Welcome back to Divorce at Altitude with Ryan Kalamaya! In this episode, Ryan and co-host Amy Goscha tackle one of the most frequently asked questions in divorce and separation: Should I move out of the house—or make my spouse move out?

Whether you're early in the separation process or navigating a high-conflict breakup, this conversation breaks down the legal, emotional, and financial implications of moving out while cohabitating with a spouse.

Episode Highlights

Safety First
• Why safety concerns should be the first consideration in any cohabitation decision
• The risks of domestic violence, alcohol use, and toxic environments—especially with children in the home

Parenting & Emotional Impact
• How kids are affected by continued cohabitation during conflict
• The role of emotional regulation and which parent can maintain a stable environment

Financial & Legal Considerations
• When moving out could hurt your case—or your finances
• Why some parents choose to "nest" and how studio apartments may limit parenting time
• The truth about “losing rights” to a home just by moving out

Exclusive Possession & Legal Process
• What motions (like exclusive possession or temporary orders) are available
• Why using protection orders as a workaround can backfire legally
• How interest rates, mortgages, and refinancing influence housing decisions

Nesting & Creative Solutions
• What nesting looks like and how Colorado's housing landscape (like lock-offs) can support it
• Pros and cons of continuing to live under the same roof—even post-divorce

Key Takeaways

• There’s no one-size-fits-all answer—every decision depends on safety, finances, housing options, and parenting logistics.
• Moving out does not automatically mean losing legal rights to the home or children.
• Always consult a family law attorney before making this decision—strategy matters.

📞 Connect with Kalamaya | Goscha
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• Phone: 970.315.2365
• Email: info@kalamaya.law

What is Divorce at Altitude?

Ryan Kalamaya and Amy Goscha provide tips and recommendations on issues related to divorce, separation, and co-parenting in Colorado. Ryan and Amy are the founding partners of an innovative and ambitious law firm, Kalamaya | Goscha, that pushes the boundaries to discover new frontiers in family law, personal injuries, and criminal defense in Colorado.

To subscribe to Divorce at Altitude, click here and select your favorite podcast player. To subscribe to Kalamaya | Goscha's YouTube channel where many of the episodes will be posted as videos, click here. If you have additional questions or would like to speak to one of our attorneys, give us a call at 970-429-5784 or email us at info@kalamaya.law.

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DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS ON THIS PODCAST IS FOR ENTERTAINMENT AND INFORMATIONAL PURPOSES AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL ADVICE. CONTACT AN ATTORNEY IN YOUR STATE OR AREA TO OBTAIN LEGAL ADVICE ON ANY OF THESE ISSUES.

Welcome back to Divorce at Altitude with Ryan Kalamaya and Amy Goscha! In this episode, Ryan and co-host Amy Goscha are recording from their brand-new office near Cherry Creek—and reflecting on the mindsets that shape how clients experience divorce and custody disputes.

Drawing from both their professional and personal experiences, Ryan and Amy unpack what it means to manage emotions, expectations, and communication through one of life’s most difficult transitions. Whether you're an attorney or someone navigating a family law matter, this episode offers valuable insights into the human side of the legal process.

Episode Highlights

Client Mindset & Overwhelm
• Why some clients want their lawyer to “drive the train”
• Recognizing when you're in fight-or-flight mode
• How attorneys can meet clients where they are emotionally

The Reality of ‘Divorce Fog’
• Why trauma and anxiety affect task execution
• Tips for taking small steps forward, even when overwhelmed
• The importance of responsive communication during crisis

Entrenchment & Reactivity
• What happens when clients feel the need to “fight back”
• Why doing nothing can sometimes be the best strategy
• The plane analogy: understanding the quiet middle phase of litigation

When Lawyers Are Clients
• Why attorneys are often the toughest clients
• Balancing legal knowledge with emotional vulnerability
• Letting go of control and trusting your counsel

Managing Expectations & Hope
• Setting realistic timelines and legal outcomes
• How judges weigh custody and parenting disputes
• Reframing conflict to prioritize children’s wellbeing

Key Takeaways

• Divorce is more emotional than logical—give yourself grace.
• Clear, frequent communication helps prevent reactivity and fear.
• Shifting your mindset from “me vs. them” to “what’s best for the kids” is essential.

📞 Connect with Kalamaya | Goscha:
• Facebook: Kalamaya | Goscha
• LinkedIn: Kalamaya | Goscha
• Phone: 970.315.2365
• Email: info@kalamaya.law

What is Divorce at Altitude?

Ryan Kalamaya and Amy Goscha provide tips and recommendations on issues related to divorce, separation, and co-parenting in Colorado. Ryan and Amy are the founding partners of an innovative and ambitious law firm, Kalamaya | Goscha, that pushes the boundaries to discover new frontiers in family law, personal injuries, and criminal defense in Colorado.

To subscribe to Divorce at Altitude, click here and select your favorite podcast player. To subscribe to Kalamaya | Goscha's YouTube channel where many of the episodes will be posted as videos, click here. If you have additional questions or would like to speak to one of our attorneys, give us a call at 970-429-5784 or email us at info@kalamaya.law.

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DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS ON THIS PODCAST IS FOR ENTERTAINMENT AND INFORMATIONAL PURPOSES AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL ADVICE. CONTACT AN ATTORNEY IN YOUR STATE OR AREA TO OBTAIN LEGAL ADVICE ON ANY OF THESE ISSUES.

Welcome back to Divorce at Altitude with Ryan Kalamaya! In this episode, Ryan is joined by co-host and family law attorney Amy Goscha to explore how property division impacts spousal maintenance in Colorado divorce cases.

Whether you're a high-net-worth individual or navigating a more modest estate, understanding the relationship between property distribution and support obligations is critical. Ryan and Amy unpack how Colorado law approaches these issues and the strategic implications for both parties in a divorce.

Episode Highlights

Property First, Then Maintenance
Learn why Colorado courts divide property before considering spousal maintenance—and how the type, value, and liquidity of assets can affect support awards.

High-Net-Worth Divorce Scenarios
Does $10 million mean no spousal maintenance? Ryan and Amy explain why wealth doesn’t always eliminate support obligations.

Asset Composition Matters
From businesses to brokerage accounts to homes, not all assets are created equal when calculating income and support.

Lifestyle & Location
How lifestyle differences between Aspen and Grand Junction might impact maintenance—and why judges consider reasonable needs and cost of living.

Disproportionate Property Awards
Why courts may prefer awarding a greater share of property to avoid ongoing maintenance obligations—and how that plays into long-term financial planning.

Key Takeaways

• Colorado is an equitable—not equal—distribution state. Property division isn't always 50/50.
• The more property a party receives, the less likely they are to qualify for spousal maintenance.
• Maintenance is based on both need and ability to pay, and judges often consider the type of asset, lifestyle, and long-term earning capacity.
• Financial experts can play a key role in helping determine reasonable needs, passive income potential, and net spendable income.

📞 Connect with Kalamaya | Goscha
• Facebook: Kalamaya | Goscha
• LinkedIn: Kalamaya | Goscha
• Phone: 970.315.2365
• Email: info@kalamaya.law

What is Divorce at Altitude?

Ryan Kalamaya and Amy Goscha provide tips and recommendations on issues related to divorce, separation, and co-parenting in Colorado. Ryan and Amy are the founding partners of an innovative and ambitious law firm, Kalamaya | Goscha, that pushes the boundaries to discover new frontiers in family law, personal injuries, and criminal defense in Colorado.

To subscribe to Divorce at Altitude, click here and select your favorite podcast player. To subscribe to Kalamaya | Goscha's YouTube channel where many of the episodes will be posted as videos, click here. If you have additional questions or would like to speak to one of our attorneys, give us a call at 970-429-5784 or email us at info@kalamaya.law.

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DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS ON THIS PODCAST IS FOR ENTERTAINMENT AND INFORMATIONAL PURPOSES AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL ADVICE. CONTACT AN ATTORNEY IN YOUR STATE OR AREA TO OBTAIN LEGAL ADVICE ON ANY OF THESE ISSUES.