Have you ever walked into a room and immediately felt the energy change?

Or spent time with someone and walked away feeling completely drained?

In this episode, I talk about what happens when people bring their bad moods, frustrations, and personal challenges into everyday interactions without considering how they impact everyone else.

We explore how easily moods can spread, and why being more YOU doesn't give you permission to be a doofus!

Through everyday experiences, from customer service encounters to conversations with my teenage son, I explore how our ‘state’, the words we choose, and even our timing can influence those around us.

And there's an unexpected lesson involving cold butter and raisin toast that might just change how you think about showing up.

Because it's not just about how you feel when you walk into a room.

It's about how other people feel after spending time with you.

Key takeaways:

o Why your energy speaks before you do, and what others might be picking up.

o The science behind how one person's mood can change an entire room.

o When does being authentically YOU become an excuse for being a doofus?

o The difference between being honest, direct, and confident, and taking it too far.

o Why the right words at the wrong time can have the little impact.

o What cold butter and raisin toast can teach us about how we show up.

o The question worth asking yourself about how people feel after spending time with you.

COURAGEOUS ME – THE BOOK

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SOMEDAY to TODAY – event 2027

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Where to find me:

Website: Kim Payne

LinkedIn: Kim Payne

Instagram: @iamkimpayne

Facebook: KimPayneBiz

What happens when you've built a successful career, everything looks great from the outside, but something inside tells you there's more?

In this episode, I sit down with mindset and leadership speaker Lucy Allen for a conversation full of hilarious stories, unexpected twists, and deeply personal moments about making the most of this one precious life.

From winning a TV game show to fund an overseas adventure to building a successful career in PR and marketing, Lucy has always had a knack for turning life's experiences into great stories.

But it was the heartbreaking loss of her mum that made her question what she really wanted from life and whether the career she'd worked so hard to build was still right for her.

Lucy shares the unexpected encounters, difficult decisions, and surprising twists that led her to build a business where she could finally be herself.

But even then, she discovered that being yourself and truly owning the value you bring aren't always the same thing.

It's a conversation about questioning the path you're on, backing yourself, and creating a life that feels more like you.

And stay till the end for an impromptu treat!

Key takeaways:

o What happens when the career you've worked so hard to build no longer feels right.

o How to recognise the gifts you might be overlooking because they come so naturally.

o Where to begin when you know you want something different but have no idea where to start.

o What keeps us clinging to the familiar, even when we desperately want to move forward.

o How waiting for one thing to happen can keep everything else on hold.

o What changes when you stop trying to fit someone else's expectations of who you should be.

o Why even successful, confident women can struggle to recognise what makes them extraordinary.

Find out more about Lucy Allen:

Website: The Graceful Collective

Instagram: @the_graceful_collective

LinkedIn: Lucy Allen

Podcast: The Lonely Leaders Club

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COURAGEOUS ME – THE BOOK

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SOMEDAY to TODAY – event 2027

Pop your name on the list and be first to know about the event in Melbourne AND Sydney in 2027.

Where to find me:

Website: Kim Payne

LinkedIn: Kim Payne

Instagram: @iamkimpayne

Facebook: KimPayneBiz

What if midlife was something to look forward to knowing your best years are yet to come.

In this episode, I sit down with physiotherapist and pelvic and sexual health educator and author Lisa Fitzpatrick for a refreshingly open conversation about midlife, our bodies, intimacy, ageing, and what happens when we start paying attention to what our bodies might be telling us.

We explore why midlife can bring old stories, unresolved experiences, and parts of ourselves we’ve pushed down bubbling back to the surface, and the connection between what’s happening physically and what might be going on elsewhere in our lives.

We also go into territory women aren’t always encouraged to talk about openly: Intimacy after 50, pelvic health, feeling safe in relationships, and the beliefs many of us have absorbed about becoming less sexy, desirable, or relevant as we age.

Lisa shares how her own experience of heartbreak during menopause challenged many of those beliefs and forced her to look differently at her body, her relationships, and herself.

And we explore why this stage of life doesn’t have to be about decline at all…and what might become possible when consider our best and sexiest years are ahead of us.

Key takeaways:

o What your body might be telling you beyond “it’s just menopause”.

o Why midlife can bring buried stories and unresolved experiences bubbling to the surface.

o The connection between feeling safe and what happens in your body.

o What women are rarely told about intimacy and pelvic health after 50.

o Why questioning the stories you’ve absorbed about ageing can change what feels possible.

o Why menopause is not merely a hormonal event, rather a profound threshold.

o Why your 50s could be when you feel your best and come fully alive.

Get a copy of Lisa’s book, Sexy Menopause.

Get in touch with Lisa:

Website: Lisa Fitzpatrick

Instagram: @thelisafitzpatrick

Facebook: Sacred Women's Business

LinkedIn: Lisa Fitzpatrick

Substack: Lisa Fitzpatrick

X: Lisa Fitzpatrick

COURAGEOUS ME – THE BOOK

Grab your copy of Courageous Me – The courage to turn someday into today.

SOMEDAY to TODAY – event 2027

Pop your name on the list and be first to know about the event in Melbourne AND Sydney in 2027.

Where to find me:

Website: Kim Payne

LinkedIn: Kim Payne

Instagram: @iamkimpayne

Facebook: KimPayneBiz

What happens after you finally do the thing you’ve dreamed about, worked towards, and poured everything you have into?

In this episode, I take you behind the scenes of what happened after one of my biggest dreams, my Someday to TODAY event, became real, and what I discovered when I finally came back down to earth.

Because there’s a side to doing big things we don’t talk about nearly enough.

I walk through the incredible high, the physical and emotional crash that followed, and how my inner critic turned a handful of tiny logistical comments into a reason to question the entire thing.

I share what happens when adrenaline disappears and why high achievers and perfectionists can be particularly vulnerable to the post-achievement crash.

And why the moments immediately after doing something courageous may NOT be the best time to critique how you went.

And once you’ve rested, recalibrated, and allowed yourself to appreciate what you’ve achieved... how are you going to leverage it?

Whether you’ve run an event, finished a huge project, launched something, stepped onto a stage, shared something vulnerable, or finally done something you’ve been putting off, this episode invites you to think differently about what comes next.

Because doing the big thing might not be the finish line, instead it might just be the starting point.

Key takeaways

o Why the emotional crash can come after you do the courageous thing, even when you nail it.

o What your inner critic can do when adrenaline, exhaustion, and perfectionism collide.

o Why waiting for things to settle can change what success, or the feedback, really means.

o The question that can turn one big moment into something with a much bigger ripple effect.

o Why doing the thing isn’t enough and what we often forget to do once it’s done.

SOMEDAY to TODAY – event 2027

Pop your name on the list and be first to know about the event in Melbourne AND Sydney in 2027.

COURAGEOUS ME – THE BOOK

Grab your copy of Courageous Me – The courage to turn someday into today.

Where to find me:

Website: Kim Payne

LinkedIn: Kim Payne

Instagram: @iamkimpayne

Facebook: KimPayneBiz

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How much of who you are today has been shaped by things that happened years, or even decades, ago?

A throwaway comment from childhood.

Years of being criticised or second-guessed.

A relationship where you gradually became less of yourself.

Or an experience that left you afraid to go after what you want.

In this episode, I chat with life and leadership coach and Author of Life After Divorce, Claire Adamou, to explore how these experiences can shape our confidence, identity and choices…often without us even realising it.

Claire shares what it took to leave a marriage in which she'd lost herself, and how, after 40, she rebuilt her life and took her career in a completely different direction.

We also explore the fears that can sit underneath even the most confident exterior and what can happen when you uncover where those fears really began.

And why courage isn't always about saying yes, sometimes, it’s knowing when to say no.

Key takeaways:

o What it takes to rebuild your life, confidence, and identity after divorce.

o How one seemingly insignificant comment from childhood can hold you back for decades.

o How starting again after 40 can take your life in a completely different direction.

o How years of criticism and second-guessing yourself can erode your sense of who you are.

o Why the confidence people see on the outside can be very different from what’s happening underneath.

o What can change when you uncover the real source of a fear you’ve carried for years.

o Why learning to say no can require just as much courage as always saying yes.

Get in touch with Claire:

Website: Claire Adamou

LinkedIn: Claire Adamou

Instagram: @claireadamou

Tiktok: Claire Adamou

Get Claires Book: Life After Divorce: From Surviving to Thriving

COURAGEOUS ME – THE BOOK

Grab your copy of Courageous Me – The courage to turn someday into today.

Where to find me:

Website: Kim Payne

LinkedIn: Kim Payne

Instagram: @iamkimpayne

Facebook: KimPayneBiz

What happens when you stop saying you’ll do something someday… and finally do it?

Recorded just two days before my first Someday to Today event, this episode is a very real look at what it feels like to be in the messy middle of bringing a big idea to life, before I know how the story ends.

I share the nerves and excitement, the mistakes and unexpected wins, and the lessons I didn’t see coming.

From confronting my discomfort with asking, to a rather spectacular ticket-selling blunder, to a photoshoot that revealed a side of myself I rarely see, this experience has stretched me in ways I never expected.

And as I watch nine other women say yes to doing something that scares them too, I’m seeing firsthand what can happen after you’ve said yes…when there’s nowhere left to hide, and you have to do the thing.

Key takeaways:

o What happened when one of my biggest personal challenges became impossible to avoid.

o The innocent wording mistake that completely backfired when I tried to sell tickets.

o Why an unexpected black-and-white photoshoot became one of the most confronting parts of this entire experience.

o What I witnessed when women who aren’t speakers stepped onto a stage to share deeply personal stories.

o The growth I never expected to experience before the thing I was preparing for had even happened.

SOMEDAY to TODAY – event

A one-day transformational experience for women who are done waiting for 'someday'.

Friday 9 October 2026.

Find out more and grab your spot here.

COURAGEOUS ME – THE BOOK

Grab your copy of Courageous Me – The courage to turn someday into today.

Where to find me:

Website: Kim Payne

LinkedIn: Kim Payne

Instagram: @iamkimpayne

Facebook: KimPayneBiz

What would you do if you knew you could fail?

If you knew there was a chance it might not work, you might not be brilliant at it, or things might turn out completely differently than you hoped, would you still want to do it?

In this episode, I explore how that one question has changed my relationship with failure, risk, and courage, particularly after spending much of my life as a high-achieving perfectionist who would sometimes rather not try at all than risk not being good enough.

I share some of the experiences that have challenged that thinking, including the freedom that comes from doing your best rather than being the best, writing my book, and now creating my first full-day event, Someday to Today.

I also cover what perfectionism may really be protecting us from, why self-doubt and imposter syndrome show up, and what changes when we stop needing all the ducks lined up before we move.

For me, the bigger question isn't whether something might fail.

It's whether the cost of never finding out has become greater than the risk of giving it a go.

Key takeaways:

o The one question that can completely change how you think about failure.

o Why the cost of never trying can eventually become greater than the risk of getting it wrong.

o What perfectionism may really be protecting you from.

o The surprising freedom in discovering that your best doesn’t have to be the best.

o How you can reframe imposter syndrome as something to move towards, not away from.

o How taking action can build the self-trust you can't create by waiting until you feel ready.

o What changes when you ask yourself: Would I regret failing… or never finding out?

SOMEDAY to TODAY – event

A one-day transformational experience for women who are done waiting for 'someday'.

Friday 9 October 2026, Sth Melbourne.

Find out more and grab your spot here.

COURAGEOUS ME – THE BOOK

Grab your copy of Courageous Me – The courage to turn someday into today.

Where to find me:

Website: Kim Payne

LinkedIn: Kim Payne

Instagram: @iamkimpayne

Facebook: KimPayneBiz