hormones tank in midlife, and how we lean into what's next

☑️ You can't really be known and loved if you're performing in your relationships

"Women want more connection to themselves and to the people in their lives. They realize that the window is closing, and they want to know what it feels like to be raptured by life."

☑️ Choosing the most raw, authentic, unfiltered version of yourself in every area

☑️ Women can't be honest with others because they're not honest with themselves

☑️ Standing steady in the face of people who are uncomfortable with your expression

"I'm not going to spend one millisecond wasting my life force energy and this precious gift I've been given trying to convince anybody to believe or think the way that I do."

☑️ Why pouring into yourself isn't taking anything away from anybody else

☑️ Living life on your terms serves as a huge inspiration for your children

☑️ Building a foundation for how to source a different way of being a woman

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About Dr. Amanda Hanson:

Dr. Amanda Hanson is a clinical psychologist. Married thirty years, mother of four. For three decades she's sat across from women in the one chapter no one prepares them for, the chapter where everything they were taught about being a woman stops working for them. She wrote Muse for the women she'd never meet in her office and built her business so they'd have somewhere to come home to. Her work is clinical psychology braided back together with the feminine wisdom this culture has spent centuries erasing. She doesn't bring it back as a trend, but as tools for living

Connect with Dr. Amanda:

www.amandahanson.com

www.instagram.com/midlife.muse

www.youtube.com/@midlifemuse

www.tiktok.com/@midlifemuse

www.facebook.com/midlife.muse

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For those of you who are ready to stop feeling drained, overextended, and out of alignment… join me inside the Energetic Time Management Accelerator, a focused experience designed to help high-achieving women uncover what's draining them, clarify what truly matters, and create a simple plan that fits their life.

We'll pinpoint your biggest time + energy leaks, identify the top areas to focus on for quick momentum, and map out exactly what to let go of so you can reclaim your energy, your time, and your joy.

Ready to make your time work for you without adding more to your plate?

Join the Energetic Time Management Accelerator:

www.heatherchauvin.com/time

Explore the top episodes listeners come back to when they're stuck, burned out, or standing at the edge of a big shift: www.heatherchauvin.com/10

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