This week on Thirty, Flirty, and Panicking, host Kelsey Murphy opens up about finally feeling ready to dip a toe back into dating after heartbreak last year — and who better to guide that conversation than Amy Nobile Messing, holistic dating coach, entrepreneur, and founder of Love, Amy.

After leaving a 20-year marriage and navigating the modern dating scene in her 40s, Amy cracked the code on intentional dating and turned her own transformation into a thriving coaching practice.

In this candid conversation, Amy shares why self-worth is the foundation of attraction, the four pillars of early dating, and why you should never confuse being chosen with being aligned. From mini “screener” dates to spotting red and green flags, her advice is equal parts practical and empowering.

Whether you’re dating after heartbreak, feeling timeline pressure, or just burnt out on the apps, Amy offers a roadmap to rediscovering joy in the process — and attracting the love you truly deserve.

✨ What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• -Why intentional dating starts with knowing your core values

• -How self-worth and vision intersect to unlock big love

• -The mini screener date strategy that saves time and energy

• -Key questions to ask on dates 1–3 that reveal emotional maturity and readiness

• -How to reframe chemistry

  -What to consider when it comes to intimacy

  -Top red flags AND green flags to look out for

  -How to know you're ready to get back in the game after heartbreak

• -Amy’s words of encouragement for anyone scared to leap into the unknown

• Let's do this together!