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Some people don’t want a relationship with you, they want access to you.

We sit down with Aubrey Blanche, founder of The Math Path, to talk about the relationships we outgrow and the ones that quietly turn harmful. We get honest about parasocial relationships, why people who barely know you feel entitled to opinions, and how the block button can be an act of clarity instead of drama. We also unpack the “fixer upper” pattern, survivor guilt, people pleasing, and the way privilege guilt can trick you into tolerating behavior you’d never recommend to a friend.

Then we zoom out and apply a consent philosophy to real life: friendships, dating, breakups, and workplace boundaries. We break consent into a simple framework (well-being, fully informed, free from coercion, ongoing) and talk about what it looks like to revoke consent early, before things get explosive. We also cover how to handle people who name-drop you professionally, how to stay truthful without doing extra labor, and why “I can’t speak to that” is sometimes the most respectful line.

We end with the bigger why: relationship quality is one of the strongest predictors of happiness and health. When you stop chasing approval and start choosing people who genuinely want joy for you, your body notices too.

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