When Nancy learned that her niece had removed a single sentence from a family speech, one that acknowledged Nancy’s marriage and presence, it triggered a wave of old pain. What may seem like a small omission unearthed decades of erasure, advocacy, and exhaustion.

In this deeply moving conversation, we explore how one personal moment of being edited out becomes a microcosm of much larger cultural shifts. As stories of marginalized people are quietly removed from government websites, training programs, and public institutions, Nancy’s family moment reflects a collective trend: what gets remembered, and what gets deleted, is never neutral.

Together, we navigate the emotional toll of invisibility, the weight of lifelong advocacy, and the tender discernment it takes to speak up with care. Whether you’ve been left out of the story, or left someone else out, this episode offers a powerful invitation to return ourselves, and each other, to the circle.

Listener Takeaways:

•Erasure may not be loud,but it’s deeply impactful. Small omissions can reactivate deep emotional wounds, especially for those historically marginalized.

•Silence isn’t neutral. Bystanders and witnesses have power, too. A lack of acknowledgment can deepen the harm.

•Discernment is key. Speaking up doesn’t always mean confronting the whole crowd. Often, one honest conversation is what opens the door to healing.

•Advocacy fatigue is real. Especially for elders who’ve carried this work for decades. There’s wisdom in knowing how to keep showing up in ways that preserve your energy and dignity.

•Returning non-love with love is an act of sovereignty. It’s not about people-pleasing: it’s about transforming disconnection into care without abandoning yourself.

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What do you do when someone corrects you publicly, and their tone stings more than their words?

In this episode, Tarjia brings a deeply relatable dilemma: how to respond in the moment when someone interrupts, “clarifies,” or subtly shames you, especially when it’s someone in a leadership role. Together, we explore real-time language tools, nervous system regulation strategies, and relational repair practices.

This isn’t just about one group dynamic or one conversation: it’s about how to reclaim your voice when subtle power moves leave you feeling dismissed, small, or confused.

Whether you’ve ever felt stung by someone’s tone, shut down by an interruption, or unsure how to set boundaries without creating more conflict, this episode is for you.

SHOW NOTES

In this episode, we explore:

•What to say in the moment when someone interrupts or corrects you

•How to distinguish between your wise adult self and reactive younger parts

•Why certain tones of voice can feel shaming, even when the content seems neutral

•How to use the It sounds like… is that true? tool to re-center and clarify

•What to do when someone flips your feedback back onto you (that’s your issue)

•How to stay grounded in your dignity even when someone steps into a one-up position

•The emotional cost of always trying to care for others at your own expense

•What it really means to slow down for your most tender parts

Bonus: We also walk through a sample script for initiating a repair conversation without blame, without defensiveness, and without abandoning yourself.

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What do we do when the person who raised us is now emotionally volatile, resistant to help, and unintentionally casting us as the villain when we try to care for them?

In this heartfelt conversation, Diana brings forward the tender, painful challenge of loving her aging mother, who struggles with emotional regulation, trauma, and shame, and the deep inner conflict between wanting to offer support and needing to protect her own nervous system.

Together, we unpack:

•The emotional cost of parentification and role reversal

•How to stop being your parent’s regulator, therapist, or emotional manager

•What boundaries look like when withdrawal isn’t abandonment

•The grief and guilt that emerge when we start living our own lives

•Why “staying kind” sometimes means stepping away

If you’ve ever struggled with guilt around setting boundaries, or felt trapped between compassion and exhaustion in your family, this one’s for you.

For ongoing practice and deeper learning, join my monthly membership program. You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans.

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