After six years of surgical residency, I expected to leave with better technical skills. I didn't expect to leave without one of my defining personality traits.

In this episode of Cut & Tell, I share the story of how a formal complaint from a senior resident completely changed how I saw myself, and ultimately forced me to stop trying to make everyone happy.

We talk about:

• Why medicine attracts people pleasers
• How hierarchy can shape your identity
• Learning to have difficult conversations with patients
• The emotional toll of residency politics
• Why not everyone has to like you
• How losing my reputation helped me find my voice

If you're a resident, medical student, physician, or anyone who's struggled with conflict, perfectionism, or the need for approval, I hope this episode reminds you that sometimes the strongest version of yourself only emerges after disappointing someone else.

🎧 Subscribe for honest conversations about life after residency, surgery, identity, and building a career on your own terms.

Host: Liz Malphrus, MD

Connect with Liz: https://www.hippocratic-collective.com/members/liz-malphrus-md

IG: @dr.malphrus

Produced By: The Hippocratic Collective

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