What do you do when the people you love pull you in opposite directions?

In this episode of Conversations from the Heart, I speak with Liza, a mother who finds herself caught in a painful family dilemma. Her youngest son is in his first serious relationship, and his older siblings believe the relationship is unhealthy. They’ve drawn a hard line: if the girlfriend is present, they won’t be.

Suddenly Liza is standing in the middle, loving all of her children and feeling the pressure to choose sides.

This conversation explores a dynamic that shows up in almost every family at some point: triangulation. When tension arises between two people, a third person often gets pulled in to manage the conflict, absorb the anxiety, or solve the problem.

But what if the most loving thing we can do is step out of the middle?

Together we explore what it means to move from trying to manage everyone else’s relationships to standing clearly in our values and vision for the kind of family we want to be part of.

This shift can change everything.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why family conflicts often pull someone into the middle, and why that role is so exhausting

• How love and protectiveness can accidentally turn into control

• A powerful shift from trying to manage outcomes to standing clearly for your values

If you’ve ever felt responsible for keeping everyone happy, smoothing over family conflict, or holding a family together when others can’t meet each other, this conversation will resonate deeply.

Read more on the blog.

For ongoing practice and deeper learning, I warmly invite you to become a member of The School of Human Connection.

Twice a month, I host live calls where members bring real relationship dilemmas. We slow things down and I'll help you see what's actually happening and how to respond with more integrity, strength and care.

You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans.

Stay updated on new episodes and resources by subscribing wherever you listen to podcasts or visiting yvetteerasmus.com.

Here are more ways to connect with me:

• Join the School of Human Connection
• Hop on my free Wednesday live call
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What happens after you speak your truth… and someone disagrees?

In this episode, we explore how to stay grounded in yourself when your perspective isn’t affirmed, mirrored, or supported by others.

Through a live coaching conversation, we unpack:

•Why disagreement can shake our confidence, even when we felt clear before

•The difference between seeking support and outsourcing our self-trust

•How to choose whose opinions actually matter

•A powerful shift in how to ask for feedback that supports growth

•How to stay open to being wrong without collapsing into self-doubt

•What it means to stand in your values in uncertain and changing times

If you’ve ever spoken up and then questioned yourself afterward, this episode will help you reconnect with your clarity, your discernment, and your inner grounding.

Read more on the blog.

For ongoing practice and deeper learning, I warmly invite you to become a member of The School of Human Connection.

Twice a month, I host live calls where members bring real relationship dilemmas. We slow things down and I'll help you see what's actually happening and how to respond with more integrity, strength and care.

You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans.

Stay updated on new episodes and resources by subscribing wherever you listen to podcasts or visiting yvetteerasmus.com.

Here are more ways to connect with me:

• Join the School of Human Connection
• Hop on my free Wednesday live call
• Follow me on YouTube

In this episode, we explore a subtle but powerful question:

Are you regulating your emotions or silencing your needs?

When we’ve done a lot of personal growth, it’s easy to become highly skilled at managing anxiety, staying calm, and not “burdening” others. But in relationships, especially early dating, this can sometimes come at a cost.

In This Week's Call We unpack:

•How to handle anxiety and uncertainty when defining a relationship

•The difference between self-regulation and self-silencing

•What to do when a partner’s comments don’t quite land

•How to separate internal triggers from relational incompatibility

•Why “gathering data” matters more than rushing decisions

•How to have honest, vulnerable conversations without losing yourself

If you’re prone to overthinking, second-guessing your needs, or trying to stay “easy” in a relationship, this episode will help you reconnect with your voice, your clarity, and your self-trust.

Read more on the blog.

For ongoing practice and deeper learning, I warmly invite you to become a member of The School of Human Connection.

Twice a month, I host live calls where members bring real relationship dilemmas. We slow things down and I'll help you see what's actually happening and how to respond with more integrity, strength and care.

You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans.

Stay updated on new episodes and resources by subscribing wherever you listen to podcasts or visiting yvetteerasmus.com.

Here are more ways to connect with me:

• Join the School of Human Connection
• Hop on my free Wednesday live call
• Follow me on YouTube