Is Al-Anon and 12-Step the best approach for families navigating their loved one’s addiction? The pressure to issue ultimatums or cut them off entirely can feel like the only path forward. But what if the advice you've been given is outdated, incomplete, not for you, or just wrong?

In this episode, Jane Mackey, CEO and founder of We The Village and certified family coach, challenges what families are told about loving someone through addiction, and how to move beyond the 12-step approach used in Al-Anon and Nar-Anon.

Jane found CRAFT (Community Reinforcement and Family Training) after desperately searching for real tools to help someone she loved, and has since built an accessible family coaching program around it.

Together, we get into:

• Why "tough love" and "rock bottom" became the default, and where they actually fall short

• The enabling myth: how to tell the difference between hurting and helping

• How to respond to their substance use without losing control

• Why cutting someone off makes it harder for them to get help and can reduce your influence over their recovery

• Whether CRAFT and 12-step can coexist, or if they're fundamentally at odds

• How families report feeling less anxious and depressed through CRAFT — even when their loved one never gets help

If you've ever felt like you're choosing between abandoning someone you love and losing yourself entirely, this episode is for you.

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🎙Guest speaker: Jane Macky, founder and CEO of We The Village