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On the outside, everything looked fine.

I was working, going to school, building relationships, and following the path I thought I was supposed to take. I was doing what was expected of me… and doing it well.

But internally, I was disconnected.

In this episode, I share what it looked like to move through the beginning of adulthood while dissociated—functioning, achieving, and showing up, but not fully present in my own life.

I talk about the quiet impact of trauma, how it shaped my relationships, and the ways I learned to mimic emotions I didn’t fully feel. From feeling like an imposter to struggling to connect, this is an honest look at what survival can look like when it follows you into adulthood.

Because sometimes, you don’t fall apart.

Sometimes… you just aren’t fully there.

CREDITS: Created, hosted, and produced by Sheryl.

Website: dissociatedpod.com

RESOURCES

Immediate Support

• National Sexual Assault Hotline (RAINN): 1-800-656-4673 Website: https://www.rainn.org
• Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 Website: https://www.crisistextline.org
• Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988 Website: https://988lifeline.org

Therapy & Trauma Support

• Psychology Today Therapist Finder: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapist
• Therapy Den — Inclusive Therapist Directory: https://www.therapyden.com
• EMDR International Association: https://www.emdria.org
• Trauma-Focused CBT: https://tfcbt.org

Organizations & Survivor Communities

• RAINN: https://www.rainn.org
• 1in6 (for male-identifying survivors): https://1in6.org
• Pandora’s Project: https://pandys.org
• End Violence Against Women International (EVAWI): https://evawintl.org

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Why didn’t you leave?

Why didn’t you tell someone?

Why did you keep the peace?

These are the questions survivors hear every day.

But they assume something that isn’t true — that leaving is simple, and that telling the truth doesn’t come at a cost.

In this episode, I’m unpacking the reality behind those questions.

Because when abuse happens inside a family, the choice is rarely just about staying or leaving. It’s about what you risk losing when you tell the truth.

For me, silence wasn’t just about fear.

It was about love.

It was about loyalty.

It was about not wanting to lose my mother, my siblings, my nieces and nephews — the family I had spent a lifetime showing up for.

And it was also shaped by what I witnessed when my sister tried to tell the truth at sixteen… and was labeled a liar.

In this episode, I share:

• Why survivors often keep the peace
• The real reason “just leaving” isn’t that simple
• How trauma, attachment, and family systems keep people silent
• The impact of watching another survivor be punished for telling the truth
• What trauma bonding and dissociation can look like in real life
• The signs many survivors carry into adulthood without realizing it
• And the devastating reality of what can happen when the truth finally comes out

This is not just my story.

It’s a deeper look at why silence exists in so many families — and what it can cost to break it.

If you’ve ever judged yourself for staying…

or struggled to understand why someone didn’t leave…

this episode is for you.

Content note: This episode includes discussion of childhood sexual abuse and boundary violations. There are no graphic details, but listener discretion is advised.

CREDITS: Created, hosted, and produced by Sheryl.

Website: dissociatedpod.com

RESOURCES

Immediate Support

• National Sexual Assault Hotline (RAINN): 1-800-656-4673 Website: https://www.rainn.org
• Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 Website: https://www.crisistextline.org
• Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988 Website: https://988lifeline.org

Therapy & Trauma Support

• Psychology Today Therapist Finder: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapist
• Therapy Den — Inclusive Therapist Directory: https://www.therapyden.com
• EMDR International Association: https://www.emdria.org
• Trauma-Focused CBT: https://tfcbt.org

Organizations & Survivor Communities

• RAINN: https://www.rainn.org
• 1in6 (for male-identifying survivors): https://1in6.org
• Pandora’s Project: https://pandys.org
• End Violence Against Women International (EVAWI): https://evawintl.org

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In this episode, I revisit the season after dissociation became my survival strategy and share a layer I hadn’t spoken about before — the moment I stopped only enduring and started pleading.

I talk about trying to protect my siblings, parsing language for safety, and the quiet shift that happened when I realized fear didn’t belong to me alone. I share what it looked like to leave home without truly escaping, how self-sufficiency became my shield, and how trauma quietly shaped my understanding of love, safety, and authority in early adulthood.

This episode explores boundary setting after childhood sexual abuse, the cost of silence in marriage, and the complicated space between survival and autonomy. It’s about holding a line for the first time — not perfectly, not loudly — but clearly.

And it’s about the awareness that follows.

Content note: This episode includes discussion of childhood sexual abuse and boundary violations. There are no graphic details, but listener discretion is advised.

CREDITS: Created, hosted, and produced by Sheryl.

Website: dissociatedpod.com

RESOURCES

Immediate Support

• National Sexual Assault Hotline (RAINN): 1-800-656-4673 Website: https://www.rainn.org
• Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 Website: https://www.crisistextline.org
• Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988 Website: https://988lifeline.org

Therapy & Trauma Support

• Psychology Today Therapist Finder: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapist
• Therapy Den — Inclusive Therapist Directory: https://www.therapyden.com
• EMDR International Association: https://www.emdria.org
• Trauma-Focused CBT: https://tfcbt.org

Organizations & Survivor Communities

• RAINN: https://www.rainn.org
• 1in6 (for male-identifying survivors): https://1in6.org
• Pandora’s Project: https://pandys.org
• End Violence Against Women International (EVAWI): https://evawintl.org