This week was marked by grief. After the passing of my aunt, I found myself sitting with emotions in a way I was never taught to growing up. Loss has a way of exposing what you’ve healed — and what you’ve suppressed. And in that reflection, I realized how different my relationship with pain looks today compared to the version of faith I inherited as a child.

In this letter, I unpack the dangerous myth that emotional struggle equals spiritual failure. I talk about what it means to grow up in a culture where mental health was spiritualized, where prayer was prescribed for everything, and where seeking therapy felt like a betrayal of faith. I share how emotional suppression shaped my adulthood, how it left me unequipped in moments I desperately needed clarity, and how I eventually learned that God was never asking me to choose between faith and help.

This episode walks through grief, trauma, abuse, spiritual confusion, and the quiet rebuilding that followed. It explores the psychological impact of suppressing emotions and the biblical truth that God values wholeness — not performance. I speak about the turning point when I realized that therapy didn’t weaken my faith; it strengthened it. That faith gives hope, but therapy gives tools. That prayer uncovers what hurts, and counseling helps you process it.

If you’ve ever been told to “just pray more” when what you needed was support…

If you’ve ever felt ashamed for struggling emotionally while still loving God…

If you’ve ever wondered whether seeking help meant you weren’t faithful enough…

This letter is for you.

Because God and therapy are not competitors.

They can sit at the same table.

And healing often requires both.