What is enough? I mean for real... in a world of "always get better," what is ENOUGH? If that question makes you squirm a little, you're in good company, because I'm right there with you. This week my friend Virginia makes the case that we already have the compass within us... the one we've been outsourcing to self-proclaimed gurus and the loudest voices in our social feed.

I open with a story about an old friend named Leila Lee and a single question scrawled on a slip of paper that was handed to her at a party: "What is enough?" It has stuck with me for years and it frames so much of this episode.

My friend Virginia Terrill, founder of Ethically Inclined Wellness, brings such a refreshingly down-to-earth voice to a space that usually runs on hustle and an undercurrent of "you're not doing enough." After roughly twenty years in active addiction, then recovery, early motherhood, and divorce all at once, she started asking what she actually needed... and pausing to check in with herself before taking on anyone else's playbook.

We dig into the unconscious comparison of the endless scroll, the "done-for-you" speed that leaves us feeling behind, and that gut-punch belief that we're the problem. Virginia reframes wellness as what actually fits, not right or wrong... the same routine lands differently on two different people. I share my own history of handing my sovereignty over to mentors I looked up to and how they ended up being "shadow" mentors. Finally, we land on consistency: it looks different on different days, and adapting when life gets loud isn't quitting on yourself.

Here's who you're hanging out with this week. Virginia is the founder of Ethically Inclined Wellness and the creator of what she calls self-collaboration... a way into wellness that actually holds up in real life! Through storytelling, mentorship, and nervous-system-informed practices, she helps us learn to work with ourselves instead of against ourselves. She's trained in wellness coaching and behavior change, and she's just beginning her Master of Social Work.

Go say hello:

https://ethicallyinclinedwellness.com/

https://www.instagram.com/ethically.inclined.wellness

00:00 — What is enough? The question that frames the episode

03:05 — Meet Virginia + a four-part check-in

04:50 — What called her in: recovery, motherhood, divorce

09:46 — Sovereignty at an all-time low and the influencer machine

12:06 — Take what you need, leave the rest

16:20 — Ethically Inclined Wellness and "self-collaboration"

24:40 — "If you feel like you're the problem..."

30:12 — Skateboard magazines vs. the endless scroll

36:51 — The pendulum: grind culture vs. doing nothing

44:18 — My breathwork story + fit over right/wrong

51:52 — Failure is information + consistency looks different on different days

1:02:20 — The closing question: a message to young Virginia