The holidays can be a season of connection, but they also stir up old patterns, expectations, and emotional landmines. Many adults find themselves back in their family system, feeling like a younger version of themselves even though they know they have grown.

In this conversation, Donna Brighton welcomes Dr. Allie Taylor, a business psychologist and trusted advisor who draws on her background in marriage and family therapy and internal family systems work. Together, they unpack why we get triggered around family, how to stay in our adult self instead of regressing to that inner twelve year old, and how boundaries can be an act of love rather than rejection.

From journaling before gatherings, to befriending our own inner parts, to having honest conversations about traditions and expectations, Allie offers practical tools that help you design a holiday season that actually works for you. The episode ends with a powerful invitation to define what a successful holiday would look like for you, then make choices that support that vision.

Why Listen?

If you dread certain parts of the holidays or feel yourself shrinking into an old version of you as soon as you see your family, this episode offers language and tools that make sense of that experience. Instead of white knuckling through another season out of obligation, you will learn how to prepare your inner world, set clear and kind boundaries, and define success on purpose.

This is a practical, compassionate guide to showing up as your calm, adult self, so you can protect your energy, enjoy the people you love, and create new traditions that fit who you are now.

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