You're self-aware. You've done the therapy. You can explain exactly why you people-please, overwork, or struggle with boundaries. So why are you STILL saying yes when you mean no?

Why do those boundaries keep dissolving?

In this episode, Dr. Lisa explores why understanding your patterns isn't the same as healing them. She breaks down what core wounds are, why they live in your nervous system (not your thinking mind), and how the false identity you built as a child is suffocating you as an adult.

Plus, a vulnerable personal story about Dr. Lisa's own core wound and how it shaped decades of her life without her realizing it.

In This Episode:

• What core wounds actually are (hint: not just thoughts)
• Why your identity organized around protecting you from pain
• Where wounds live in your body—not your mind
• Why dismantling your defenses feels so scary
• Why most healing approaches try to fix the false self instead of dissolving it
• A simple practice: witnessing your wound without fixing it

Key Quote: "We don't want to improve the false self. We're here to dissolve it so your true self can return."

RESOURCES:

• Free Quiz: What Is Your Burnout Telling You? ⁠Click here.⁠

• Soul-Aligned Success Audit ⁠Book now⁠.

• Convergence ⁠Learn more.⁠

CONNECT WITH LISA:

Website: ⁠soulgardening.ca ⁠

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Join the Wisdom Portal free private community for women off social media! ⁠Join here.⁠

ABOUT LISA

I'm a PhD social psychology researcher in women’s wellbeing and a trained shamanic practitioner. My doctoral research confirmed what I had witnessed for decades: modern success culture rewards over-functioning and self-silencing, then punishes women for realizing that the internal cost we're paying is unsustainable. I help women who've outgrown who they've had to be see who they're becoming, and create soul-aligned success through deep healing.

You’ve been told to put others first your whole life. It's led to depletion—and it's a survival strategy that may be distracting you from living your own purpose.

This episode isn't just listening. This is doing.

In this workshop episode, you'll learn that – yes – you *can* care less. And that’s a good thing.

You’ll identify ONE thing that's been depleting you that you've been forcing yourself to care about. And you'll get permission—real permission—to let it go.

Grab something to write with and 30 minutes where you won't be interrupted. Get instant access to this episode’s free companion workbook through the Soul Gardening portal here.

If hyper link doesn't work, go here: https://members.soulgardening.ca/courses/dont-tell-me-to-calm-down-podcast-club/

What you'll discover in this podcast workshop:

• Why over-caring is actually a trauma response

• How people-pleasing kept you safe as a child but depletes you as an adult

• The questions to filter what's actually yours to carry –or care about

• A step-by-step practice to identify and release one depleting obligation

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

• Free Quiz: What Is Your Burnout Telling You? Click here.

• Soul-Aligned Success Audit Book now.

• Convergence Learn more.

CONNECT WITH LISA:

Website: soulgardening.ca

LinkedIn

Facebook

Join the Wisdom Portal free private community for women off social media! Join here.

ABOUT LISA

I'm a PhD social psychology researcher in women’s wellbeing and a trained shamanic practitioner. My doctoral research confirmed what I had witnessed for decades: modern success culture rewards over-functioning and self-silencing, then punishes women for realizing that the internal cost we're paying is unsustainable. I help women who've outgrown who they've had to be see who they're becoming, and create soul-aligned success through deep healing.

In this episode of Don’t Tell Me To Calm Down, we’re diving into the invisible rulebook almost every woman inherits — the one that shapes how you speak, how you show up, how you judge yourself, and even how you judge other women.

If you’ve ever wondered why you apologize too much, policeyour body, downplay your success, or feel triggered by women who are loud, bold, or unapologetic…

There’s a reason — and it’s not your personality.

It’s internalized cultural programming.

And today, we’re bringing it into the light.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

*What internalized misogyny actually is (and why most women swear they don’t have it)

*The subtle ways cultural conditioning becomes your innervoice

*A 7-question quiz to reveal where internalized bias isrunning your life

*How women learn to distrust their own intuition, emotions,and power

*Why judging other women is usually self-protection, notmalice

*How body image is shaped by patriarchy, media, andinherited beliefs

*The truth about why so many women feel “too much,” “notenough,” or both

*Why recognizing internalized misogyny is not shameful —it’s liberating

You’ll also hear a personal story about beautystandards, aging, and how appearance-based conditioning can live inside us for decades without being questioned.

What makes this episode different:

We’re not blaming women.

We’re tracing the source back to systems, culture, conditioning, and generational patterns — and showing you how to reclaim your voice from all of it.

This week’s actionable practice:

When a self-critical thought appears, don’t argue with it.
Simply name it for what it is:

“That’s conditioning.”

“That’s the good girl script.”

“That’s the body-policing culture talking.”

Naming the source creates separation. Separation createssovereignty. This is where your reclamation begins.

If this episode resonates…

Share it with a woman who’s tired of performing, tired ofshrinking, and ready to understand the rules she never agreed to follow.

Follow the show and leave a review — it helps this workreach more women who need it.

Take the free quiz: What Your Burnout is Telling You here:https://members.soulgardening.ca/what-your-burnout-is-telling-you/

Join the free Wisdom Portal community here: https://members.soulgardening.ca/sf-category/the-wisdom-portal/

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