What if the best way to grow your spouse’s faith is to stop fixing and start asking? We sit down as two couples—Brittany and Joshua, Kelly and Brian—to share the questions, rhythms, and stories that shifted our marriages from pressure to prayer, from assumptions to honest encouragement. No clichés here—just real moments: a five-year-old soccer team coached like Marines, the difference between productive silence and the silent treatment, and the humbling realization that “help” lands only when it fits who your spouse actually is.

We dig into the power of gentle questions—Have you prayed about it? What’s underneath that?—and why nagging always backfires. Brian unpacks how a “helper suitable,” respectful feedback, and steady prayer formed his leadership. Kelly shares how seeing Brian’s love for Scripture stirred her own hunger for the Word. Brittany and Joshua talk about anger met with a gentle answer, burnout from over-stacked spiritual routines, and learning to time hard conversations so truth can be heard. Along the way, we explore complementarian dynamics without caricature, showing how covenant security creates the safety to be fully honest and actually change.

Military families and anyone navigating distance will find a surprising invitation: let separation sharpen connection. Use deployments and busy seasons to discuss desires, discouragements, and your walk with God—beyond chores and calendars. You’ll leave with two simple questions to use weekly, a better way to name what helps and what hurts, and a renewed vision for marriage as a discipleship partnership shaped by Scripture, patience, and prayer.

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SHOW NOTES:

1. Take a listen to our episode to the WIVES.

2. Take a listen to our episode to the HUSBANDS.

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