Death by a Thousand Papercuts

Sometimes life doesn’t fall apart in one dramatic moment. More often it’s the small things — the constant pressures, expectations, disappointments, and responsibilities — that slowly wear us down. Death by a thousand papercuts.

In this episode of Too Stubborn to Quit, Pam talks with Dr. Richard Kane — composer, elementary music teacher, musician, band director, church choir director, Tournament of Bands judge, father, and playwright — about what it means to keep going when the hits just keep coming.

Turning 40 often brings a moment of reflection about purpose, burnout, and the next phase of life. Many people find themselves surrounded by coworkers, students, or colleagues, yet feeling strangely alone because the excitement they once had for their work has faded.

Richard shares his perspective on creativity, teaching, and perseverance — and how sometimes the only choice you have is to do it anyway, even when you’re tired, discouraged, or questioning what comes next.

The conversation also touches on the importance of self-determination theory: autonomy, connection with like-minded people, and the feeling of competence that allows us to grow and rediscover meaning in what we do.

And perhaps the most important reminder of all:
You matter. And you don’t need to apologize for taking up space in this world.