Ever feel like you're doing everything "right" — showing up, being kind, respecting her — but only getting crumbs?

First dates that never turn into second dates. A marriage where you've quietly become roommates; no matter what you do, there's no sex, and there's not even very much affection. That feeling of putting in a ton of effort and still spinning your wheels.

If any of that lands, you're likely living out some version of Nice Guy Syndrome.

Outgrowing being a Nice Guy doesn't mean becoming a jerk. It does mean that you learn some skills or make some shifts you've maybe never even thought of before.

Here, Jason and I break down the 3 specific things that support men in graduating from being a Nice Guy — the ones that take them from stuck to, "Wait, this actually works now?"

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Mentioned on this episode:

• No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover

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Memorable quotes from this episode:

• "I'm trying really fucking hard and I'm not winning anywhere in it."
• "No woman can trust your yes if you do not have the capacity to say no."
• "You can't get better at community without being in community."
• "If shame is getting in the way of that, she doesn't have a chance to shine."

How much does a woman's sexual satisfaction depend on the size, shape, or other physical details of your cock?

According to research out of the UK, this question is on the hearts of a lot of men. To quote this study: "Men showed significant dissatisfaction with penile size, despite perceiving themselves to be of average size."

In other words, it's common, if you're a man, to wonder (or worry) about whether size matters.

Now here's the real question: Do women that sleep with men track this, and if so, how much?

The truth is that there's as much diversity in the world of penises as there is in the world of human beings. And as women who have sex with men, we've seen a whole bunch! Here, we get real about sex, relationships, hookups, play, and cock size.

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• Please Her In Bed, my streaming course: www.pleaseherinbed.com

Do you want to establish a new, healthier habit, but so far you just ... haven't? For example: eat more veggies; exercise; have a meditation practice; be bolder with women/your woman; or a big one: cease watching porn.

According to a meta-analysis on this exact questions, intentions only account for ~30% of whether someone actually changes behavior — meaning you can be fully committed and clear on what you want to do, and that commitment still barely predicts whether you’ll do it.

The good news? Change is possible; it just doesn’t happen the way you think it does.

We get into the real gap — between knowing and embodying — and cover why some of the smartest, most self-aware men we work with can describe their patterns with PhD-level precision, but still be stuck in the exact same loop years later.

We also talk about the guy who showed up to the work feeling stuck and hopeless ... and who's now having the most fulfilling sex of his life with the healthiest partner with whom he has ever been.

Fair warning: this one might make you rethink how you've been trying to change -- and you might start taking the actions that'll ACTUALLY get you what you want.

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We've got a few spots left at our live, in-person retreat, September 3rd–7th — five days of embodiment, brotherhood, and doing the work that will actually move the needle. Get in here: https://evolutionary.men/retreat

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• "You don't know how deep the pond is till you get in there."
• "It's the difference between information and transformation."
• "Healing your relationship with other men sets you up for success with women."
• "Courage is not, 'I know everything's gonna be fine.' Courage is, 'I'm scared and I'm doing it anyway.'"
• "There is no replacement for the group."
• "The payoff is so grand — but you gotta take some risks, you gotta do the damn thing."
• "That guy's got fucking balls and fire ... and he feels so safe to be around."
• "Shame is healed in community."