In this solo deep dive, Paige breaks down the real reason indecision, overthinking, and anxiety feel so overwhelming: a self-trust gap in the brain. Using neuroscience, nervous system regulation, and identity rewiring, she explains why you can’t out-affirm or out-visualize patterns your body no longer believes.
Paige reveals how broken promises to yourself shape your biology, how the amygdala learns to fear your own intentions, and why self-trust—not motivation—is the foundation for change. And more importantly: how micro-habits rebuild that trust one tiny vote at a time.
This episode is your blueprint for learning how to think clearly again, make confident decisions, and become someone your nervous system actually feels safe following.
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Key Takeaways:
- Indecision and anxiety are biological, not character flaws.
- A self-trust gap forms when your brain stops believing your intentions.
- The amygdala triggers fear when it has historical proof you don’t follow through.
- You can’t mindset your way out of a nervous system that doesn’t feel safe.
- Micro-habits rebuild trust by creating predictable, identity-shifting evidence.
- Self-trust restores access to the prefrontal cortex (clarity, planning, logic).
- Affirmations and visualizations only work when the body trusts you first.
- Small consistent actions rewire the default-mode network (identity center).
- Understanding the biology behind your patterns is deeply empowering.
- Real personal development requires nervous-system-level change.
Show Resources:
Andrew Huberman, Ph.D. — The Science of Making &Breaking Habits
Stanford School of Medicine / Huberman Lab Podcast
Breaks down neuroplasticity, the basal ganglia, limbic friction, and why consistent repetition automates behavior.
https://www.hubermanlab.com/episode/the-science-of-making-and-breaking-habits
Huberman Lab Newsletter — “Build or Break Habits UsingScience-Based Tools”
Covers task bracketing, identity-based routines, and the neurochemistry behind follow-through.
https://www.hubermanlab.com/newsletter/build-or-break-habits-using-science-based-tools
Harvard Medical School – Stress, Predictability &Emotional Regulation Studies (2023)
Research showing predictable routines lower cortisol, reduce amygdala activation, and improve executive function under stress.
University College London – Habit Formation Study (Lallyet al., 2010),
Found that consistent repetition builds automaticity in 18–254 days (avg ~66 days). Supports the role of micro-habits in brain rewiring.
Stanford Center for Cognitive & NeurobiologicalImaging (2019)
Research on the Default Mode Network (DMN) and how identity updates when behavior aligns with self-concept — the foundation of belief change.
American Psychological Association – Predictability &Executive Function
Shows how predictable self-generated routines decrease cognitive load and support better decision-making and emotional regulation.
Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi — Flow: The Psychology ofOptimal Experience
Seminal work explaining how structure, safety, and self-regulation support creativity, focus, and “effortless attention.”
Bessel van der Kolk, M.D. — The Body Keeps the Score
Research on how the nervous system stores safety vs. threat signals, reinforcing why the body needs consistency to update self-trust.